What am I doing wrong?  

lonelygirl6678 40F
177 posts
9/30/2005 8:14 am

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What am I doing wrong?

Ok so I meet a guy, we hang out, talk, fool around a bit and then...I make him feel guilty about his significant other and then he can't see me any more. Have to say guys, that hurts even when you're not emotionally attached. Ouch...and people wonder why I have no ego, lol.


9/30/2005 9:28 am

You're not really doing anything wrong. Just a bad mindset. You just need to develop a little thicker skin. If you're looking for something long term then you need to communicate that for sure and hopefully weed out the ones who will run.


9/30/2005 11:32 am

I still think you have to go in with the same attitude. I imagine you would at least like to have some level of friendship with the guys at least to have more than one encounter. There are plenty out there who will still take advantage of that situation. Email me if you'd like to chat further.

BournCoalsLasso 35M

9/30/2005 12:49 pm

lonelygirl--i like that you know what you want. too frustrating and childish when that isn't the case.

if youre interested, reach me on aim -- same as my name

rm_ucum4menow69 43M

9/30/2005 1:36 pm

Very well put blueman. If they are iffy from the start, the sex isn't gonna be hot. With all the feedback you are getting lonely you are destined to hit off with someone. Hope to be that someone soon.

rm_KinkyMnVA 37M

10/2/2005 4:14 pm

Hopefully you can split some of that time up between all these trying to get with you, little miss popular

rm_Superman15 50M
6 posts
10/3/2005 7:31 am


I would be more than interested to talk to you sometime and get together if you'd like. I think I am just what you're looking for *lol*.

rm_mistrwoody 46M
10 posts
10/3/2005 8:15 am

Don't think you did anything wrong. Seems like maybe you weren't what he was looking for to fulfill his online thing, or he just really did feel guilty. Trouble on this site seems to be a)people not being serious about what they want, b)not being able to just communicate honestly about what they want, or c) not realizing even though EVERYONE here that is real is here for sex, but we are all still people and shouldn't be treated like doormats. I have to also agree with bluman and truman on there posts. but hey, you shouldn't have a problem finding someone to help keep you occupied. I've been trying to talk to you since you moved, lol. Hope everything is well.

rm_ucum4menow69 43M

10/5/2005 7:34 am

A girls got needs right.........understandable, but at same time a little contradicting with you being married. Think I speak for most gents on here. Most married women are on sites like this because they are not getting something at home. We guys think it's dick your missing. Therefore everyone is just out for sex.........it's after the sex that 2 people decide they want to continue thier relationship in a direction "they" choose.

You seem like a happy person, but I think deep down you're not. You have a great personality right now. Would love to see it when you are happy inside and out...........lonely I'm about to slip into a coma right now...pill is kickin my ass..........lol

rm_jager694 48M

10/6/2005 6:53 am

I tend to agree with most of the responses, lonely. You are outwardly looking for a physical relationship, but inside you want an emotional one as well because you're not getting one from your spouse. For that I am sorry. Like most married men on this site, I'm not getting any physical satisfaction at home, but emotionally we're fine. I wish you luck in sorting something out with hubby.

I agree with you on "our" Steelers. Hope to see them at the Super Bowl!

rm_ucum4menow69 43M

10/6/2005 8:54 am

As long as those Steelers play these Falcons we'll both be happy. Think they have to get through Indy and Philly though. Understand your situation though......was in your shoes 2 yrs. ago. Think mine was worse though. Eventually realized I had to make myself happy.

Well I'm not one to kiss and tell, but since you put it out there here goes. Glad to give you a proper welcoming to VA, and hope to keep you smilin and cummin......lol. Oh and thx for the testimonial, would give you one if I could.

davexxx11 67M
109 posts
10/7/2005 7:31 am

Lonely, you need to get with me. Sex is good, but it is not always what's really needed. I know, I want sex just as much as the next person, but that's not all I want. I want some companionship too! It really sounds to me like you need an "affair". Being married, we wouldn't normally get too emotionally involved, however with an affair that's what it's all about. With an affair there is a light attachment to each other. You provide the mental as well as physical attachment that each other need. Just what you are not getting at home. You need someone you can talk to who will listen to what you have to say. You need to be hugged, fondled, kissed and a whole lot more. I'm in a situation similar to you at home and I need someone too. Lets you and me get together and see if we are what the other need....mentally and physically. Hit me up!

rm_ucum4menow69 43M

10/7/2005 11:49 am

Very understandable lonely....dave said it best with "affair". People have them because they are in it for more than just sex. If they just wanted sex it would be a fling. All women need "affection", and judging from our conversations it is what you are lacking most in your marriage. Enjoy your weekend, and I'll hit you up Monday sexy.

