Getting Older  

rm_kneel_be4me 50M
264 posts
6/8/2006 10:31 am

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6/8/2006 12:05 pm

Getting Older


I know my dad is getting older. I see it in little things he does. Living next door to him and my mom, and doing all their cooking I get to see allot of them.

My dad still works five or six days a week. He still doesn't get home till after five or six o'clock. He is out in that south Florida heat all day long. he has slowed down some. He has dropped all but two or three of his customers. He also now leaves the house after 8 am where he used to leave at sun up. Most of his morning is spent visiting friends, but in the afternoon he is out in that heat working.

Well today he left at his usual time. I got a phone call from him around 9:30. His car had broken down at the blood bank. He was there doing his usual blood donation. I got a shower, packed up the kids and went to get him to take him to his work truck so that he could come back and fix his car.

I got there at 10 and he was outside waiting for me. I have a dodge extended conversion van. I pull up along side him expecting him to get in the passengers seat. He opens the side door to the van and sits/leans in the van. I bend around so I can see him and he is leaning on one of the seats sitting on the floor of the van. I cant see his face and he isn't talking to me. Now my dad is about def so i wasn't real worried that he wasn't answering me, but I couldn't understand why he was just sitting there.

So I got out of the van and moved over to the side door. I looked at him and knew something was wrong. Having given blood before i knew the possible dizziness problems that can come from giving blood. I asked him if he was ok and he answered that he was dizzy. I got him a fruit bar that I had put into the van to give the kids as a snack. He couldn't eat it right away he was to dizzy. He slowly started feeling better and i got him to eat figuring he needed the sugar. he quickly recovered and wanted to go get his truck. He told me that he came close to passing out. I informed him that I think he did pass out. He had wet himself and that usually doesn't happen unless you loose consciousness. I brought him to the house and he got a shower and I then took him to his truck and he went over to fix his car. he had busted an oil line in the car and lost all the oil.

Now I know this was just a result of him giving blood. And I know that every time you give blood it can effect you differently. But it also reminds me of the fact that my parents are getting older and things are going to start effecting them more.


akron42   
2375 posts
6/8/2006 10:51 am

I know what you're feeling. My mom has Alzheimer's and she's only 67. I thought I would have alot more time with her. My dad is wonderful with her, but they need alot of help now. It's good that you're so close and can help your parents. I feel like I'm the parent now and I miss being someone's child. But I guess we deal with what we're given. Good luck to you, you sound like a good son!


rm_kneel_be4me 50M
457 posts
6/8/2006 12:05 pm

    Quoting akron42:
    I know what you're feeling. My mom has Alzheimer's and she's only 67. I thought I would have alot more time with her. My dad is wonderful with her, but they need alot of help now. It's good that you're so close and can help your parents. I feel like I'm the parent now and I miss being someone's child. But I guess we deal with what we're given. Good luck to you, you sound like a good son!
I know what you are going through. My grandmother got it at the same age. She lived with us for several years untill she had to be IV fed and didnt know anyonwe... That was a scary thing. She lived until 87 or so but it wasnt her for at least the last ten years.... I feel for you and I hope you can make it through the times ahead with strength.


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