My Relationships  

krsandhu 54F
311 posts
7/26/2006 3:30 am

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My Relationships


As I sit here writing this, I think back of all the relationships I have had. As I said in my first blog, I was a conservative person who always believed that we should not have multiple partners. I never believed in sleeping around. After I divorced my ex, I had a few relationships but only one at a time.

In all my relationships I have always been the one giving and giving and never got anything in return. The guy I was with never even bothered to call me or keep in touch at any time except for when he wanted to meet for a fuck. I guess at that time I was naive and I thought that If I made hom happy, he would want me for keeps. But I was wrong. Instead he took me for granted. I never even got a present on my birthday or any other special day and neither was I ever taken out to dinner or the movies or just out. The only time we met was when he wanted sex. This happened with every guy I had a relationship with not just one. Maybe I just tend to attract such men seeing that I keep giving.

Anyway after many such relationships which were mostly ended by me as I realised soon enough that these men had nothing to offer me, I came to a point where I decided that I would not give a guy anything who had nothing to offer me in return.

Becoming a member of passion.com made me open up and realise that having multiple partners is a norm these days. Well maybe not for everyone but for many. Although I still feel that if I were in a serious relationship I would never want to be with other men. But my criteria for having a serious relationship has changed and become more demanding. And now I feel that as long as Im not in a serious relationship and as long as a guy does not make a commitment to me, I am free to be with anyone I wish, but not for free. I have given enough of freebies in my life, never got anything out of it.

Many of you out there may choose to condemn me for the fact that I have said no freebies. Why should I give free. There are married men here who have nothing to offer me being married, but they want sex in return. There are also single men here looking for one night stand, so why should I give them free sex.

More in my next blog

WellHungSatyr 46M
87 posts
7/26/2006 3:52 am

I would never condemn someone for thier beleives, but you do sound a little jaded ( no offense ). But I am curious as to what you mean by free. I mean would you be willing to sleep with someone who was interesting more in your plesure than their own, who was interested in more than a one night stand but less than a commited relationship? Beleive it or not, there are still some nice guys out there.


krsandhu 54F

7/26/2006 4:45 am

WellHung, thanks for your comment. by the way Im just being realistic. To answer your question, if a man cannot offer me a serious relationship then I don't see any reason why I should give him free sex as at the end of the day Im left with nothing. If Im only looking for sexual pleasure, I can get that anytime I want. Why give it free when I get paid and get pleasure as well. As I have mentioned in my blog, the kind of relationship that u mentioned were the kind I had many before more than one night stand but less than a committed relationship which was always to their benefit and nothing for me. So such relationships don't attract me unless the guy has more to offer.


dewey4chat_153 107F

7/29/2006 6:50 am

My dear Sonia,

I have gone thru your blog and I felt that whatever you said had it points. My one advised to you my dear friend, is that ppl who can't get what they want will always condemned that person. Whatever other may said about you, Sonia...to me you and Maribelle are a women with respect. Only those who open their heart and eyes will know who you are. There will be a day, someone will come and learn how wonderful you both had been. Your couraged and your honest had given us the right to be a woman.

You are my best buddy, Sonia. Maribelle and I will always treasure...Hugz and kIss!!!...


krsandhu 54F

8/13/2006 4:46 am

Dear Dewey

Thanks for your comments and yes I agree with what u said.

And the feeling is mutual. You are a wonderful person and worthy of being a friend...hugs and kisses


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