Nice Guys vs. Bad Guys  

rm_lockestryfe 37M
63 posts
3/14/2006 6:57 am

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3/16/2006 9:05 am

Nice Guys vs. Bad Guys

I recently read mzhunyhole's blog entry, [post 269756] which is about how bitches/bad girls get more guys then cutiepies/nice girls and left this comment...

(With some spelling corrections... and some color coding... geez I need to proofread better...)

The same goes for us guys too MzHuny. I just had this huge discussion with a friend about how nice guys finish last. If a nice guy goes and gets a bitch, the relationship won't last, unless either the bitch settles down, or the guy becomes an ass. I believe in changing yourself to meet the needs of the person you want to be with, but something like that changes your whole personality. Nice guy to asshole in a month? You shouldn't have to change every aspect of your life, just the minor things that help smooth out problems that might occur.

Personally, I fall for both. As long as I can talk to you, and you actually listen, you've got me wrapped around your finger.

If I fall for a bitch, then I'll help her tone the bitchness down to a tolerable level, not changing her personality, which is why I'd be with her, but enough for me to be able to live with her, and not have my balls cut off. And in living with a bitch that long, that I might actually grow a little bit of intestinal fortitude.

If I fall for a nice girl, then we'll help each other come out of our shells, and thus we both grow a little intestinal fortitude, cause there are situations were you have to step up to the plate if you wanna keep a relationship, and you've gotta have guts to do it.

And no... I didn't mean to put a whole blog entry here either... My fingers went as fast as my brain just now...

Now that I've got it in my own blog (sorry MzHuny) I can give even more thoughts.

I talk about how you shouldn't have to do a 180 with your personality, aka Nice guy to asshole in a month? yet I also say You shouldn't have to change every aspect of your life, just the minor things that help smooth out problems that might occur. Is this contradicting? I mean, If you change yourself at all then are you the same person that the person you hooked up with, hooked up with? I don't know. I know that people change, and that relationships that are ment to last will have both people changing together, to mold them into one, hence marriage, but still. Now that I've stopped and thought about it, it's kinda confusing me...

What do yinz think? Is it okay for you to change yourself completely to be with the one you want to be with forever, is it okay to change yourself a little bit, or shouldn't you change yourself at all?

My inquiring mind wants to know...

Talk to yinz lata...

julie4daddy34 46F
599 posts
3/14/2006 10:21 am

I say be yourself. If you change yourself completely for someone then your being someone your not. I can see changing little the type of shoes you wear, or pet peeve things, stuff like that. And I just wanna add...after reading sexymaiden's eyes are tired lol.

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