I gotta go there..........how do guys think they are gonna hook up with a woman on here when they have a pic of them drilling another female on thier profile? Are women like lonely attracted to that?

rm_Kizersoze23 47M
1 post
10/12/2005 3:52 pm

Great comments so far. Good advice and points of view. Men and women love the extra "ATTENTION" that is needed, espically when we forget with our significant others. We all desire to be flirted with and thought of many occasions. We crave and sometimes seek this attention. I love the thought of having someone else to be able to share and fun flirty side as well as a great companion and "friend with benefits". I would love to be able to share that with you, even though you are STEELERS, I would still be able to support ya. I hope to hear from you soon. Take care.

rm_adultsex4u2 68M
4 posts
10/13/2005 11:28 am

Have you had any new meetings since you started with the question? If so, has any of the advice here been helpful?

rm_ucum4menow69 43M

10/13/2005 3:26 pm

" Who is Kizersoze?" .............Great movie.

Alright back on subject now. Your weekend sucked, but not as much as my week lonely. Been a rough one here. Next week it's on sexy

rm_ucum4menow69 43M

10/18/2005 7:00 am

Next week is here lonely ;P

rm_nc_kramerica 48M
18 posts
10/26/2005 12:05 pm

Hmmmmmmm....at the risk of sounding like a pill, lonely you seem like a great woman. And you're only 27. Maybe I'm a hopeless romantic, but have you really looked at why your hubby isn't the same person you married? Often it's something very trivial, and I'd say is always worth exploring.

With that said, there are plenty of guys around like you said who would appreciate the fact that you are married, and feel secure in putting forth the effort to make you feel appreciated. Affection is great! Must say I agree wholeheartedly that it's worth looking for.

Ok and I'm not quite sure that a guy with a pic of him holding his dick can make a good comment on another pic, but hey that's just my opinion. Especially when we are talking about sensitivity and affection here...what woman would consider a guy sensitive who's holding onto his penis??? Just like with breasts...if that's the best a guy has to put forth.....woah boy look out...it's all downhill from there!

rm_ucum4menow69 43M

10/27/2005 1:35 pm

^ Is that sensitive enough for you nc?^

This is an adult site, where correct me if I'm wrong, people are mainly looking for sex. You want to just chat go to yahoo. You were better off not bringing me into this. ^She^ might have gave you a shot before this. Talk about her not me, after all it is her blog.

I only commented on the other guys pic to suggest he change it to better his luck. ^She^ seemed to agree with me on this subject. I don't see nothing wrong with his pic....if he was trying to hook up with couples. Like she said though, it is a little intimidating for just a woman.

About 80% of this site has nude profile pics, guess you haven't noticed that. Guess you have a few insecurities if that's the only pic you have. Like I said before I'm not here to chat with you cowboy, so you will get no response after this.

Thx lonely love seeing you squirm over and over again.............lol


11/16/2005 9:06 pm

Good points nc. Not what most want to hear, but actions speak louder than words.

4play4her 41M

11/17/2005 12:46 am

Your attitude from the beggining of this blog has certainly perked up a bit. Glad to see you turning a new leaf and talking or ummm ya know to more people. If you like to ride, motorcycles that is, drop me a line on here.


pentup67 62M

11/18/2005 6:02 pm

How does one get an application. I'm ready to go to work saturday night.

1 post
11/20/2005 3:35 pm

Lonely, sounds like you and I have something in common. We're both married and don't get something we want. I understand you want more than just sex, but how much more? Do you just want affectionate sex (i.e. sex with some passion)? Or are u looking to have more. If you're interested I might be able to help. I'm not talking about leaving my spouse but I am interested in fulfilling your needs for affection. Let me know!

rm_ucum4menow69 43M

11/23/2005 9:36 am

Yeah guys don't be shy.....great personality, very easy to talk to.

Found out yesterday I need a 2nd surgery this Friday, looks like I will start all over again....

