Let's talk sex out of marriage, shall we?  

knightf3 48M
7 posts
8/15/2006 10:21 am

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8/15/2006 1:09 pm

Let's talk sex out of marriage, shall we?

Hello to anyone out there who's married or has been. I am.
Don't get me wrong... I love my wife, she loves me, all is good in that area... wait for it... here it comes...BUTour sex life SUCKS. My wife admits it. She loves sex when she's in the mood, or willing to give me about 5 minutes to get her in the mood (that's about how long it takes me to warm her up), but it's rare that she's "feelin' the love" so to speak.
Me on the other hand... I LOVE SEX. I love everything about it. The warm up, (on both sides of course), the teasing, the playing, the tenderness (yeah yeah yeah guys, I know you think I'm gay right now, but trust me, I AM NOT!), the times when you just need to get laid, the times when you just wanna' F#@k, the times when you want to take it slow and make it last for hours... ALL OF IT!!!!!!!
The wife just doesn't have the libido, and I'm tired of being horny all the time.
Anyone else have the same issues?
I'll be back from time to time to update you on the situation, but to give you an idea... The last time my wife and I had sex was 18 days ago. I'll keep the tally rolling, if you're interested.

rm_muffin162 57M
763 posts
8/15/2006 11:18 am

Theres are re acuring theme to all you married guys which is.

My wife has no libido,my wife does not want sex with me,my wife sucks in bed and so on and so on.

It never seems to be the mans fault.

Does she no that you are trying to cheat on her,by using this site to find sex with strangers.

ctmhcrazy 41M/47F

8/15/2006 11:21 am

Knightf3 always in the mood huh. I'm sure that you have tried everything under the sun to intice her libido up to yours. I had that problem once and then I started to inquire about adding another partner.

I think just the mere thought got his sex drive moving. The idea of another women and what I wanted her to do to him. The details that I shared made him horny and rock hard all the time. And for once I had to step up and it was great!

Now, some people have a different reaction to that type of suggestion or idea you have to know your relationship very well not to upset your partner. All in all, it was so exciting...all the sh*t talking and hair pulling that went on was very intense and pleasurable.


angelofmercy5 60F
17881 posts
8/15/2006 11:25 am

Kinght....there are many here for similar reasons. I came here almost a year ago with a similar issue. But for me....the libido wasn't really the problem.....it was that the emotional connection my hubby and I had was gone. We have since repaired that....and moved on. Keep the tally rolling if you want. But rememember that for women, sex begins long before we get into bed. Try cooking dinner...doing the dishes....telling her she looks lovely.....kissing the back of her neck while shes sweaty and working.

TnWitchyWoman 57F
6852 posts
8/15/2006 11:30 am

Yep. Same issues but it's not me not wanting to dish it out. That's why I had an "extra husband" for 12 years. He passed away just over six months ago so I'm back to the same situation. Let's see...it's been 25 days here and it'll be at least Saturday before I see him again. Fuck that sucks to figure it up and write it down. But...things are looking up through AdultFriendFinder so just maybe....

Wish ya luck!

knightf3 48M
2 posts
8/15/2006 1:05 pm

Thanks for the input so far, folks.
What amazes me is, no offense, the ladies responding! Call me ignorant, or just short sighted, but I assumed that This would be a "male dominated" subject.
I certainly appreciate the female side and actually was hoping this would occur to get the different view on the situation.

In response... from the bottom up:
TriWitchy-- sorry for your loss, I really hope Saturday goes in your favor...
BlackVenus-- I appreciate your passion and candor.
AngelofMercy-- Believe it or not, I'm the one who prepares the meals, does the laundry, does all the household finances, all the yardwork, and I do it all with a smile. My Wife works her tail off too, don't get me wrong, but again, it's not the emotional connection we are having any issues with, just the sexuality of the relationship.
ctmhcrazy-- I don't want to speculate on how my wife will react, but knowing her as I do... I don't think it will go over well. I will, however contemplate the suggestion thoroughly.
muffin-- READ MY POST... I never said my wife sucks in bed, in fact, when she's in the mood, or I can get her in the mood, she's the best lay, fuck, love making partner, etc. etc depending on our mood, that I have ever been with. Are there times I've pissed her off so sex wasn't "in the stars", sure... who hasn't done that. My point is, I love my wife but the sex is not as often as I want, or as often as she is willing to give. Sheesh... pay attention.

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