Feeling Abandoned!  

macker1965 61M/43F
851 posts
4/7/2006 1:54 pm

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Feeling Abandoned!

Have you ever felt abondoned?

Silence, being ignored, just cut out?

It can be a painful experience. What did you do wrong? Was it something I said? Was it something I did? Or is it that I'm just not interesting anymore?

Funny how feeling like that can make you more conscious of how you treat other people; even how you may have mis-treated other people.


angelofmercy5 60F
17881 posts
4/7/2006 4:10 pm

Yes, I have felt this way before. But you know what Macker? Often times I have found that the person that I thought was doing this was just going through some things themself....and it was ME who imagined that I had done something wrong. I guess some of that stems from my being a "fixer"....and wanting everybody to be happy. But it does make me conscious that my own "pity party" can have long reaching effects!

hugs4uagain 40F

4/8/2006 6:59 am

felt it and feelin it hunni!

hugs xxxx

rm_goddess1946 107F
13518 posts
4/9/2006 5:42 pm

I have felt abandoned....many times in my life...
did some real serious work around that as a matter of fact.

Learned that I was not abandoned...not really...just chose
to see things that way then. I see things differently now
and know that we are all always in our perfect place...no
matter how that looks or feels in the moment

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...

jjsunshines 59F
20 posts
5/5/2006 10:37 am

I recently have been abandoned..left alone with no spoken words...I have no clue what or why it happened....it is like he disappeared in thin air...gone from me life....and the pain is incredible... I am trying deeply to not take this personally...that nothing he has done is because of me....that it is his own projections and reality that has made him be so cruel to walk away with nothing said...I can only hope that he can reflect back and learn to not mistreat others as he has me....that he too ...like meself... will learn a lesson from his actions.... how could anyone be so uncaring...so unkind....I still ask meself this everyday and may for the rest of me life....he will never know how much he has hurt me...how he robbed a part of me soul...I could say what goes goes around ..comes around....but I would not wish this on anyone.....even him....I hope no one ever hurts him as he has me..... *takes a deep breath and sighs*

macker1965 replies on 5/5/2006 11:15 am:

You're obviously very hurt by this experience and I can relate to that. The silence, the not knowing, the lack of some sort of explanation can, I know hurt more than if he'd simply explained why he had to leave. I hope that someday you meet someone who's love will so embrace you that it will heal all the hurt you feel and protect you from all the hurt that you could feel.


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