Does anyone ever need a break?  

lookin4fun2497 51M/42F
8 posts
5/18/2006 6:13 pm

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5/24/2006 4:47 pm

Does anyone ever need a break?

My boyfriend and I were having a lot of fun with the couples we met on here. This was initially my idea even though he had been in the lifestyle in previous relationships. Anyway, I guess even though I've had fun, I've also grown so close to him that now I don't want to share. He is very special to me and the best lover out of everyone. I am so happy where we're at in our relationship that I don't want anyone else joining for the time being. Just wondering if anyone has ever experienced anything similar? Just because it's called a "lifestyle" doesn't mean it has to be a constant, does it? My only fear now is alienating our new friends. Hopefully, they will still want to get together in the meantime even if it's a clothes on event.

angelofmercy5 60F
17881 posts
5/18/2006 6:31 pm

I think its wonderful that you are that much in love that you want to be exclusive. Your new friends will understand....if they are truly friends.

onlyfive 70M

5/18/2006 6:40 pm

If your boyfriend is a good person, he will respect this and give it a go. Of course, this "break" may become old for you or him, but you can deal with that as time goes on.

Your friends are a different story. Most people are here for sport fucking and not friendship or relationships. Most, not all. If all you do with these friends is have sex, they're not really friends, are they? If you have a social life as well with them and they get pissed, then you will find out if the social relation was just bullshit used to insure continuing sexual contact.

Of course, I'm just a demented old bi guy just this side of madness so you might want to shitcan my reply. I wish you luck and success.

sweetpea10003 49F

5/18/2006 6:44 pm

HI how are you doing? I know how you feel about this situation. Well Mine is a little different. I just got divorced. The man I was married too for 16 years cheated on me with the girl we brought in. Now the guy I am dating wants too have a 3some and I cant get past the fear that this may happen again. He keeps telling me I need too get past this and realize hes not my EX. It's a hard feeling too over come not too mention the fact I just don't want too share him. Anyway maybe you can give me some pointers on how too get past this. Thanks Sweetpea

rm_4no2drama0 42M
8 posts
5/25/2006 11:28 pm

Yep, I was the one in your position. I can relate, the most important thing is to talk to him and tell him what's on your mind.

If it's as good as you say, and it's meant to be, then things will work out. You have to talk about it though. PLEASE just don't ever assume a man will "know" something is wrong or diffrent. We need to be told when the rules change.

I agree W/everyone else, friends should be in it for more than the sex, if not you just thought they were friends.

Good Luck, No Drama out.

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