Why can't we be friends?  

hereforyou6217 44M
376 posts
10/25/2005 1:14 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Why can't we be friends?

Like most people on this site who enjoy and make frequent (or less-frequent-than-I-should, in my case)use of the blog features of the site, I have several people whom I've come to know and like quite a bit through reading their personal essays every few days. Some of them like writing stories, some of them like talking about sex, some of them just post the most offensive (and usually hilarious) emails that they've received from clueless men who should know better.

(really, guys. Do some research, won't you? You should know that they're gonna skewer you the next day!)

My favorite writers are the ones who mix all of these types. A little erotica, a little mocking, a little sex talk, a little flirting... it's fun, it's friendly, and no one's gonna get hurt.

But posting in peoples' blogs has brought to light another issue with AdultFriendFinder that I've wrestled with a little.

There are definitely people on this site who I really want to play with. I send them email-- and sometimes, they even send email back. I've met some very fun people, in that way. I've also met several people who just seem like they would be an absolute BLAST to just go out, have a beer and hang out with. It's not that I don't find them attractive-- sometimes I find them MORE attractive-- but I know that they have some issue with me (too far away, too... married, etc), so I'm not going to push that issue.

Well, I got called on it last week, by someone I find to be really sweet and fun. And in case the person reads this (they check in here every once in a while), know that this isn't all about you-- it's an issue I've been thinking about it for a while. The question:

How do you let people on a sex personals site know that you don't need to feel interested in them as a sex partner in order to be in contact with them? That you're just fine with being friends, flirting and having fun?

It's a limitation of the site, I think, that we all (and by all, I mostly mean the men) seem to be so focused on finding sex partners that we don't tend to see that sometimes we can just find some friends here-- wonderful people who we just like to talk to, because they're far away, or they're married, or they don't fit our criteria in one way or another. Just because I'm far away and taken, does that mean we can't flirt or talk?

Or maybe that's not what you meant. Oops.

ladysabrina66 51F

12/29/2005 5:49 am

Herefor... I am not much on reading alot unless it catches my eye. Yours caught my eye. I met you through a chat room which i cool, but you seem like a really cool fella.I am educated and enjoy being stimulated in my mind as well. I really look forward to getting to know you. I know this comment is not about your post, but i just had to let you in on the fact that i think you are a fine individual.


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