The one question I'm afraid to ask....  

lovesps 57M
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3/5/2006 3:33 pm

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The one question I'm afraid to ask....


This will definitely be my goofiest post ever, but this feeling that I've backed myself into a corner on this issue has just snuck up on me, and I wanted to throw it out there.

I've been chatting with and meeting women on this site for a couple of months now, and they're smart and engaging and funny, but I haven't gotten up the nerve to ask this yet...

No, the question isn't about marital status, STD's, kids, sexual preferences, piercings, tattoos, whether they like bald guys, or anything like that. Actually, I think we've covered some of that.

The question is...what kind of music do you like?

See, a goofy question. But on my recent voyage of self-discovery here, I've discovered I'm kind of a snob when it comes to music. Not that there's a particular kind of music that I'm wedded to, but I love music. Love it. And I cringe when I think of getting an indifferent response, or somebody just into, say, oldies, or only classic rock, or whatever crap they spew on the radio.

Be "into" something, whether it's opera or classical, show tunes, techno, trance, hip-hop, world music, reggae, metal, emo (well, that's maybe where I draw the line..lol), punk, whatever...

I think it's the passion that music inspires that I'm looking for, and the pleasure it brings. If you cant't be passionate about pleasure, what will you be passionate about?

And, if you ask, I'll tell you what I really like.....

rm_melisiousxo 50F
182 posts
3/6/2006 1:40 pm

Not goofy at all. I find myself wondering about others musical preferences as well. I feel music is so ingrained into my being, I think to myself " do all people feel this way, or is it just me....being.. me?" There are times when I am instantly transported back to a time and place when I hear a song. Similar to the way people describe their memories of certain foods. I love that feeling, even if it is only for 3 or 4 minutes during my day. I can recall a day..not so long ago, listening to the radio at home..just the mundane Saturday morning chores..music blasting, my 4 year old coming out of her room screaming.."this is my favorie song" Never mind that it was the Black Eyed Peas..with Fergie singing about her "Lovely Lady Lumps" ( I love it too ) I stopped cleaning turned it up even louder...and we boogied our butts off. Another memory to add to the collection.

I have pondered the question..the one that gets asked..after too many cocktails..If you were on a desert island and you could only bring one..CD..what would it be? To me that is probably the hardest question anyone could ask.

So with that being said, I don't think it's a goofy question at all, especially if you are passionate about music. And hey, If you ask me..I'll tell you what I really like too. You just better not disagree..


lovesps 57M
32 posts
3/7/2006 12:05 am

I like My Humps, too. Or is it just Fergie I like? It seems like it was played on MTV every morning through November and December, so it sticks.

Ah, the desert island question. I'm not sure what the answer would be -- maybe a top 10? (I could smuggle the rest in in my skivvies?)

There'd have to be something rocking, from my youth. Where I grew up in the 1970's, Southern rock was the rage. Maybe Lynyrd Skynyrd's first album -- with Tuesday's Gone and Gimme Three Steps. Or the Outlaws, with Green Grass and High Tides.

In college, it would have to be either early REM -- with Seven Chinese Brothers and Don't Go Back to Rockville, or U2's War. Those to me have stood the test of time.

I can't think of anything worth keeping from the late 1980's -- did they even make music then? but I think one of the best records from the early 1990's was Dead Can Dance's "Toward the Within." Lisa Gerrard's traditional a capella version of The Wind that Shakes the Barley still curls my hair -- at least the hair on my arms. (lol)

How many's that -- 3 or 4? I think another recent rock fave of mine, now 10 years old, would be Garbage's first album, or even their second, or the Cranberries' first. I love albums where all the tracks are solid and there's no clunkers.

One album that's rattled around in my car for a few years is called Rare on Air, a live performance compilation from KCRW, a station in Santa Monica. I bought the first few and then they got harder to find here (a little bit outside LA), but the first one is great. It opens with this poem by Leonard Cohen, in his whiskey and gravel voice:

I heard of a man
who says words so beautifully
that if he only speaks their name
women give themselves
to him.

If I am dumb beside your body
as silence blossoms
like tumors on our lips,
it is because I hear a man
climb the stairs
and clear his throat
outside our door.

Good stuff, huh? There's also a completely heartbreaking song on it by David Wilcox called "My Old Addiction" about Chet Baker. The second CD has a couple of great songs on it by Lloyd Cole and Jackson Browne, and some fun stuff by Cibo Matto and others.

But compilations are probably cheating. So are soundtracks, I'll bet, because they're like compilations, too.

Recently, my tastes have diverged. I like Craig Armstrong, who writes movie music but also writes really lush, symphonic electronica. Listen to his version of "This Love" with vocals by Elizabeth Fraser of the Cocteau Twins and try not to feel...something: melancholy, lust? But I've been buying more remixes, more House, more Chill, too...the best, I think, out there now is Junkie XL but I saw a set last year by Miss Kitten (yes, a former French prostitute) that blew my socks off.

Well, melisious, I need to give your question a bit more thought -- this was off the cuff and I'm going to bed...


rm_melisiousxo 50F
182 posts
3/7/2006 12:35 pm

Jesus..if that was off the cuff..I'm afraid..very afraid


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