lil_nympho2 36F
64 posts
8/21/2006 6:45 pm

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8/25/2006 6:49 pm


So my ex called today. Wanted to talk about his wife seeing the kids while he goes on deployment. He's tried everything to get me to agree to her having his visitation. Well today topped all of his previous efforts. He was supposed to head out to Japan in December well turns out they have changed it to the Middle East. Ok that sucks but hey it’s all part of being in the Navy. When he's gone on this deployment he's to give me an extra $200 a month to help support the kids. As it is I get just enough to cover the day care and that’s it he helps with NOTHING else that they need.

So hears where it gets interesting he tryst to tell me that he's only going to be getting $3.50 a day extra and only 1 15 minute phone call a week. YEAH is stupid written on my forehead? He goes on that now he won’t be able to get his bills paid off and it looks like they won’t be buying their house when he comes home. Oh look I think I feel a tear coming on……wait that’s just something in my eye. That if she could have them then he will know where they are at and won’t waste his phone call trying to track us down. She can help out with the things they need and if mabe I wouldn’t mind not getting the extra money.

OMG this man is such a piece of work he as it is already threatened to not pay me if she didn’t have his time. My response take me back to court. I didn’t have kids with here I had them with him. Now don’t get me wrong I think she should see them but call me first ask and I’ll let her spend time with them, it’s as simple as that.

If he thinks trying to tell me that he’ll only be getting an extra three dollars and fifty cents a day will make me feel sorry for him he needs to think again. I know that’s straight up bull shit. He has the money to buy a new/used suv, buy a motorcycle, a house, but can buy his kids diapers to take to day care? They need new shoes, clothes, anything I pony up the cash. My kids went all winter without a winter coat because I couldn’t afford to buy them one. Guess what happened this past spring. They came home with nice winter coats one day. I asked him about it he said he keeps them with him so they will have them the next time they come over.

So please forgive me if I think that once again your trying to blow smoke up my ass.

drkwaterz 37F

8/21/2006 7:58 pm

Ok, now take a deep breathe and exhale slowly, with let go of the feeling of pent of frustration. Let go of the urge to shoot your kids' dad. Remember you can go to jail for that unless you get a female judge. Enough of that crap, I'm going through a similar situation, and it gets worse as they get older. All I can say is keep your composure and remember no matter what he says or does, it does mean a thing in the end. What matters right now are those kids and if he wants to be an ass then let him. As they get older no matter what he says or does they'll know the one they can rely on is you the one that was there for them was you. BTW money will always be an issue, if you think he's full of it call him on it. He may not like looking like an ass when you have proof in your hands, ans then he'll have to give you the money. BUt remember to breathe, relax, take a soak in the tub after the kids are in bed and tell yourself things are gonna be just fine No worries.

lil_nympho2 36F

8/21/2006 8:17 pm

Damn you mean I can’t shoot him?? Well that’s ok it would be over to quick if I did it that way anyway lol. It’s nice to hear I'm not in this boat alone as much as it sucks. I just keep telling myself one day my kids will realize just like I did who really took care of them. As I wait for that day to come I most defiantly will be taking that hot bath maby even get myself a nice massage.

drkwaterz 37F

8/21/2006 9:05 pm

You are most definitely not alone there a lot of dealing with asses everyday! Just think of it this way you can't shoot him, but you can drag it out for at minimum 18 years

Roguexxx3 49M

8/21/2006 9:34 pm

crap like this really pisses me off. I'm sorry he's such a dirt bag to you and your kids....You could make alot of trouble for him with one phone call to the Navy

lil_nympho2 36F

8/22/2006 4:21 am

Oh that I do know. I've already had one talk with his command master cheif. Looks like its time to call him again.

rm_1sthgman 70M
46 posts
8/22/2006 9:50 pm

Just take him back to court and settle for more $$$$.
It's "mandatory" to come out of his paycheck.
Then to hell with his promises etc etc.
And the sob stories. He can do Navy housing until he retires.
Do your own sob stories to the judge and see what happens.

rm_douglhers 42M
150 posts
8/22/2006 11:33 pm

Listen hun, assholes like that give us all a bad name, after all accountability is a huge part of being a man. I know it cant be easy to deal with all of his BS but you should take a look in the mirror and hug yourself for doing what you have to do, personally i think he needs an ass kicking... PS what happened to honor in the military?


8/23/2006 3:52 am

Sorry to hear about all this - sounds like you are taking the right steps - plus if he has any credit debt he should take advantage of the sailors and soldiers act to get reduced payments while deployed that way he has no excuse. I hope everything turns out well for you. From reading your posts you can can you genuinely care about your kids - and someday (many years from now) they will appreciate (at least thats what I keep telling myself when I wonder what kind of dad i am/have been). Best of luck to you Very least smile doesnt help much but it does help

lil_nympho2 36F

8/23/2006 6:47 am

The man has no honor. He also has a daughter in cali that he denied until she was a year and half. Only seen her once and still to this day has nothing to do with her. So it really comes to no big surprise that he would turn around and do it to us.

I do want to thank you guys for listening to me bitch. I know I'm not the only one out there dealing with this bs.

rm_ClitPumper1 50M
273 posts
8/23/2006 12:15 pm


Bob54LoneRanger 64M

8/23/2006 9:21 pm

how old are your kids,, I live in Maine ,, i know how cold it gets,,, I have cloths in the attic for boys ,, x left them along time ago,, I live in Millinocket , Me ,,, maybe i could help you with some of that stuff,,, please don't cry ,, hell this 52 year old guy hates to see a Mom cry,,,Hang in there ,,, all men are not like that ok,,, I raised two stepson with out there dad's help,,, find a good man ,,,
Love Bob

lil_nympho2 36F

8/24/2006 11:01 am

My boys are 2 and 3 as you know at that age they grow like weeds. My dad has offered to buy them what they need for winter clothing, but
thank you that is very sweet of you to offer those things. I know not all men are like that I just seem to attract jackasses!


8/25/2006 2:48 pm

At least it sounds like you have a nice support system with your folks. You sound like a very smart sexy funny lady who has her head screwed on straight and knows how to have fun. Most importantly you genuinely care about your boys which is awesome and one day they will actually appreciated it. The right guy will come along eventually. Good luck.

lil_nympho2 36F

8/25/2006 6:49 pm

I'd like to think I have my head screwed on right so thanks very much for that. When I'm ready to settle back down I'm sure I'll find the right guy.Until then I enjoy having the freedom of doing what I want when I want.

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