On polyamory...  

johninco 62M
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12/14/2005 8:43 pm

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On polyamory...

Ever since I read my first Heinlein book many years ago, the idea has intrigued me, and my wife as well. As a career Army Ranger and Intel officer, I was deployed a lot, and we left things "open" but not "scandalous". Especially in that field, it's almost a necessity for career military. After I retired (a month before 9/11, but that's another entry some day), we discovered we really enjoy variety more than occasionally. Tried the swap thing (okay, not bad a couple times) menage both ways (see an earlier blog), and even, although only briefly, experimented with polyandry and polygyny. I know why Solomon went mad, and the Chinese pictograph for "trouble" is "two women under one roof". Both experiments ended,well, not too well. We came close to a true polyamory with a couple we're still friends with, but their profession made it impossible to carry on for long without placing them in considerable risk or career-ending scandal. But we've both agreed that if we ever find an other who can get along well with our primary (the language gets somewhat technical here; try Google for definitions) and with our primary's other, we'd be open to building a polyamory Heinlein-style once my youngest leaves home in about 4 or 5 years. In the meantime, we continue to explore separately and discreetly, but always vetting people we explore with for potential members of a polyamorous situation.

If you're not thoroughly confused yet, get back to me. Or get back to me if you are, and I'll try to explain it.

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