A secret ....  

lithiumrose 39F
260 posts
8/3/2006 8:02 am

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8/6/2006 6:08 am

A secret ....

Someone once said to me " when sex is bad its good but when its good its bloody marvelous. "

I have had lousy ones. Good ones. and Bloodly Marvelous ones. But the Bloody marvelous ones are as rare as a blue moon.

Now, remember - I have had many lovers - some are in the past, and some are still on-going lovers. Of course, I still get guys who said they won't do me because, I don't have experience yet. This comes from guys who are certainly older than me and who thinks anyone younger than 30 lack of sexual experience.

You don't have to be over 30 to be sexual experienced. You can be a hot babe at the age of 40 with hot body and you might be a bloody plank on the bed. Or you can be a 35 yrs old woman who might never had sex before.

What I love to do in bed is not only sex. I love to touch. It doesn't have to be sexual. I love to cuddle. I love to caress. I even love to hug and give little kisses on the neck or head or lips.

But I sure love kissing. I found it to be one of the nicest things to do. Sex and no kissing is weird. Trust me - it just makes you feel so bloody used. I asked one of my lover about it and he said it is the most intimate thing two lovers do, and certainly the best. Making love is nice but kissing gives the zest to the whole thing.

Other than kissing and caressing and hugging/cuddling, I love to talk. I could be lying on the bed, reading a book, and talk. I would talk anything that comes on my mind, and I prefer the person talk to me too. I get bored when the person before me has nothing to say or doesn't really stimulates my mind.

I met a guy - he was possibly 45 yrs old, and he said I was too young for him. And we talked. Funnily enough, he said my thinking was mature, but on my end, I was thinking "God, when would this end....?" I may act a little blonde and daft, but I am certainly not either one of those. Interestingly enough, I think my age was a turn off for him. Lucky me. LoL.

No offence to him, he is a nice guy. I just wasnt attracted to him, nor did I liked him saying to someone else that I had been calling him all the time.

Phone calls. I don't really like calling people much. I would call someone I like or fancy, someone who made me laugh and well, it's handy really, to find out where the person is currently located when you are on a date with the person and can't find them. There are a few people I call on occasional basis, and there are a few that calls me because a) they are in another country b) I text them all the time c) No idea why anyone wants to call me



Last but not least, intimacy in bed is never good when you don't share a smile or a laughter. I like to giggle or laugh, depending on the occasion. No, I am not mad. It could be a joke am laughing to or a tickle that makes me giggle. And a smile, well, it is as good as kissing. I do love to smile after a kiss. It's like sharing a secret.... A sweet secret.


IviesBidesJuste 56M
3658 posts
8/3/2006 11:47 am

This is a very nice post on your thoughts.
I have to agree on just about everything you have said.

The amount of experience a person has, regardless if they are under 30 or not has no nothing to do with it at all. I have dated women my age and older and you are right. Some just lay there like a corpse. I prefer a lover that has passion, and we end up making a mess in the process, no matter what room of the house we are in.

I'm like you in many aspects. There is nothing like being a little playful, talking to each other, holding, kissing, etc.


lithiumrose 39F

8/3/2006 5:39 pm

    Quoting IviesBidesJuste:
    This is a very nice post on your thoughts.
    I have to agree on just about everything you have said.

    The amount of experience a person has, regardless if they are under 30 or not has no nothing to do with it at all. I have dated women my age and older and you are right. Some just lay there like a corpse. I prefer a lover that has passion, and we end up making a mess in the process, no matter what room of the house we are in.

    I'm like you in many aspects. There is nothing like being a little playful, talking to each other, holding, kissing, etc.
Glad you thought the same way too.

And it is always nicer to kiss and hug someone in your arm and talk than to hump like mad too. Then, falling asleep in their arms is also the nicest things


LeninRuntsBurrs 43F

8/4/2006 6:20 am

sweet lith, i know and completely understand what u r saying.


lithiumrose 39F

8/5/2006 1:18 am

    Quoting LeninRuntsBurrs:
    sweet lith, i know and completely understand what u r saying.
Hugs it's good when all my lovers loves cuddling and kisses and talking, and tolerate me when I am trying to hog the poor bed or the blanket or trying to climb on them while sleeping.... lol

Cheers


IviesBidesJuste 56M
3658 posts
8/5/2006 4:02 pm

    Quoting lithiumrose:
    Glad you thought the same way too.

    And it is always nicer to kiss and hug someone in your arm and talk than to hump like mad too. Then, falling asleep in their arms is also the nicest things
Last night (Friday), I had a repeat meeting with a member I hooked up with last week. We had fun our fun, but afterwards we just lounged on the bed for almost 3 hours just talking about intellectual stuff.

Just laying around talking and listening makes for a nice quiet time all by itself.


IviesBidesJuste 56M
3658 posts
8/5/2006 4:05 pm

    Quoting lithiumrose:
    Hugs it's good when all my lovers loves cuddling and kisses and talking, and tolerate me when I am trying to hog the poor bed or the blanket or trying to climb on them while sleeping.... lol

    Cheers
oh yea, forgot to mention. We decided to hook up again last night because it was a "Bloody Marvelous One" (again).


lithiumrose 39F

8/6/2006 6:08 am

    Quoting IviesBidesJuste:
    oh yea, forgot to mention. We decided to hook up again last night because it was a "Bloody Marvelous One" (again).
Ohhhh fun Glad to know it was a Bloody Marvelous One


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