The marriage thing  

husb4fun 59M
46 posts
4/2/2005 7:03 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

The marriage thing

Does anybody know how or when marriage came into being? If you go back to the Bible, God created Adam and Eve and they had children and were married in God's eyes (I suppose they were married in His eyes). Is that where monogamy comes from? If you read further you find that David had a few wives and lovers. Solomon had a boat load of wives and lovers. God did not mind. He punished David for having Bathsheba while she was still married and then for having her husband killed, but not for actualy marrying her. I do not recall anywhere in the Bible where it says we are to married to one person. There are a couple verses that say that an elder or deacon or priest should be the husband of one wife, but for the common man, there is nothing at all said about it. God allowed it and Jesus said he did not come to abolish the law, but to fulfill it. Maybe I need to look at the law as it is written in the Bible.

Enough of the religious part of this. I think that, one, humans (at least some humans) are not monogamous. With the divorce rates as they are, I think some people would be happy to have and probably should have, multiple partners without the punishment of divorce. This site is an example of people who are not monoagamous. How many of us out there are married and looking for something on the side? Number two, I think the government ought to keep their hands out of it. The idea that they can give a "marriage license" to people implies that if the government is not happy with it, they can revoke it. The revoke people's driver's licences and other licenses when they violate the laws, what's to keep them from doing that with marriage licenses? Besides, can't people marry in the eyes of their religion? Besides the government saying that Bill and Ted or Sharon and Amy cannot marry each other, what's to keep them from finding a minister in the religion they share and having him/her marry them? Is that not more of a commitment then just doing it to satisfy the state?

Well saying all that, I am happy in my marriage and I am happy that my wife understands my need to be with other women also. I have a gem of a wife and wouldn't trade her for anything in the world. I wouldn't mind finding more like her.

playfulpussy28 42F

4/7/2005 12:26 pm

She sounds very cool... I also agree with you and your wife.

SparksFlyin4U 59F

4/16/2005 8:00 pm

Well, as our profile reads, we feel the exact same way. HOWEVER, WE have not found the general population to be accepting of the concept of an "open marriage." You and your wife have the trust to play separately. So do we. But are you not finding that this site has a majority of couples who believe that it is wrong to not ONLY play together? I bet it is because you are posted as a man, not a couple, as we are.

I am the female half of our couple. Even though I am not looking for a sex partner, I still want to be on the site. I enjoy the groups, and I find the site entertaining. We also enjoy posting erotic photos. But MAN! What happens with us is that, because we are listed as a couple, the women are not finding my husband, even though we say we are looking for women. Personally, I think the women on here are mostly not real, but the ones who are look at being with my husband as cheating. Most couples have not taken the time to read our profile. They write us a glowing letter, but then when we point out that I am not playing, you should read some of the nasty things we have received!! One couple wrote back and actually said that if you didn't play with your partner, that was just plain wrong! And yet, here they are on a sex and swingers site!! Just plain baffles me.

I agree with you that we, as humans, just aren't wired to have sex with only one person in our entire life. Perhaps, COMMITMENT, but not sex. And when you consider the advances in medicine, our lifespans are getting longer and longer...this is putting people in the position of having one sex partner for maybe 50, 60 years??!! Why on earth, should we condemn ourselves to that?

And to answer your question about where all of this came from, from the reading I have done, (as I am interested in this as well) I think we have the Victorians to blame. All through the era of the Roman Empire, sex with more than one partner, as well as bisexual activity, was normal practice. And for pete's sake. If a same sex couple wants to "marry" why in the world is this hurting anyone? Why is love, in any form, a bad thing? Maybe we were just born a little too soon. I think that 100 years from now, general attitudes will be moving more in a direction of our way of thinking. NOW. If we could just get everyone to wake up about STDs like Herpes and HPV! Get everyone educated about those, and we could all be having some REAL fun!

husb4fun 59M

4/17/2005 9:07 am

Sparks, very nice comment. We need more people thinking like you.

YesMissTia 44F

7/13/2005 12:27 am

Well see you skipped a pretty crucial part of the bible. In Gen 2:24 it states," This is why a man leaves his father and mother and becomes attached to his WIFE(notice thats not plural) and they become ONE flesh. (not one of many). Now that was the old testament and in the new it states in Hebrew 13:4 " Marriage must be honoured by ALL, and marriages must be kept undefiled, because the sexually immoral and adulterers (hmm whats an adulter)will come under Gods judgement. One more thing you left out, solomon was a polygomist it wasnt right in Gods eyes hence 1King 11:1-11:32 which tells of solomons demise because of him NOT obeying Gods laws.

Phew hate to get all biblical on an adult site but if youre going to quote one part tell the end of the story as well as the part thats convenient for you.

husb4fun 59M

7/13/2005 9:08 am

YesMissTia, I see what you are saying and thank you for the insight. Please also understand that David had several wives and was not punished for it, but rather punished for murdering (having the woman's husband moved to the front then abandonded) her husband. His son Solomon was actually the son of this marriage. Is not the book of Leviticus the law of God as given to Moses? I need to check. I'm also going to look at those references that you have included. Believe it or not, I appreciate this post a lot. Gives me things to think about.

Hmmm, 2 things, 1) I need to look at my Bible again (I admit it's been a while). 2) VERY NICE PIC

rm_ebonynites69 49F
5 posts
7/13/2005 9:20 pm

well my opinion after reading that you are happy with your wife and yo wish to find more like her what comes to mind is Utah were polyligamy is rampant. i think we in america want to much excess the bigger the better and more of quantity than quality especially when it come to partners .

YesMissTia 44F

7/13/2005 10:06 pm

WEll I am glad that I mad you think there lol.Let me give you something else to think about. There are a lot of things that go on in the world Read Jermiaa 10:23 and 2Timothy 3:16. Nuff said pretty much.

husb4fun 59M

7/14/2005 6:50 am

ebonynites, I think in general people want more, period. Quality is better than quantity (except in the financial area). Yes I love my wife dearly, and she loves me. I certainly don't think the the polygamists do the right thing especially when it comes down to underage children. I do however think the government should have no right to tell us that we can't have more than one spouse if we desired.

YesMissTia, I will look those up. Again thank you. What are you doing here, btw?

YesMissTia 44F

7/14/2005 10:17 pm

I stumbled in here and the door moved on me so i couldnt get back out lol

husb4fun 59M

7/15/2005 7:12 am

yesmisstia, lol. You look very nice. Just thought I'd throw that in.

YesMissTia 44F

7/18/2005 10:23 pm

Thank you very much husb4fun, SO DO YOU!

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