Why do we always want the ones that hurt us the most?  

luvrgurl20062 46F
4 posts
7/3/2006 4:58 pm

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8/13/2006 4:49 pm

Why do we always want the ones that hurt us the most?

'Why' is the question. There are many answers. Answers we don't want to hear. Answers that are not clear enough to be an answer. Answers we deny.

We always seem to want the ones that hurt us the most. You have someone show interest in you, and through instant messaging and then speaking on the phone, they make your heart skip a beat. They ask you to dinner. In conversation while dining, you think you are passing all of their tests with flying colors. They seem so intelligent, respectful, kind and caring. Every time you are getting ready to go out with them, butterflies are alive and nerves are out of control. The excitement is something that hasn't been felt in years until now. The heart was numb for so long but was ready to be alive again, ready to share again, ready for everything. The feeling of being "safe" when you are with this person is felt every time. But then, it happens. They start to appear to be someone else. The fog of being smitten is being lifted. Now the butterflies have died and sickness fills the void. Now the heart skips beats because they are not there when you need them and their stories are far fetched. But yet we continue on, knowing the torture will only get worse. We know we should end it, but don't thinking that they will be who you thought they were and their lies of how confused they are will turn into truths. We think the happy ending is just around the corner. But around the corner are the black holes. When we know the truths but their lies still keep coming, why do we continue on? We continue to have dinner, conversations, hugs and kisses and all the lies during those moments are forgotten. Why do we hurt for such a long period of time that is longer than the time that we tried to love them?

Know one really knows the answers.

rm_agathon12 47M
1311 posts
7/3/2006 5:35 pm

I'd guess that we don't want them because they hurt us but we are hurt because we want them, or wanted them as the case may be.

fishunt69 58M
92 posts
7/3/2006 9:49 pm

no one falls in love by choice,it is by chance.no one stays in love by chance it is by work.we all make our own beds and thats why sometimes we can't sleep.hope you find the one thats right cuz i know just how you feel and it really sucks bad

SexyNMyOwnWay 48M

8/4/2006 7:12 pm

Sometimes we think there's greater rewards on the other side of the pain, but in most cases it's just more pain. Our hearts always want to see past the pain until our heads decide to fill our hearts with the pain to the point that it becomes more than we can bear.

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