What's wrong???????????  

lissi888888 53F
1330 posts
8/2/2006 8:56 pm

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11/2/2006 8:26 am

What's wrong???????????

I had my best friend email me today and tell me just what I've said over and over to others. It was odd hearing it from her. All I could think was here I am over 3000 miles away from her and she needs me. She needs someone (me) to sit there and play scrabble with her over a couple glasses of white wine and some chat. She needs (me) someone who loves her no matter what that will make her feel happy for a little while. Going there isn't feasible...and calling when she and I are NOT at work doesn't happen until the weekend....then we both have lives/families as well. Living this far away is rough. I miss her so much that it's not even funny.

I got her email today and actually knew just from the way she had typed that something was wrong. Can you do that with the people you know well? Just see by how they type what they type that something isn't kosher? So I asked "what's wrong?"

I knew I wasn't the only one who had such a negative attitude about finding someone that might be my companion...someone to share with. *sigh* It turns out she has given up. She has handed the issue over to her God and won't spend anymore time dwelling on the issue. I understand where she's at. I've been there. I'll listen and I'll just let her do what she can when she can. No matter how much I want her to live life...and forget about the ideal she has of the "perfect man". I can't change her. She is just that way.

So (I asked myself after her email to me) What's WRONG????????? And I responded to myself, not a damn thing as far as I can see. Life is either gonna get you and keep you down OR you're gonna take it by the horns and kicks it's lily white ass. Cause, damnit, that's the way it has to be. Isn't it?

Have you ever given up on finding your ideal person?

Do you believe in THE ONE (that person who is perfect for you) or are there just many ones that are THE ONE OF THE MOMENT along the winding road called your life?





shybutneedinit 48F

8/3/2006 5:11 am

well I am hoping that "the one" is out there for me somewhere. Someone who I can laugh with, cry with, tell my deepest secrets too, someone who will listen. I know he exists, I just have to keep searching I guess.


ZZ_Todd 60M

8/3/2006 6:05 am

Nope! I'm not giving up... although I'm not really "searching" per se, I'm not giving up on the idea that my "ideal person" might eventually find me.


SirMounts 103M

8/3/2006 8:00 am

Lis...
No, only if the situation is genuinely impossible, should one ever give up hope about any good, or right outcome. And the test of time can tell us many things... but it is wise to remember that some things require more time, than others.


lissi888888 53F
1401 posts
8/7/2006 6:33 pm

    Quoting rm_mzhunyhole:
    I'm 55 hun..and I ain't never giving up..he's on that road and I am too and sometime..somewhere..we are gonna meet..I know that with all my heart.
Mzhuny...you have such an upbeat attitude...I know you will find him ...I just know it.


lissi888888 53F
1401 posts
8/7/2006 6:36 pm

    Quoting shybutneedinit:
    well I am hoping that "the one" is out there for me somewhere. Someone who I can laugh with, cry with, tell my deepest secrets too, someone who will listen. I know he exists, I just have to keep searching I guess.
Shy....I always like to think that there is "the one" for everyone.


lissi888888 53F
1401 posts
8/7/2006 6:44 pm

    Quoting ZZ_Todd:
    Nope! I'm not giving up... although I'm not really "searching" per se, I'm not giving up on the idea that my "ideal person" might eventually find me.
Now see Todd...you think like me. I won't actively search but if 'the one' found me I'd be happy as heck. I have such a bad attitude about such a "relationship" that I wonder sometimes if I would know them when they came callin' though...and they'd have to be damn special to be able to see past my attitude to who I am inside and convince me...sad eh?


lissi888888 53F
1401 posts
8/7/2006 6:49 pm

    Quoting SirMounts:
    Lis...
    No, only if the situation is genuinely impossible, should one ever give up hope about any good, or right outcome. And the test of time can tell us many things... but it is wise to remember that some things require more time, than others.
Sirmounts...I agree...good (may I say even...the best of) things take time. It's not so much the time aspect for me. I have muddled through many years with men that just could never be what I needed. I feel like I let them down and myself down because I just couldn't make it work out. I always wonder if I want too much. Want someone that genuinely wants to be with me. Is that so wrong?

Lis


sherrie74 66F
112 posts
8/12/2006 7:45 pm

I have always believed there is someone out there for me, but I really havent done anything about it until recently. I will find him.....and MZ....I am also 55 and I am not giving up either.


lissi888888 53F
1401 posts
8/12/2006 8:10 pm

    Quoting sherrie74:
    I have always believed there is someone out there for me, but I really havent done anything about it until recently. I will find him.....and MZ....I am also 55 and I am not giving up either.
Sherrie...

And he will find you enchanting hon..just as I do

Lis


SirMounts 103M

10/26/2006 6:30 am

    Quoting lissi888888:
    Sirmounts...I agree...good (may I say even...the best of) things take time. It's not so much the time aspect for me. I have muddled through many years with men that just could never be what I needed. I feel like I let them down and myself down because I just couldn't make it work out. I always wonder if I want too much. Want someone that genuinely wants to be with me. Is that so wrong?

    Lis
lis...
Well, as they say: "It takes two, to tango". *hugs*


lissi888888 53F
1401 posts
11/2/2006 8:26 am

    Quoting SirMounts:
    lis...
    Well, as they say: "It takes two, to tango". *hugs*
I've always wanted to learn to tango


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