Disease Free / Hook-Up Rules  

lareina05 41F
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6/17/2005 6:06 pm

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Disease Free / Hook-Up Rules

Do any of you get proof that the person you're hooking up with is disease free? I see a number of people posting on this site D/D free but very few offer the proof to back it up.

Just wondering what works for those of you who have hooked up with people from AdultFriendFinder?

rm_dracco64 53M
34 posts
6/18/2005 3:01 am

I will be watching your blog because I am interested in this as well. I am not a doctor, but I would think that it is extremely hard to proof that you are clean ...

lareina05 41F

6/18/2005 2:00 pm

Well although I agree. I think any healthy adult with multiple parners over any given period of time should have a regular healthcare professional that he/she is affiliated with keeping a record of how their health is maintained.

Laugh if you will but porn actors and exotic entertainers are usually alot cleaner than lonely housewives and joeschmoes looking to act out their wildest dreams behind closed doors.

I just think that it helps to be better educated about the citizens of the community in which one lives especially if you're eating of their fruit...

At some point we have to be proactive and well informed.

But yes Dracco I agree with you and thank you for responding to this blog.

lareina05 41F

6/19/2005 8:41 pm

Ok it's me again...

Just so that all of you know, you can go to the blogs and the magazine articles and do a search for discussions on areas of intereset for you.

HIV/AIDS is one that has been discussed...Herpes is another (among others). However I've chosen to list these two specifically because they are both incurable.

HIV however being potentially fatal.

It's been said that 1:4 Adult Americans have the herpes simplex virus either oral (HSV1 / cold sores) or genital (HSV2).
If you want to be proactive you can go and get tested for the virus at any doctor's office or free clinic by asking for the Western Blot test. This test can shed light on matters for you whether you have displayed symptoms for the disease or not.

Go to google and do a search to find out more information on this epidemic.

There are a few key factors to note:

Having herpes does not make you dirty...

Having herpes does not automatically mean that you are also HIV positive or suffering from advanced HIV or AIDS

Women contract the disease much easier than men due to the "design" of their bodies. Women's symptoms also tend to be much worse than a male counterpart with the disease.

Men's "outbreaks" are always external...

The disease can be controlled with a healthy lifestyle...diet, exercise, adequate rest, etc.


It seems to me that responsible sexually active adults will just get themselves tested and encourage other like minded people to do the same.

We live in a wonderful time where superior information is at our fingertips...why not make the most of it?

Ringlos 51M
455 posts
6/20/2005 9:16 am

Hello Lareina!

There is no proof that anyone is actually disease free! This is especially true for HIV. I know a doctor who runs his own laboratory. You can take a test there in the morning and get the result in the afternoon. They are fast, but the virus is slow. As far as I know the test is only good for the time before six weeks back. So to be sure one has to stay chaste for six weeks and then get tested.
Some people are also not aware about the ways you might get HIV. Most think that oral is safe. At least in theory it is not! There has been no proven case for contagion through oral, but it is possible!

You can get infections in different ways. Ever took a shower at a public swimming pool? It is easy to get an infection at your feet and if you have sex in the bath tub later it may be transfered to more intimate areas.
On statistics: South Africa is having officially one of the highest infection rates in Africa, but that is not true! There are still countries that do not want to face that threat (promoting its spread in turning a blind eye). South Africa is a leading country in the fight against HIV. Because of this they collect statistic evidence. In other countries it is just the "slim desease" and every fat man can fuck the local hookers "bare-back" as they think a fat guy can be infected.

lareina05 41F

6/20/2005 4:52 pm

Hi Ringlos (and fellow bloggers),

Thank you for sharing your comments... You're absolutely right, that's why it's so important to be tested regularly if you're sexually active (especially if with more than 1 partner - But we all know that). For one's own sanity at least.

***************GOOD NEWS !!!!!******************


Asymptomatic candidates are being administered a vaccine that innoculates them against the herpes virus. It has been proven to work and is currently being adminstered in New York (from 3/04 - 3/06 - it's been available for the past year already).

You can search the details online, etc... It can't hurt to check it out.

*************THERE MORE GOOD NEWS*************

For those who do "show symptoms" of having herpes a healthier lifestyle (a calcium /water rich diet, a good exercise regimen, and mental outlook, etc.) can help you live a practically symptom free life. This is all around good practice as recommended by nutritionist and healthcare professionals world wide (no I am not in the healthcare industry...always check, check and double check what you hear / read for accuracy).

