The Nuts Don't Fall Far From the Tree  

lustcurious42 57F
257 posts
6/12/2006 8:29 pm

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The Nuts Don't Fall Far From the Tree

By request, the positives in my life. The things that lift and soar my heart to heights never imaginable. It may surprise you at how simple they are........

My daughter (I’ll call her Girlie1) got her braces off last Monday. She smiled at me. I realized what a gorgeous young lady I have raised. She laid in bed and cuddled with me the other night, for just a moment, and we chatted about the break-up of her and her boyfriend. She said he dumped her because she wouldn’t put out. I thought “Oh YES,” Heaven above, oh hell yes. And realized in an instant I had done good, and she is different from her mother. When we went camping two weeks ago, my Girlies and I were walking down a trail, just the three of us. They were complaining about my choice in sandals (hey, they’re comfy and we’re camping but to be honest, I’d wear them on a date too!!). I said to my Girlies that I should have worn my thongs. My daughter, in a most disgusted voice replies “Flip flops, Mom. They’re flip flops.” And in the blink of an eye, she had whipped down her jeans, ass sticking out with a finger pointing to “it” and exclaiming for the world to hear “This is a thong. See that, this is a thong.” Hey, we called flip flops thongs when I was young……….. And at that moment in time I realized the nut doesn’t fall far from the tree.

I have raised Girlie2 as my own since she was 9. She is a year younger than my daughter. At one time, she would hardly say a word. She was in a world of insecurity. After 6 years, she is a different person for most purposes. I can’t imagine that I didn’t give birth to her, yet she is so different in personality from my other kids. She takes mothering of a different kind. While my other two need to be pushed to excel, she needs to be reminded to be a kid, that sometimes good enough is good enough. Life does not demand perfection. Yesterday, Girlie2 and I were in my down, radio blasting. Free Falling being sang at the top of our lungs, mom’s foot a little to heavy on the gas pedal. We both had grins ear to ear. How could life be any more perfect? What a positive moment when I realized that I have truly made a difference in a life. She will go far in her life, without a doubt. She is a beauty and has a drive to succeed that I have not seen. And I have taught her to have fun.

My son.....just the mere thought of him can bring a snarl to my lip or a grin to my face. It depends on the day. And yes, that nut doesn’t fall far from the tree either. He is probably the most like me, except for his lack of drive to succeed (can we claim that to be a trait inherent in men?). I remember a time he wanted a “to go” box for his one remaining spaghetti noodle. The waitress thought he was kidding. He wasn’t. He ate the noodle for breakfast the next morning. I took him to Vegas in March for his birthday. That’s when I knew he is the most like me. And I am the most like my mother. My son worked the crowd as we listened to the band. People came up and asked if we were “band promoters.” Heck no, we’re just having fun..... I want him to succeed as a man despite not having one in his life to show him the way. The last month or two, as I watch his journey taking on a new path, has brought more than a few smiles to my face. I am trying to learn to let go a little, to not smother. To let him stand tall. To give him the chance to make me proud.

The positives in these? I promised long ago that my kids would know unconditional love, no matter the conditions. I promised they would never wake and wonder if I had left in the night. I promised they would always have a home to call their own, one where they were welcome, one where they would never feel like a stranger. I promised that I would know whether or not my kids liked or hated coconut. I promised that we would have laughter and smiles a plenty. That was my simple goal in life. And I am the greatest success. So what you read in my other writings is a struggle as they grow and prepare to leave me one day all too soon, to find a connection with someone special in my life. It is not my end all. I love myself. I am happy being alone. My positives come in the mundane--the single moments that make up a day. My positives come in the smile of my kids, my friends that tolerate my silliness (and yes, I am blessed with some of the best friends in the whole world and I hope they know I wuv them). My positives come when I feel the breeze in my hair, the wind on my face, the squish of grass in my toes, the dog licking my face. Positives come in everyday moments of time, because that is where I choose to live.

Thank you for pausing me to reflect once again on what is good. For the most part, you won’t see this kind of writing here again. This is a place I generally don’t bring my family to, but just this once, so you get a glimpse of who I really am.............

rm_eatingu42 48M
118 posts
6/12/2006 9:25 pm

What a great entry. I hope that I can have a similarly close relationship with my son when he gets old enough, although the relationship between mother-daughter is no doubt not going to be anything like father-son, but your post does have my hoping I can be closer to my son than my father is to me.

Your thong story gave me chuckle though. We called those things on our feet thongs back in the day too, and when I mentioned something to a friend about wanting to pick up a pair of thongs for myself, I had to make sure he knew which kind I meant (guys don't often talk to each other about their choice of underwear, as you can imagine).

