Where does sexual chemistry come from?  

lancemanion2 56M
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8/12/2006 11:29 am

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Where does sexual chemistry come from?

Where does sexual chemistry come from?

LilSquirt_4mfm 68M/68F
3394 posts
8/12/2006 12:52 pm

hiya lance

hmmmm, and here i was hopin u'de know ...... but u have me thinking now ... i will try to put my ideas into words soon as i can get into the concept more.

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lancemanion2 replies on 8/12/2006 5:12 pm:
LilSquirt, did I really catch you off guard? I do have a theory on this subject however I am always willing to learn and am open to ideas. Now I cannot wait for your thoughts.

aLilSquirt_mfm 68M/68F
24 posts
8/13/2006 7:25 pm

please do put forward your theory ..... seems u have thot about it ..... i havnt pursued it, but you do have me h=thinking

and, thank you for commenting on my blog

lancemanion2 replies on 8/14/2006 1:24 pm:
Researchers say that there are "certain chemicals" in the saliva that are absorbed during kissing. That, along with phermones that are picked up by there other senses that create arousal. This makes sense that during kissing it can or cannot be passionate. Animals go solely on the phermones with their keen sense of smell. I guess it goews to show that we are Animals in some ways!!! LOL

backdoormom69 53F

8/14/2006 3:02 pm

You can fake a cold
You can fake surprise
You can even fake an orgasm

You can’t fake sexual chemistry. It either exists or it doesn’t. It can’t be bought manufactured or faked. Sexual chemistry is the initial attraction.
It’s the visual, auditory and tactile stimuli that you get when you meet someone. Sexual chemistry comes from the senses: taste, touch see, hear and smell.
You can converse with someone and the sense of hearing kicks in (ie sounds nice) but until the rest of the senses are involved creating the big picture it isn’t sexual chemistry.

lancemanion2 replies on 8/18/2006 11:19 pm:
backdoormom, nicely said! I couldn't agree any more!!! I have a real hard time faking an orgasm nor would I want to......

LilSquirt_4mfm 68M/68F
3394 posts
8/14/2006 3:42 pm

Absolutely "we are animals" .... especially when highly aroused. ... and progressively moreso as arrousal accelerates .

I would agree with that approach .... do you have any referencable material on it .. it would make a great post itself you know.

Sure, there are other items in play, that "certain" look, "manner" etc etc ... .but i bet the "certain chemicals & phermones" in the mouth play a huge role in things progresing from there ..... that is where the pure animal part of us .....errr .....cums.... in i think.

Now ur gettin me all horny thinkin about what happens when those chemicals are positive.

lancemanion2 replies on 8/18/2006 11:22 pm:
LilSquirt, I am pretty sure the reference came from The New England Journal of Medicine early last year. Positive chemicals are definitely like no other on the planet. Keeps those horns up!!!!

aries_flames 49F

8/19/2006 8:46 am

Me being the person I am, I looked up what causes sexual chemistry. Information derived from Italian scientists have determined that there is a hormone called neutrophins, which are like a chemical messenger, that were higher in blood levels of people who are in love. Testosterone levels increase in women, but decrease in men during that time.

What is disturbing is that these same scientist have found that what they have dubbed the "lust molecule" DECREASES after two years of being with the same partner, and is replaced by oxytocin which they called the "cuddle molecule." This is probably the reason why sexual activity reduces during marriage. Researchers also state that during the initial throes of love and lust, new nerve growth is prevalent due to the new experiences that are being shared. This activity would decrease as the new experiences you share would decrease, and could lead to some lack of stimulation and boredom. Anyone who is intersted in this article can read it at

As for that initial attraction, I've always been under the understanding that pheromones were responsible. That undetectable hormone that we pick up through our sense of smell is supposed to either attract or repel us to one person or another.

Who knows?! Interesting topic, Lance!

lancemanion2 replies on 8/20/2006 12:18 am:
Touche' aries_flames!!!! The research you did was outstanding and made this blog even more interesting. I feel as if my neutrophins just went up a notch or two. LOL! It looks as if the link was erased Could you possibly e-mail it to me? Thanks for the post, WOW!!!!


Sweetbrandi4u 58F
2 posts
8/25/2006 9:00 pm

lancemanion2 ,The brain is a powerful organ. The chemicals that are released when there is chemistry is solely based on sight ,smell , sounds and touch .Research has shown that men visual beings!

lancemanion2 replies on 8/25/2006 10:28 pm:
Very very true! The senses are key to chemistry for sure and without a brain there isn't anyway your senses would work. Although people with "no brains" make no sense at all LOL!

Sweetbrandi4u 58F
2 posts
8/28/2006 6:43 am

lancemanion2 Researchers didn’t investigate this subject enough so there’s no one definitive answer when it comes to sexual chemistry.
Sexual harmony composed from the interactions between all of our senses: hearing, sight, smell, taste and touch. All of these knowingly and unknowingly bring us to chemistry in the “sex dance”. Also each one of us gets into bed with our own sexual script. This script, beyond the 5 senses, is the outcome of our sexual development.

This sexual development, which among its fundamental elements we will find some that are influenced by our up brings, the environment we grew up in and our first sexual experience... All of these and more are the components, which put together the fascinating puzzle of Sexual Attraction.

We all know that for one girl, a guy can be her best sexual partner while for another, the same guy can be her worst.

