Is age really just a number???  

justmevfc 43F
21 posts
10/4/2005 3:04 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Is age really just a number???

OK, before everyone puts the hate on me, this is not in reference to any one person, any one email, or any one post....It is a generalized thought that often swims around in my little, sweet head

How many times has someone said to you "age is just a number!!" This is a falacy and DO NOT fall for it!! Most of the time this comment comes from someone that is either at the extreme edges of too old or too young for your dating preference, but believe me, it just is not true. When I was barely 20 I dated a 31 year old man. At the time I thought we were perfect for each other....ha ha. Looking back I realize that the only thing we had in common was really, really good sex!! (not that it's a bad thing! LO He was worried about paying his mortgage bill, his career, etc., I was worried about my next anatomy exam, I had no bills I was in college on mommy and daddy's dollar!
At the other extreme is me at late 20s dating a 50 plus year old. He had kids close to my age! He was gearing up for early retirement and I was just beginning my career path. Yes, the common ground was good sex!!
Am I saying that two people can't have stuff in common because they are decades, and lifetimes apart...NO, I am just saying that there are differences in where we are in life at 21, 30, 50 and these things can't be ignored. It is more than the number, it is the period or phase of life that comes with it.
Hell, I LOVE older men....always have, always will, and I am sure I will continue to date them, but I realize in many cases we will never go anywhere in the relationship because some things just can't be overcome, and age isn't just a number.....

26love3 67M
3 posts
10/4/2005 5:05 am

I heard a beautiful, sage piece of advice once and he said 'if a younger woman chooses you just give thanks and enjoy the love while it lasts for she will leave and when she does... give thanks.

justmevfc 43F
5 posts
10/4/2005 2:35 pm

very sound advice

HersheyCoco2 53M
128 posts
10/14/2005 9:50 pm

well I dont know where to begin this without it being a public debate here but the late wife and I were 12.5 years apart in age. Now suffice it to say that in order to avoid public debate here someone once told me that there are many people today who have the wrong marriage for the right reasons, whereas he confided in my wife and me that we had the right marriage for the wrong reasons here. So yes age is an issue when you are dealing with different aspects of life, but when two people truly devote themeselves to the other than age knows no boundaries here

mister156 38M

10/28/2005 10:56 am

good point, but to me age is mind over matter if you dont mind then it dont matter

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