Show and tell open moments, do you have them?  

ivory502 46M/F
6 posts
8/9/2006 10:58 am

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Show and tell open moments, do you have them?

Have you ever had a day where you are feeling particularly open and your partner seems to be in the same mood?
You decide to tell each other truths about yourself that you have kept hidden for years and have never told anyone. You talk about simple things first then you remember something you have half forgotten or something you have wanted to tell someone for years but have been too scared to......
you say that you have a memory, thought or fantasy you want to tell them about... your heart starts pounding like a jackhammer, you feel sweat beading on your brow. You look at your hands they are shaking like leaves in the wind, your throat seizes on you.
Your partner looks at you and says "Yes? What is it?"
OH NO!!! THATS TOO FAST, HOLD ON, SLOW DOWN!!! "Never mind" you say.
"Oh come on! You know you want to tell me, What is it?"
"Oh just a thought" you say.
"Noooo, its bigger than that. Spit it out"
" Well ok, this is what it is and just listen for now.".... and it all comes poaring out..
The whole time you are watching your partners face checking to see if there is any rejection there.
No, all you see is love and understanding on their face. You talk about it together once you have finished sharing your story and the relief is immense.....
Then it is your partners turn and you see the same thing happening to them. You share 1 mabye 2 of these and then call it a night, you go to bed and have the most amazing, loving sex you have had in a while. You both fall asleep sated and peacefull...... till next time!

My question is, after all the years together, why is it just as difficult the next time one of these windows of opportunity opens? It is truly one of the most amazing and scary times in the emotional rollercoaster of a relationship!!! Do you all experience the same feeings?

sexycplhre 56M/46F
15 posts
8/18/2006 8:26 am

Absolutely I agree with you.

We all fear rejection or non acceptance and that is why we hold back.

Maybe we can share these?

M of M&A

rm_222when911 47M/43F
5206 posts
8/19/2006 6:37 pm

Have you heard of six degrees of separation? There are always small (large) voids created by fear to share intimacies. Shrugging fear gives the individual the opportunity open avenues to sharing that you may not have explored. Be prepared to hear information that shocks you. Do not be a judge, because we all carry secrets we feel are more than private. J

"You may think I'm a little off center, but if you really knew me you'd run~!"

temptation2try 48M/46F
2 posts
12/18/2006 5:05 am

We are in a similar position to yourselves but have explored a little further. We have had a full sexual experience with another couple that was very erotic and extremely stimulating. We both recommend you try going a bit further as the results are healthy for your marriage as well as your self belief. The secret is to have the right partners and it sounds as though you have connected with the right people. Provided there are no jealousy issues or problems in your relationship the benefits are more than worth it. Hope your experience when it happens is as good as ours was or better. This whole game is and can be well worth the effort if you are open and free with each other. Good luck.

ivory502 46M/F

2/16/2007 9:05 am

We have now had a experience with another couple and as you say it is a amazing experience as well as meeting a amazing couple who are fantastic people and good friends now.

drkainz 37M

2/28/2007 8:54 pm

go for pleasure

69sexessential 46M/46F

4/16/2007 7:19 am

I guess in this lifestyle there is always some fear of rejection and recrimination. You wonder if you can really enjoy yourself without your spouse getting upset and jealous and imagining that what you're getting is more and better than what they can give.
I would question the love and devotion that a couple have for each other if this were not the case. If you did not have these concerns then there never was anything there that was worth losing in the first place. In the end, it's these uncertain times that draw a couple closer together and allow them to seek security and assurance from each other. This is turn promotes open discussion where each spouse can reassure the other that no matter what other level of intimacy they achieve with others in this lifestyle, theirs will always be the most special and totally irreplaceable. The other point to remember is that this lifestyle is easy for men but harder on the woman. A woman gives a lot more away emotionally than a man so it is important that you meet the right couple so that you don't come out feeling cheap and dirty.

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