Well here goes with a rant...  

juslookin2005 57M
8 posts
2/25/2006 9:04 am

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Well here goes with a rant...

I was going to have a rant about how unimaginative some women are when writing their profile. I got fed up reading the same profile over and over again from different women. (I guess some guys probably do the same, but I don't normally read guys' profiles.)
But then today my dear friend points out some guy (cumforme20069) who has lifted huge chunks of my own profile and is passing them off as his own!
I spent many months crafting those words to say exactly what I want to say, hoping to make my case clearly understood. And now this guy comes along, lifts my profile and pretends this is what he is about! In truth this is yet another display of a complete lack of imagination. I'll let you decide how you wish to view that.
Just so we are clear here, what you see in my profile is 100% my own, original text (whether you like it or not!). If seen anywhere else it is a copy and has no association with me.
There...I feel better for that !

UPDATE: I must point out that some days after writing this, my friend berated this person for their actions. Subsequently they apologised and removed their profile. They explained that what I had written was how they felt so they lifted big chunks of it.
Sadly their original actions just led my friend to:
a) Think I was playing games with her, which it ultimately became clear was NOT the case because I most certainly do not play profile games.
b) View this individual in a very poor light, giving him a telling off and presumably made this guy feel a bit of a fool. (Presuming he has opened a new profile, I hope he has done himself and others the service of writing a real profile about himself)

You can't scare me, I have children!

MMDeveloper 36M
70 posts
2/25/2006 10:25 am

yeah, females profiles tend to be a catch-22 if you will. In order to be "different", females alway claim they are unique, one of a kind, and "not your typical girl." In reality, like in the upper 90 percentile of female profiles say that exact same thing, just phrased differently. This makes girls who use that type of descripting to say they are not your typical female, in facts makes them a typical female; do they not see this? It's like today's harley davidsons. Everyone customizes their rides to be different; but one person years ago pointed out that the only way to stand out and be unique is to ride a stock harley, they only exist on the assembly lines.

rm_M101101 47F
1 post
6/30/2006 2:19 pm

I think you should maybe get over yourself mate... We as women are damned if we do and damned if we dont...

If we describe ourselves we could be seen as slutty or too easy... if we say the same things as the next person we are guilty of being boring, repeatative or underselling ourselves!!!

You come on a site advertising sex and wanting women who will do everything your wild desires dream of and yet you want her to be intelligent, interesting and funny, look good in high heels and be able to cook!!!

Read tho the boring repetative description and you might find lots of shy intelligent women out there!!!

juslookin2005 57M

7/1/2006 10:48 am

Sorry, but I don't agree. The great thing about this site is that everyone gets a chance to say exactly want they want to say about themselves. We are all individuals...all different. To just repeat what the next person said says absolutely nothing about oneself.
I would like a woman to say who SHE is, not a template desciption (obviously the same would go for men too). It may be that having read that profile then maybe she is not for me...hey ho, that's life. But at least I have an idea of who she is. But just reading a template profile gives me no clue as to who she is and so I can't make a decision on that. That has not helped me and for the woman's sake has not helped her either.

How can reading an exact copy of a template profile give me any indication of a shy, intelligent woman....for all I know it is equally likely to be an outgoing, stupid woman - how do I know?! All it gives me is an indication of someone who is either too lazy or has insufficient self respect to do themselves the justice of a PERSONAL profile. I would rather read "Sorry, I haven't thought through what to say here yet..back soon" than a stock response of "...continuing the shagging I started the night before and on Sunday driving free with the wind in my hair"...I have read that over & over again and by now it is meaningless.

When taking exams you are not allowed to copy other peoples' work. Why? Because it shows no effort, no indication that you care about what you are doing and that you are hoping to fool the reader into thinking you are something that you are not. That concept holds true just as much for a profile as well.

