Lost love  

kittentiger3 56M/F
696 posts
4/24/2006 11:21 am

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11/21/2006 3:28 pm

Lost love

Many of us have had our hearts broken and maybe been the ones that do the heartbreaking!

My friend has just broke up with her lover and I feel totally helpless. She is so upset and at a loss to what to do.

She says that every song that comes on reminds her of him and that everywhere she looks, she see guys who look like him.

How does anyone get over such a loss? Do you feel it is the same pain as the death of a loved one?

So sad

xxx Kitten xxx

XXx Kitten xXX

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FunFlirty4u 47F

4/24/2006 11:47 am

Time usually works best or keep busy with other things.

kittentiger3 replies on 4/26/2006 4:54 am:
Yes that is what I have told her and I am going to take her out and start networking again. Thank you xxx

PrincessKarma 45F
6188 posts
4/24/2006 11:49 am

Breakups are always hard... she's going to see him everywhere for some time. I should know, I've been there more times than I care to remember, and the last one still blogs here.

I don't think it can be compared to loss through death, though; at least a breakup means the other is alive, and maybe even happy (if you can find it in your heart to forgive and let go).

I can think of no greater horror than to be widowed (whether or not we're married, if we are a couple it amounts to the same). My dear heart lost his fianceƩ nine years ago in a drunk-driving accident and it still haunts him.

The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma

kittentiger3 replies on 4/26/2006 4:56 am:
Oh I'm really sorry to hear that Karma and it must have been really hard for him. Death is a big word and I suppose you are right in saying that the end of a relationship should not be compared to such a tragedy, but I guess, that is just the way she felt at the time. xxx

blackwidow02 45F

4/25/2006 2:14 am

Hi kitty i have been threw this and how she has described it is just how i felt too,but the amazeing thing is time does heal and then you look back and think how hurt you was and just have the biggest laugh about it because you do find that life goes on and it does get better,you got to learn to build your trust back up and set off on the right foot again too.
PS if she has got you as a friend i am sure you will be there to give her all the support she needs

xXx BW xXx[group what tickles your fancy

kittentiger3 replies on 4/26/2006 4:58 am:
Awwwwww BW you say the nicest things to me *blush*

It has been a few days now and she seems to be getting stronger. She does still have her moments and I don't know what she is like when she is on her own, I can only be there for her as and when she needs me.

Yes time is a good healer and hopefully she will meet someone special again. xxx

rm_davarn 65M
5 posts
5/1/2006 4:03 pm

It's happened to many of us, and we recover. In my case, I was in total despair and a woman friend said "In a couple of years, you'll be sitting laughing and be happy with the world. You may not believe it now, but it WILL happen." And she was right, of course.

master_davidlee 52M
18 posts
5/31/2006 6:00 am

yerah its hard but you get over it, it takes time

but realise the other person is the looser not you

and then get on with your life

btw do u like being tied up and blindfolded (lol)

rm_me4u5554 60M
1 post
8/11/2006 4:00 pm

sorry kitty to tell you this but if its deep enough the pain never goes depends on the strength of the person my christine hamilton was nearly 30 years ago you never get over it and the thoughts stay with you

rm_steeeeeeve68 49M

8/27/2006 6:29 pm

kitty,jd over ice,oops wrong place.
when me n the wife finished it was worse than when my mum died, i never experienced pain like it, and never will. i tried an o/d twice in 3 days not for a cry for help but cos i didnt think it could get any worse.the second time i woke up in hospital in a ward of people with not long left to live.(the bloke in the next bed had 2 weeks left,cancer). i dont know weather this was done on purpose but it made me think...........properly! there is always someone worse off then you! now look at me, smile on my face and back to lovin life.time is a healer although u dont feel like it is at the time. one day at a time is a good motto for me and i'm sure it will be for her. pass on a hug from me xxx
ps sorry its a long reply x

try_ME45 59F

11/21/2006 1:15 pm

It doesn't stop.

kittentiger3 replies on 11/21/2006 1:59 pm:
Really? So she will continue to feel the pain Try?

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