Will be out of commission till Jan/Feb. sexy..........sorry

rm_whaticando2 45M
1 post
11/23/2005 3:27 pm

I have not heard back from you...I would love to know if you are interested???

angelic11976 41F
14 posts
11/30/2005 8:50 am

ok i was just looking at ur profile and saw this....so dont take the wrong way ok..........Have u ever heard of KARMA? first of all YOU are married and u are messing with married men...(wish u did girls though u are hot) what can u expect? this is a SEX site.....maybe the man just wasnt feeling you...or didnt feel the chemistry......maybe it was him feeling guilty........but maybe it was something saying hey this isnt right....i mean i am sorry u r not gettin it at home...but if it is that bad, then get a divorce.......karma is a motherfucker and well what goes around comes around........(and while i know a ton of people will probably cuss at me for this....u know this is true....) but hey if u ever get a divorce and want to be with a woman.....let me know.........

angelic11976 41F
14 posts
11/30/2005 8:58 am

oh and while i know chilren are involved.......they are not yours...and what service are u providing either of them? um i have kids and i have been in serious relationships.......but i wont stay just for kids....kids feel and know a lot more than u think.....so i say u are trying to find a companion to slide in after you get the guts to leave...and personally u r looking in the wrong place....unless im wrong and u can find a decent relationship on here.........(sorry about preaching) i just hate it when people cheat........thats FOUL but to each their own of course.....

angelic11976 41F
14 posts
12/2/2005 5:01 pm

ok i have plenty......when r u ready......damn i thought u were gonna be mad........LOL its just i know how hard it is to stay somewhere where no one is happy.........so anyways......got plenty of men willing u are incredibly (sorry spelling) hot and well i guess id break my rule to fuck you.......lol

rm_ucum4menow69 43M

12/6/2005 9:37 am

Easy there lonely, sounds like you need to release some serious sexual frustration. Don't make me hop my 1 legged ass over there......lol.

Angelic sounds like she is more than willing to help you out, and open your sexual horizons for the time being. Did you tell her you haven't been with 2 guys in a 3some yet? Did I say that outloud?! LMFAO

Just sounds like you've had some bad luck here lately sexy. Keep your head up.

So Angelic what's this rule of yours you'd be breaking?

angelic11976 41F
14 posts
12/6/2005 7:12 pm

so whats up....im pretty much down.u dont have to do anything lonely.ive turned girls out many a time.so thats cool.long as id have some willing man to fuck me from behind while i fuck u.............

rm_ucum4menow69 43M

12/7/2005 11:59 am

Thought angelic had some guys..........and you never answered my question angelic?


If you 2 can't arrange nothing in the next 30 days, guess I will have my way with you. Cast is coming off 1st week in Jan. Should be good after that hopefully.

Tried to call just a little while ago, went to voicemail. Will try later or tommorrow I guess. Not sure if you had company or if cell might have been dead. Talk to you soon.

angelic11976 41F
14 posts
12/7/2005 6:34 pm

ok dont mean to sound stupid but........um sexyman there.(well i dunno if u r hot UCUMFORMENOW) but i will take lonelys word for it....BUT my question is.......why does a broken foot or whatever u have have to do with two girls sucking ur cock? i mean ......she can ride ur face and i can ride..............hmmmmm damn just got wet......LOL im so easy.......lol so lonely....does he know how to use that tongue ring?

angelic11976 41F
14 posts
12/8/2005 6:11 am

what we cant CUM to him?
hey check out that other blog thing u have and see what i did this past weekend.............um krass would love to hook up with us both if ur friend cant and let me tell u....HE IS WORTH THE DRIVE TO MANASSAS,.........i mean he came to see me.but......can i say road trip.....hes so fuckin hot.his picks do not do him justice....

rm_ucum4menow69 43M

12/8/2005 7:54 am

Getting a little hot in here ain't it? As for my ankle, I can drive it's my left ankle that broke. I have an automatic, and only need my right foot to drive.

Just like being in control and giving a 100% when it comes to SEX. More than willing to be a slave for the 2 of you though. Thanks for the flattering remarks lonely. As for the tongue ring, I had left it out for 2 weeks after surgery. They made me take all piercings out. Just found a spare, very surprised it went back in after not having one in tht long. As for the nips, they closed up already.

I am tied up through this weekend, spending time with son. Pretty much open during the days next week, and have next weekend free maybe. Guess I will let you 2 go from there, just let me know. My email is zackaryder69 on the big Y angelic.

