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i6u9we69allnight 41F
65 posts
7/21/2005 9:36 pm

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help help help

I am losing my mind and dont know what to say or do about it.

I need everyones opinion on how to handle a situation that has come up in my home.

Last night I thought my my 10 yr old daughter was in bed, but much to my surprise she was on the computer. It turns out that she was on a chat program and had the web cam turned on. as if this not bad enough I find out that she is showing her newly forming boobs to a boy who is 15.
I found this all out because when I logged on my computer this afternoon I went to this chat program and seen it was logged on to her name so I went to check the history.

By the time I found everything out she was gone for the night to her grandmothers

Now for my question to everyone...What should I say and do to this child of mine when she gets home from grandmas at noon tomorrow.

rm_dive_on_in 45M
2 posts
7/21/2005 11:54 pm

She is way too young to be showing her boobs to any one, ground her and take away her computer privileges for 1 month.

edgeism50 33M

7/22/2005 10:33 am

Seems like she's starving for affection. There's probably something else going through her mind, a talk with her that might clear things up a bit. I'd also take a look into a parental control programs out there and see if that will help with the problem. Also let her know that she is beautiful but to get attention she doesn't need to show anything but her face! Taking away the computer may just make her want to be sneekier and find ways around it. It also may push her away from talking to you about boys and that is going to be something you'll probably want very much in the years comming. Hope everything works out for ya

i6u9we69allnight 41F

7/22/2005 12:46 pm

Thanks for the advice. I have checked into the parental contols but there isnt anything that can be done about the web cam. So I have decided to unhook. I did sit down and have a talk with her and she told me that the neighbor girl was doing it and she seen how much attention she was getting so she thought she would try it. After we talked and I explained things to her I told her she cannot be online anymore and that she has to make sure we are around whenever she gets online from now on. I have also changed my computer's password to something she doesnt know.
Thanks again

rm_titsandtires 53M/43F
3656 posts
7/22/2005 3:41 pm

i agree with edgeism. communicate, and urge her to communicate. freely. i can tell by the way you worded your post that you already realize that how you say something is as important if not more than what you say. being concerned enough to post about what happens tells me that you'll do just fine.

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