There are two conjectures among researches in this field: One believes that couples that live together and in a stable and supportive relationship, will develop sexual chemistry after one year.
Second assumption, supported by the minority, is very simple, either you got it or you don’t. It’s true that couple that live together for a long time will learn the needs of one another and how to satisfy each other in bed, they will do their best to “supply the goods” and it’s true that they will enjoy their sex life. However when there’s immediate sexual chemistry there’s no boundaries, in this case it’s magical, you will enjoy emotional and physical experiences which are extremely powerful and stupendous.
To compare our "human" needs to animals mating habits is primal isn't it?

lancemanion2 replies on 8/28/2006 10:01 am:
Primal yesss! That feeling definitely comes from within, a feeling and a power like no other. Animalistic, primal or what it may be ~ it's awesome! Too bad we cannot bottle it......

I believe in the second scenario....either you have it or you don't. The first I actually disagree with for some couples can get bored with each other after a year but then there are that don't.

Sweetbrandi4u, I guess in conclusion I would have to say it's between the two people and how their chemistry clicks.....lack of or LOTS of..

Thanks for the wonderful input. I just love intellegence. Did I ever tell you I was a chemistry major in undergrad.? LOL!

dimplesfouryou 47F
24690 posts
9/25/2006 2:51 pm

Ohhh, if you could bottle it, you would be a millionaire!!!!!

i have nothing to add, I just know that sometimes I want it to be there but it isn't and sometime I don't want it to be there and it is...and sometimes it is just right! That's all I have!!

So sorry to keep you waiting!


lancemanion2 56M

9/25/2006 3:08 pm

    Quoting dimplesfouryou:
    Ohhh, if you could bottle it, you would be a millionaire!!!!!

    i have nothing to add, I just know that sometimes I want it to be there but it isn't and sometime I don't want it to be there and it is...and sometimes it is just right! That's all I have!!

    So sorry to keep you waiting!
I agree, sometimes it's there and sometimes not. No problem on the wait ~ patience is a virtrue ~ Thanks!

HisSecretDream 51F

10/1/2006 4:29 pm

I'm not sure what causes it but I sure miss it. Sigh

lancemanion2 replies on 10/5/2006 1:43 pm:
I hope you experiance it again soon to turn that sigh into a mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!


oo1infiltrator 60M
17 posts
10/19/2006 11:42 pm

After reading some of your BLOG response, I feel as though I such make a few comments, yes the the brain is the most powerful sex organ but not the largest, it the human skin weighing in at 6 pounds and covering 25 sq. feet it's the largest external organ; and can cause the most arousal when it's in the right person hands either by touching,caressing or kissing, it set the mood for the mind to respond and release the neurons that un leach our inhibitions. Yes the brain is a powerful organ it can make us all think there more to any situation than there really is!!!!!!!!!!!!

ps. Your BLOG my attention and I just had to write!!!!!!!

lancemanion2 56M

10/20/2006 10:32 am

Very true about your skin being the largest organ however without the use of the brain, you cannot feel the touching, caressing or kissing you are describing.

royaloakian 58M  
158 posts
10/23/2006 5:57 pm

Sexual chemistry is about many intangibles, from the obvious mutual physical attraction to the more subtle things like mental stimulus & the ability to trust one another. Total honesty with one's partner is key here...not all possess it.Also-I would have to believe the following-there are exceptions to everything, of course..but in my mind...sexual chemistry hinges on both parties being, or at least striving to treat each other as equals. It loses something when one of the two tries to dominate....
huggzz & ^5's-Royal

lancemanion2 replies on 10/24/2006 3:18 pm:
Hey royal, great to see you. I really enjoyed reading your post. I must add however that some men and women like to be the submissive OR dominant partner in a relatinship don't ya think? Also, have you ever felt chemistry after the first kiss regardless if an equal relationship has not been formed yet?

royaloakian 58M  
158 posts
10/24/2006 6:17 pm

Valid points both Lance. It is some people's nature to be dominant or submissive. Myself?-I'm somewhere in the middle. I guess it depends on the individual(s). And yes..OMG..that 1st kiss-when everything is in the fledgling stage? Many times..that is where the chemistry is 1st established...and everything falls in to place after....

SunnisaysenterME 57F
49 posts
11/8/2006 4:39 pm

sexual healin

lancemanion2 replies on 11/8/2006 5:47 pm:
Now THAT is a blog in itself!

SunnisaysenterME 57F
49 posts
11/9/2006 7:49 pm

lance cum on cum on give me sum of that sexual healin

SunnisaysenterME 57F
49 posts
11/14/2006 1:35 pm


Mamacat56 61F

12/3/2006 8:47 am

lance....Where does sexual chemistry come from? ....YOU AND I!

lancemanion2 replies on 12/6/2006 7:59 pm:
Now if that could be bottled ~ WHOLLY CRAP!!!

sexycurvytiger 55F
5525 posts
12/10/2006 8:35 am

Mamacat you naughty kitty...playing with the lancemanion? TSK TSK TSK Sexual chemistry is something beyond any control. Have you ever walked by someone you didn't know only to have both of you turn and just feel the heat from them? Sexual chemistry is very powerful and if you find it in someone that desires you back nothing can stop you for enjoying the most satisfying experience of life.

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Laugh Heartily,
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Mamacat56 61F

12/10/2006 11:35 am

sexy.....purrrrrrrrrrr and we play soooooooo well!

lancemanion2 replies on 1/1/2007 8:06 pm:
Mamacat....I just love it when you prrrrr next to me mmmmmmmmm! Till next time darlin.

Mamacat56 61F

2/8/2007 8:16 pm

A chicken and an egg are lying in bed.

The chicken is leaning against the headboard smoking a cigarette, with a
satisfied smile on its face.

The egg, looking a bit pissed off, grabs the sheet, rolls over, and says,

'Well, I guess we finally answered THAT question.'

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