honeycomb1974 45M/44F
133 posts
4/5/2006 3:30 am

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5/3/2006 6:02 pm


Here it is middle of the night,why am I up because I just had a bad dream. Two years ago my female lover died. She was there one minute gone the next. I haven't been with a woman since she passed away, but I have had relationships with guys. I know some people believe dreams have meanings and I wanted to know what some of you think about this dream.
I was laying there with another women and enjoying her touching me. We were not making love, just her rubbing my legs. Then I started to hear some one crying, coming from behind me, when I turned around it was my lover. Just the way she looked when she passed away. The next thing I remember I was standing up to kiss her and she turned away from me. I started to run after her and she turned and looked at me this time she looked gray, dead, like a ghost.I pulled back and then she was gone.
Needless to say now I'm awake and wondering why in the hell I dreamed such a thing. I haven't dreamed of her in a long time and now that I thought I was ready to move on there she is again.

rm_Shortdogg65 53M
672 posts
4/5/2006 2:19 pm

From what you've told me you cared very nuch for this woman. She was very special to you. I would guess that she also had deep feelings for you. You've accepted the fact that she is gone and feel that you are ready to move on,however you still have some inner turmoil. Because there was such a deep bond between you, you may feel that replacing her with another woman would cause her great unhappiness. You still care greatly for her but feel the need for physical satisfaction also. I still dream of my late father on occasion and he's been dead for nearly 18 years now. Our relationship was tumultuous and conflicted and I didn't realize how much I loved the old man until the day I put him in the ground. Shortdogg

honeycomb1974 replies on 4/8/2006 7:27 am:
I know it kinda feels like I'm cheating on her even though I know her well enough to know that she would have expected me to move on. She loved life and wouldn't want me to stop living but I do miss her.

JazzDlight 61F

4/8/2006 8:47 am

Dreams sometimes are funny things and dont always mean what you think they do. May be subconsiously this woman has been on your mind lately or you have been thinking about her and this is the way it has manifested. If you are ready to move on with your life and you had this dream it may be just her way of saying goodbye to you...she might have been crying in your dream cause she was happy that you have moved on with someone else. But this is just my opinion. Take care and good luck. Jazz

honeycomb1974 replies on 4/8/2006 10:38 am:
Thanks Jazz, I know it is time for me to move on, I just cann't help but miss her. I know I shall always remember her. Honey

sccock4u22 58M

4/15/2006 2:45 pm

i believe the ones that have passed ahead of us stay around us as long as we need them we all grieve and mourn in our own ways and time. I think you was keeping her here because you missed her she was close to you i think she gave you a dream as a sign to move on her crying for you was her way of showing how important you was to her. she will always be there with you watchinhg over you and enjoying you and happiness...I choose not to mourn the dead but celebrate their life do what she loved to do ...Pete

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