The One  

jussweetlilolme 44F
84 posts
3/22/2006 7:52 am

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The One

Is there really only one person who you are allowed to love throughout your whole life? Is a soul mate really out there. You know when you hear about "the one" everybody gets all , "I have found mine" or "I'm still searching for mine"

So whats the deal? Do you have one soul mate of each sex? Can you have a male soul mate and a female soul mate that fill totally separate parts of your inner self and co-habitate with each other in a intimate and or even superficial relationship?

I ponder this because it would seem to me that each time you fall in & out of love you want the relationship to be "the one"

"Oh he just wasn't "the one"" you answer when you break it off with a person & all your friends look at you like you have lost your mind. They weren't there when he kicked your cat, or asked you to sleep with his best how come they can think he was "the one" for you?

If you are constantly seeking "the one" do you bypass others who could be "the one" but because you are so intensely seeking out something else, you have missed your opportunity? Can "the one" be right next to you and you not even know it?

I think I had "the one" when I was younger...I know I had a best friend, someone I shared my everything with, but in the end, I wasn't his "the one" so why is that? How does that work?

Those are my thoughts for the day. Anyone care to delve into this serious topic with me? Or should I stand by the wayside and see how many of you read this, nod your head as if you can relate, and then watch as you leave without leaving the tiniest shred of thought or theory behind what your perception of "the one" may be. are my "one" or I am yours. Maybe we don't know it yet. Maybe...just maybe...


rm_funinic 50M
823 posts
3/22/2006 2:24 pm

There is no one soul mate, but all are different. There can be more than one at a time.

I developed my personal philosophym orals, and ethics in 6-7th grade when I was given the run of the jr hs library and discovered a science-fiction author. I read the books because they were cool, but I ended up getting a libertarian, very liberal in interpersonal relationships, world view.

You might try some of his novels...

I'm having more fun blogging and posting pics than I thought I would have, bedding women has definitely slipped down the priority list in the last couple of days.

Have Fun!

rm_funinic 50M
823 posts
3/22/2006 2:27 pm

damn filters killed the name.

google search on RAH and science fiction and you'll find him.

jussweetlilolme 44F

3/23/2006 1:34 pm

funinic ~ Thanks for the tips on the good reads! How did you know I am a total sci-fi nerd? I did a theory paper on Asimov when I was in high school! Anyway, I have looked up your reference and will soon find myself in a nice bath with a new book...

BTW you know you're not that out of the way form where I am...hmmmmmm

Handsum ~ Do I even have to go there? Tierd? You? Something about slow it down a little, you know you couldn't keep up with lil ol me in a sleepy state of mind... On a serious note, you know, you have a very good theory started here, and I would love to actually get a chance to chat in more of a real time with you on your position if you ever felt up to the conversation...otherwise, thanks for your input, I agree with the ideology you present and unfortunately, life is not predictable, and "the one' does not always seem in ones reach, but one will be there...and you (yes even you) will realize, "the one" is there for us all, it just the lingering I "the one" for the person I think is my "one"? ahhhhhhhhhhhh

glorious babbling, I too should rethink posting while sleep deprived...


rm_art_persists 53M
1789 posts
3/23/2006 2:14 pm

Sweets: I think that the "one" is just a figment of weak minds living in a harlequin romance. True love is fostered, nurtured and developed. It's flexible and accepting and constantly changing. It's truly amazing....

jussweetlilolme 44F

3/23/2006 2:40 pm

Art~ I think, that I should probably take a moment and explain the thoery of "the one"...In essence "the one" is the true love that makes the time you place into nurturing and molding a relationship worthwhile. They are the ones that through good and bad, ugly and pretty and well every cliche' that you can imagine, every situation that can be fathomed, they are there, always. When the work is too much in the relationship "the one" will recognize and carry you while you catch your breath. When the tears are falling because of joy or pain "the one" will wipe them, not with a cloth but with their hand, and then kiss them as if this gesture itself will heal all of the wounds or concecrate the joy you feel...

I know "the one" is the person you hate to say goodbye to, you never tire of talking to, the anticipation until your next conversaiton causes you to check, recheck and then check again the mail, to see if maybe they have written, or sent you something that will appease your missing them and give you a glimmer of what to look forward to.

I guess they are "the one" you never want to picture being out of your life. Work in a relationship is always necessary, but with this person the work is not so much a burden, but what must be done to preserve what you cherish.

Okay I have officially hit the way to into this conversation and with that I bid adoo...

Thank you for being you..Thank you for making me think (again)


rm_funinic 50M
823 posts
3/23/2006 9:21 pm

My term paper in AP English (damn, was it really 1986?!? 20 years ago...) was how Dune was an allegory for oil in the world of the late 40s/early 50s. Got a rather high grade on it, iirc. I was home with mono, and missed the last month of school. Good thing they were all AP classes and the teachers were very understanding.

I thought the David Lynch version sucked.

The SciFi channel version rocks. I just bought Children of Dune and it's just as good. I'm hoping they follow on with the next few installments.


We ARE pretty close. I'm at that warm mail place with the same name...

dasher121 37M

3/24/2006 4:16 am

you def make a great point here. I think that too many people are actively trying to search out their "one". And yes, can very easily overlook the great people that you just have to get to know a little better. My belief is that great things are not found when you are looking for them, they find you when you least expect them.

The Dude.

jussweetlilolme 44F

3/24/2006 6:32 am

Funinic ~ You & I could have some really cool convos on this topic...I may start another thread just for this topic (sci-fi)

OH Dasher, how could I have overlooked you? Goota give you props on the personal beliefs going on here...Have to say that the harder you look the less you find is an all too often true statement

Thank you for coming to visit me...oh yeah and beware...there is this silly game in which I must find a poor unsupecting soul (or two) and give them a what for & a how come(See Handsums comment) ...soo whatch out!! Sweets is lurking!


rm_funinic 50M
823 posts
3/24/2006 5:36 pm

I used to live to find a new RAH book I'd not seen yet. He got weirder as he aged. I liked his concept of the group marriage, it was a recurring theme across many decades. The problem in the real world is that everyone needs to be honest, accepting, and have absolutely no trace of jealousy.

Don't read his last book published, which was the first one he wrote, until you read a bunch of his early stuff. "For us, the living" I think it is called.

I haven't read much recently, and miss is a lot. There's something magical about reading a book and getting the images in your head, instead of having some movie director/producer ram them down your throat. Starship Troopers, for instance, sucked as an adaptation of his book. As a stand-alone movie it worked, but there were too many changes and the whole feel of the movie was off.

Still wondering if you're thinking in terms of geography... I'm a cheap bastard and haven't paid up yet, and given my current situation (separated and without any cash on hand) it looks to stay that way for a while.

I just happen to have multiple orgasms, no wait, that's copies of books, in my basement. Either way I could send some to you.

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