I Remember A Friend  

lund0069 48M
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3/20/2006 1:43 am

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I Remember A Friend

Today, I remember a friend who is no longer with us. I remember how he gave his wife and children strength even as his drained away. I remember the smiles that he gave me every time i visited him even as he fought a battle that he knew he never would win. I remember his gentleness, his kindness, his grace, his laughter, his twinkling eyes.

But my dear friend, as i sat on the beach today where we used to spend hours with our friends wiling our time away in youthful fun, i want to remember not those last days, but i wanted to remember the days of fun, the days of laughter, the days of mischief, the days of ideals, the days of epmty batter and the days of our youthful deliquence which the rest of us shall carry in our hearts for you.

Words do not flow like they should as I remember him. There is so much to say and think but they would just not translate into words.....

As we the withered ferns
By the roadway lying,
Time, the jester, spurns
All our prayers and prying --
All our tears and sighing,
Sorrow, change, and woe --
All our where-and-whying
For friends that come and go.

Life awakes and burns,
Age and death defying,
Till at last it learns
All but Love is dying;
Love's the trade we're plying,
God has willed it so;
Shrouds are what we're buying
For friends that come and go.

Man forever yearns
For the thing that's flying.
Everywhere he turns,
Men to dust are drying, --
Dust that wanders, eying
(With eyes that hardly glow)
New faces, dimly spying
For friends that come and go.


And thus we all are nighing
The truth we fear to know:
Death will end our crying
For friends that come and go

....Edwin Arlington Robinson

Juliet610 52F

3/20/2006 2:25 am

My condolences on the loss of your friend. One thing I've learned through the losses I've endured is that our loved one is never completely gone when we keep their memory alive.

The memories of the lazy afternoons you and your friend spent at the beach will warm you on a chilly night when you least expect it. Tell the stories of your delinquency to his children (if he has them), his parents, his siblings or others who will laugh as they learn about that side of him. Talk about your friend; it's the only way to keep his memory alive.

lund0069 48M

3/20/2006 4:35 pm

juliet and sassy,

thank u girls...just felt like getting it off the chest. it has been 2 years now and i still remember all the good times we had..... i see him in his 2 beautiful kids....charming young things, just like him.

we are all keeping his memory alive...and like sassy said, memories never die ...

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