Anal Sex  

imBambi 59M/51F
86 posts
1/1/2006 6:17 pm

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Anal Sex

Anal Sex

Welcome to my bedroom…

In my last blog, I talked about female ejaculation. I was very complimentary towards “Mr. Bambi”, my lover. Yet, as good as he is with the pussy, he falls short of the mark when it comes to anal sex.

I enjoy anal sex immensely. Unfortunately, Mr. Bambi has not perfected the technique of anal penetration. God only knows what he is doing back there… Half of the time he goes soft before he gets his penis in. Of course, when he does manage to get it in, the sex is fantastic for both of us.

I’m trying to figure out what’s going on. We use lubrication and I am always a willing participant. Could it be that that half of the time “Mr. Bambi” is just not interested in having anal sex with me (even though he says otherwise)?

Please share your ideas…


rm_Isledorn 46M
4 posts
1/1/2006 11:13 pm

Once I got passed the fear of getting homo-erotic tendencies, it was not a problem anymore. So he may be enjoying it, just that something pops in his head that distractes him from the pleasure of it. Once he gets over whatever it is thats bothering him (if any)it shouln't be a problem anymore. He just might prefer ravaging you body in other ways. Lucky guy.

abbw4blkmen 61F

1/2/2006 12:47 am

I truly enjoy anal sex too, and the other day asked a black male with a very big and thick cock to butt fuck me. Although he was very interested in giving me what I wanted, he said he couldn't because he was not hard enough. After literally banging the shit out of me vaginally, he was able to stroke himself into rock hardness in my pussy to be able to give me all I needed and more in my ass. OUCH! Be careful what you ask for, you might get it...but oh I felt so good during the act...very mindblowing and intense orgasm.

aascrompn 43M
6444 posts
1/2/2006 7:11 am

I'm just not all that into it. It's great on occasion, but I can't say that I actually crave doing it. Maybe he just needs a break from it for a while.

Jst4Fun7979 38M

1/2/2006 9:13 am

I actually find it harder to find a woman who is interested and willing to try anal sex...yes it does require a guy to be harder for a little while because it is so much tighter, but in my experience well worth the extra effort. Good luck with your efforts >>!

curiouscoup2065 67M/52F
2 posts
1/2/2006 1:15 pm

I have had anal sex before and have to admit that it wasn't all that great. I guess it takes an understanding and not forcing partner to really enjoy it. It hurt to no end during and after the fact.

I am willing to try it again with my partner of almost two years. He said he had it one time but it wasn't earth shaking for him. I wonder what it will be like with him.

Churched 44M
3 posts
1/2/2006 4:17 pm

Bambi, i tend to agree with your first poster. Sometimes the thought process become filled with us trying not to hurt you, get inside you while still trying not to hurt you and other such thoughts. No wonder Mr. Bambi has a hard time. Myself I am an anal affectionado and have found that a nice steady push not only helps me stay hard but is easier for my partner to take. Just be patient and be happy that you both enjy it when it works!

mysteriesofme 45F

1/2/2006 4:51 pm

My thoughts... Put the boy on his back... slide it in yourself.. and Yee haw, babE {=}

rm_towjoe2 61M
28 posts
1/4/2006 3:57 am

bambi mr is lucky to have you . Areyou putting to much pressure on him ?

CrazyRightNow99 49M
34 posts
1/4/2006 6:29 pm

Hey Bambi, I love to fuck my wifes ass!
The trick for me is to go slow and make sure she is very hot.
My cock never goes soft when I know I'm getting her ass.
This may not help you, however I just wanted to share.
Love your blog!

KDR305 47M/47F

1/4/2006 6:43 pm

Ms. Bambi~

(It's me... Mr. Longwinded again...)

My respect for you and Mr. Bambi only continues to grow as I read more of your blog. I'm so jealous of the fact that you BOTH post on AdultFriendFinder. It can only do good!

I don't know anything about you guys. Do you verbally encourage him when you want the Big One?

For example, my wife LOVES ass play (by which I mean tongue and fingers). Yet I never know when is the right time to "approach". Sometimes I'll think I'm getting the signals, only to be staunchly denied. Other times, she'll grab my hand and push it forcefully toward the promised land with a vengeance.

Even then, she'll often offer resistance (even with plenty of lube and preparation) only to react with wild abandon once the seal is broken.

Most guys with any real sexual history have a memory of anal sex gone bad. And most of the time it's based on lack of communication.

Any time you're with someone you care about, the last thing you want is to be considered selfish.

So I would encourage you to show your ass to him in a sexy, playful manner. Show him how easy it is for you to slide a finger or a toy in there when you want to. And when it's time for him to go there, talk him through it. Tell him how much you want it. Tell him how good it feels and whether to go faster or slower. Communicate to him that he isn't hurting you.

Also realize that the "tightness" often refered to in anal sex really only refers to the anal sphincter itself. After that, you're into the colon, which doesn't offer a whole lot of friction for the man.

There are (in my opinion) 2 ways for a man to REALLY enjoy giving a woman anal sex. The first is to push all the way in and all the way out on every thrust. This gives the man the necessary friction over the full length of the penis (especially the head) that is necessary to reach orgasm.

The second is for the woman to display such an overwhelming affinity for the act that it supercedes the actual sensation. Fucking an ass in the same way you fuck a pussy just doesn't feel as good. It's like havng a tight o-ring around your cock while you fuck a bowl of pudding. It looks sexy as hell. And it's taboo, which makes it a turn on. Without the full range of maotion though, it can't compare to the pussy. In addition, if you're constantly worried about hurting the girl, the fun suddenly diffuses into the mist.

However, if the girl is rooting you on .... it changes the whole dynamic.

I recently bought a porno DVD starring Lexington Steele. If you don't know who he is, he's a black porn star who has simply the hugest cock I've ever seen. And unlike many other guys who approach his size, his cock is hard ... he's good looking, and he knows how to fuck.

When the title screen for the DVD opens up, you don't hear the normal music. You hear a woman getting righteously fucked. No video, just audio.

The main thing you hear between the moans is this: "Oh... Yeah.... He know's what I need... that big fucking COCK.... right in my shitter!"

Major turn on.

While I appreciate the fact that this might be outside the realm of some people's ability: it's exactly the attitude a woman needs to have if she truly wants to be fucked in the ass.

Luvwetcunt1000 50M
1258 posts
1/5/2006 9:36 pm

Why don't you just talk to him about it? There could be something at the back of his mind that creates an obstacle.

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