On here I have read many individually written profiles. Some are a little short and don't say too much. Others are very long and detailed...and many more in between. All these descibe the author...to me they show these people as shy, happy, a bit freaky, caring, slutty, boring, kinky, emotional, exciting, sad, sexy, good fun and plain mad ! Out of all those people I can make a free choice as to whom I would like to make initial contact. Those people have done themselves the service of letting others see who they are and make decisions. Others who do not do this are just making their task harder.

Please...when writing a profile, put in words that say 'This is me', not 'Let's hope you'll think this is me even though it says nothing about me'.

You can't scare me, I have children!

wednesday16 69F

11/22/2006 4:35 pm

Well--for my own part--can I just say,of all the profiles that the men have "written" on AdultFriendFinder--this one in particular stands out for me head and shoulders above all otheres.
Not simply in its' length--but--its' depth----ok,you can take a risqué rise out of that,I suppose!!--but after constantly seeing the repetitive stock phrases that are suggestions of the site--or--practically nothing at all,therefore both aspects leaving the notion of rather "empty" personalities---this profile is indeed refreshing in the extreme.
At risk of coming across,unintentionally, sexist--for a man to take the time and effort to think and put his thoughts finally into "written" words in order that no-one mistakes his desires/intentions/personality is to be wholly applauded and admired.
Hey,gorgeous guy--I salute you!!!

On a serious note,though---wonderful stuff---thank you on behalf of all us intelligent,appreciative,females with their OWN depth of insight into such a super,sensual,sexy man!!!---

Where is your toga,oh,you strong,sensitive,Gladiator you!!!--

Karen xxxxxx

juslookin2005 57M

11/23/2006 2:11 pm

Wow, thank you for those kind words, Wednesday. I am pleased that my efforts to put across my case have been appreciated...if it makes your 'job' easier then the effort has been worthwhile.

Funnily enough, just before you posted this I had a mail from a lady who had read my rant and decided that I must be incredibly boring and therefore she has no interest in me whatsoever!

Well obviously not the kind of response I would like, but it seems that at least I put across enough information for this lady to make a judged decision. Isn't it wonderful that we are all different and see the world in different ways. Makes life far more interesting

You can't scare me, I have children!

wednesday16 69F

11/23/2006 2:29 pm

BORING?????--a guy who openly professes to like big,beautiful women??--"Fern Britton"--"Dawn French"-----well,now--what kind of guy,enveloped in soft,feminine skin--losing his senses in all those curves and yet giving of himself in return,can be remotely described as --"boring"--????----

Bring it on--is all I can say!!---a real guy in a real world of real women!!!
I personally think you are something rather wonderful----a man,indeed,to be celebrated!
I am not as big as the two afore-mentioned ladies---but neither am I Kate Moss nor Jordan---simply "me"---buxom,(58--and proud of the fact that I'm so very much disbelieved in that!!!)--I'm part of the Human Race alive in 2006---and for those who want different???--well there is plenty of that,too---happily,though,YOU are a guy that is genuinely interested in "True Woman"-a woman of the 21st Century-!!!
Love to you,you super guy----Karen xxxxxx

noggin20064 53F

3/28/2007 1:32 pm

I have read your rant, but both and women are not totally honest on their profiles for fear of rejection.
Its obvious that the guys have read the site heading AdultFriendFinder sex and swingers and the ladies as another dating site.
I personally do not like profiles with a lot of 'prefer not to say's, if you expect the person you engage in chat or email to be honest then at least be honest yourself.
I do understand for some people its hard to write about themselves as we see ourselves different from others but if your true to yourself then you will have no probs attracting what you want from this site or in the real world.

juslookin2005 replies on 3/28/2007 4:30 pm:
Yes I agree with you. It can be hard sometimes to critique yourself, but one should always try to be as honest as possible, because otherwise the truth will turn up further down the line and then possibly cause more damamge and upset than it should.

Yes I wonder about some of those 'prefer not to say' responses as well. Mind you, sometimes AdultFriendFinder add extra questions in after you have filled out your profile and they default to that phrase.

sextzee 77F

7/26/2008 8:09 pm

I am honest on my profile and it does not affect the judgement of me from others on this site, in fact quite the opposite.

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