That being said...

With all this good news how could such solutions (a healthier happier life with herpes and hope of innoculation for those without symptoms) offer anything other than a WIN/WIN results?

Have a great evening!!!!!

"I Dwell In Possibilty"
- Emily Dickinson

Ringlos 51M
455 posts
6/23/2005 6:26 am

You really seem to do a lot of research!

Do you have anything about European countries?

rm_FreeLove999 47F
16127 posts
6/23/2005 10:30 am

Ringlos: what on earth are you talking about SA doing a good job of fighting AIDS -- that is such BS. the president is an AIDS denialist, and furthermore the govt is constantly lowering funding for public health care so as to prove it's not efficient, while encouraging the influx of MNCs/TNCs into the healthcare sector -- this is absolutely disastrous for SAs many poor who cannot afford to pay!

[blog freelove999]

lareina05 41F

6/23/2005 8:11 pm

Lol...yeah well between my friends and I, we get the "goods" on a lot of what's hap'n'n out there.

I also find that if you are inclined to want to know more about life and are very socially active and are genuinely concerned about people and their wellbeing you tend to gravitate to news/topics of that sort - or bring news of that sort to you (whichever metaphysical position you take).

Change your perspective...and all secrets will reveal themselves

lareina05 41F

6/23/2005 8:51 pm

Oh Ringlos sorry I didn't answer your question.
No I haven't researched the most current information for European countries...you raise a sound point...hmmmmmm. I will have to look into a few of them though...(Europe is way too broad..blablabla)

But I'd have to agree with Free. SA is suffering as are most of the African countries (for many different reasons but suffering all the same). The general rule is that wherever poverty and poor education are rampant...poor health and poor health awareness is not far behind.

The current imbalance in the socio-economic structure world wide is sickening. We tend to delude ourselves into believing that what's currently right (circumstantially) in our respective "worlds" is right for everyone. The truth is most often much bleaker and painful than our perceptions of reality allow us to contemplate.

Again I would need to do much more research but my guess is that countries that endorse full coverage healthcare for their citzens and whose general population earn at least the national average (earning capacity) are in a much better position to take their lives into their own hands than those countries that do not meet these standards.


Have fun...RESPONSIBLY...but with wild abandon...
Protect yourself...but be vulnerable
Love hard...Fight fair (i think...lol)

lareina05 41F

6/29/2005 4:13 am


so far I've only seen two male members specify in their profiles that they can provide documented proof of their most recent (early June 2005) std free tests.


SatisFakshen 39M

7/1/2005 12:03 am

I totally agree that you should be able to back up your D/D free claim. There was a girl on this site out in California that let a woman stay at her house (also from this site.) I didn't get the details on the disease or the entire story, but this woman who was staying over gave her grandmother and child some sort of sickness too. And now the girl has disappeared. I know this is vague since I didn't provide much detail on the illness and how it was contracted.

But whoever you get with on this site or anyone in general, make you check them up. And if they really love you or care for you, they will back their claim up. No true lover is going to do anything to harm his or her loved one.

lareina05 41F

7/3/2005 7:46 am

Herpes: “Viral Shedding”

From Heather Brannon, MD,
Your Guide to Skin Conditions / Acne.

Viral shedding occurs most often with herpes simplex virus infections. The virus remains in cells in the body after the first infection in a latent or dormant form. At some point this latency ends and the virus begins to multiply becoming transmittable. This shedding may or may not be accompanied by symptoms of a rash. HSV-2 is more likely to shed than HSV-1, especially in women. As a matter of fact, it is possible that over half of the people infected with HSV-2 shed the virus at some time without having any symptoms or rash. It is also estimated that one-third of all HSV-2 infections are caused when a non-infected person comes in contact with someone who is shedding virus without symptoms.

Ringlos 51M
455 posts
7/23/2005 4:22 pm

The risk of contracting is also higher for women (with the usual unprotected hetero-sex)as, well, the fluids stay in the body. Still many people think of it as the gay men's disease! To look for visible symptoms and think disease free who is not showing them is just the same rubish!
Also as a test means nothing when the body had not the time to produce anti-bodies - there is false security in believing in tests!

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