Don't think she will travel angelic, she's mentioned that before. Maybe your boy Krass can come down sometime, and help fulfill her fantasy I mentioned earlier. Sounds like we could have some fun.

Lonely I bet this blog starts lighting up now.........watch...lol.

SpursWaverTryst 59M
8 posts
12/8/2005 2:01 pm

Hey...well, it all depends on what you both establish as the groundrules for going into this relationship. If you both can accept that one/both are married and have to keep those considerations in mind yet want to have as much fun and togetherness as time/life will allow...even if it's not just fucking...then I'd say it's worth the shot... Frankly, I'd LOVE to run into a nice lady that I could spend time with, not have to worry about explaining everything I'm saying and not feeling like I have be miranda'd every time I say something to her......

angelic11976 41F
14 posts
12/9/2005 7:31 am

oh hell yeah can we say foursome???????????? um he will be coming on fri the 16th and will have a room (so far is the plan) so whats up.yall email me r something

insolentone2 39M

12/15/2005 9:32 am

damn, no fair.. I wanna play too haha..

rm_ucum4menow69 43M

12/15/2005 5:33 pm

I'm game.....open Sat, possibly Sun. Will e-mail you.

Sorry I haven't replied in a while, hard drive crashed on me last week.

rm_ucum4menow69 43M

12/16/2005 6:13 pm

you know you can get out lonely.............lol.

rm_2scoops2005 32M

12/18/2005 12:02 pm


B0wflex 44M
294 posts
12/18/2005 5:51 pm

So lonely, did you find a solution to your problem? Can't believe you would convert someone into thinking about how they should go back to there significant other. With a butt like yours I probably would have tagged it then left... lol jk. But seriously a woman makes me feel special the last thing I'm thinking is someone else. He must have been thinking about this way before you guys met anyway, so don't blame yourself.

rm_jwill151 35M

12/21/2005 2:50 pm

So lonely whats the requirements with your sexy ass

iwill69u2005 51M
1 post
12/27/2005 1:40 pm

Hey lonely, I'm interested. Maybe I can fulfill the void that has been lost until he recovers or hell maybe I'll even take his place.


mrblacknasty 43M
1 post
12/27/2005 8:07 pm

i dont think you have a problem its that you both have others to play the role with. if you are getting the sex you need then the affection is there as much as can be given at that time live for the moment that you are haveing a good org. if the man in the boat is happy
keep smileing

Sethandsunny 52M/52F
119 posts
1/1/2006 7:14 pm

Well, we are a well adjusted couple who have had two ladies who we had threesomes with..one found true love, and is with her one and only guy now, and the other had a change in her relationship with her husband,but if you'd like a couple that has affection to give but respets boundares and has no regrets call us


West End, Richmond, Henrico, Glenside, Virginia, Shortpump

rm_cp69man4fun 61M

1/13/2006 4:59 pm

i suggest not talking about the other partner or mate. Both you and he knows that there is another so its open but when you are together make one another feel like they are the only ones on the planet

insolentone2 39M

1/17/2006 10:18 am

I suggest that when the guy walks in you just get on your knees and pull his pants down and go at it. All that talking just gets in the way.

rm_male_in_va 46M
22 posts
2/1/2006 2:02 pm

Hi Lonelygirl, where does the line start? LOL

I'd love to be the meat in the Angelic/Lonely sandwich! I also enjoy having sexy, flirty, open minded women to talk to online So if you even just need a chat pal let me know. GotinDrachenhart is the nick I use on most all my chatting programs.

ucome4menow....dude, hope you heal up, that has GOT to suck!!

insolentone2 39M

2/4/2006 11:04 pm

Hmm.. maybe. Hmm.. if they ever short me hours I'll see if I can pick-up a shift over there.

insolentone2 39M

2/7/2006 7:00 am

Only if they catch it on tape. Speaking of.. haha.. we had a girl get her ass beat in the parking lot the other day by her old roommate. Dumb thing was the girl beat her down in togo. So it's all on tape. Man I hate dumb ghetto people.

Anyways.. I think it's about time for you to write a new post.. we're almost on page 4 here... Takes too long to get to it.

DscreetMaleAiea 41M
1 post
3/10/2006 2:11 am

lonelygirl6678 are you still looking for company? i would love to see if we click i am not a member anymore so i'd have to contact yuo on some other program in order to trade pics and what not... 29 male aiea.. let me know if you are interested...

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