...hey, I want to go camping too...!

lustcurious42 replies on 6/12/2006 10:45 pm:
The truck is in the shop and not back until the end of the month (long sad story) but you know that you should just pick a weekend and we should do it!!!

lustcurious42 replies on 6/12/2006 10:52 pm:
p.s. I think you are a wonderful person with a kind heart, so I have no doubt you will have nothing but the best of relationship with your son!! You have priorities straight.

lustcurious42 replies on 6/13/2006 9:17 pm:
By the way, the sandals in the story saw a certain foam dance party one night..........

rm_neoquest2000 48M

6/12/2006 9:58 pm

Hi Lustcurious,

I really appreciate you sharing these great moments. You done good with the kiddos. They will respect you and support you when they are adults. You are right in the middle of the teen girl Unfortunately, I have no girls an will probably never experience first-hand this phenomenon. I have boys, lots of boys, keeps me on my toes. I will have to have two refrigerators to hold all of the food. Daily trips to Costco to stock the refridgerators.

In my previous post, I has asked for you to write some positives as I sensed sadness and loss. Thanks for writing this new post. It wasn't my intention to bring your personal family life into the picture. However, as you indicated, they are the crown jewels of your joy and happiness in life.

Thank you again, it takes a strong woman to be the captain of the family and household.

Now, back to all of the AdultFriendFinder topics...



lustcurious42 replies on 6/12/2006 10:50 pm:
When I thought about what I could write that was positive, this is what came to me. I guess it's my essence. I have other parts of my life that are bringing me smiles right now, but I'm not sure yet where those stories fit into my life story. I also haven't written about alot of my sexual experiences, like the squirt story, as I'm a little worried about what people will think of me and I know people from here. I've decided that I'm gonna write some more of those. Most of the stories are inspired by one person that I dated for a very long time and had an extreme comfort level with. And I knew what you were thinking about sadness and loss......I could read your lines. And I wanted to show the happy me....which is the me that people know in person but the only way it came to me in writing was the story that I wrote because that is what allows happiness to fall into my life in other areas, if that makes sense

goodatpoetry2 68M
16569 posts
6/12/2006 10:39 pm

Thanks. Personal stuff is nice.
You seem to have a great family. Lucky you!
Sorry about the short comment, but work calls.

lustcurious42 replies on 6/13/2006 9:18 pm:
Now I gots to know, whats a guy like you do?

nightis 54M

6/12/2006 10:40 pm

Hi Lusty:

It is ironic that I want to bring my boys into this story. They are pretty much all I am. All I have. That and my work.

Nearly every day, I consider telling about my boys, but I don't think it is a very appropriate place to do so.

Sometime, I may include them in a story, but this part of my life is separate from my boys at this time!

lustcurious42 replies on 6/13/2006 9:19 pm:
My story was more about me
But I know what you mean

Lonelyinkitsap 62M

6/13/2006 6:24 pm

Excellent post and insight into your daughters and son's life and how you have been successfull in raising them. Yes being a parent can be trying but the joy and your love for them overshadows all the bad. And doing this without much male presence only furthers my admiration for you and job you have done. Bravo!!

PS Yes we did call them thongs back in the day, guess we have to watch how we refer to things these days, never know what the kids have done with our language!!

lustcurious42 replies on 6/13/2006 9:19 pm:
See, and you guys thought I was just another sex freak!!

rm_neoquest2000 48M

6/13/2006 10:37 pm

    Quoting Lonelyinkitsap:
    Excellent post and insight into your daughters and son's life and how you have been successfull in raising them. Yes being a parent can be trying but the joy and your love for them overshadows all the bad. And doing this without much male presence only furthers my admiration for you and job you have done. Bravo!!

    PS Yes we did call them thongs back in the day, guess we have to watch how we refer to things these days, never know what the kids have done with our language!!
A Thong is a Thong is a Thong.....and so on...x!(n), unless you live in Thong, England.

OK, maybe call me a technical geek or something but the two (flip-flops & bikini bottom) may be related.

Ok the original "Thong" in my vocabulary was the sandal and it had a V-shaped strap that passes between the toes. Maybe...just maybe, someone compared the V-shaped strap to the skimpy bikini and saw a similarity? Similaryly the is referred to a woman's genetalia. As you can see the is the shape where the woman's abomen and legs connect.

Oooohhh deep thoughts by Jack Handy.....


Lonelyinkitsap 62M

6/14/2006 6:09 am

Lusty Wrote: See, and you guys thought I was just another sex freak!!

You mean you're NOT?????? Don't shatter my image and dream of you!!!!

lustcurious42 replies on 6/14/2006 7:49 pm:
Well, I am a little freaky.......but really in comparison to some, I'm not sure how much. I do need that man that brings that freak out in me and then it is there. But that is only one little facet of my being.......but there is nothing in the world better than a great...........O........O............O..........orgasm.

polarisbear49 55M

6/20/2006 9:07 pm

Ah what great posting! I can only hope I can have relationship with my daughter like yours, Lord knows I want to. She's 4 and has been watching her parents divorce for 6 months now. She is loving and kind 3 months ago she told me "It's OK Daddy you can get a new wife". Month after that she said I could have a girlfriend too!.
What a Kid!
Continued good luck to you

lustcurious42 replies on 6/20/2006 9:37 pm:
It's hard for them to understand. I still remember my daughter being 7 and asking me one day, "tell me again why you and dad had to divorce?" As long as they see you both happy, it all works out. Good luck to you!!

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