helga_hansen 50F  
3122 posts
7/25/2005 12:29 pm

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My dad always told me that men don't like girls who chase them. As the years have gone by, I've wondered about that. What do I do if the man I like is shy? Do I sit there and wait (perhaps forever) for him to make the first move... or do I ignore my dad's words of wisdom and give the man a little push start in the right direction?

I'd love to hear what the A F F world has to say about this conundrum...

Love, hugs and kisses from ♥♥HH♥♥


7/25/2005 1:32 pm

give him a push

TheQuietGuy2005 56M
2386 posts
7/25/2005 1:44 pm

I dunno about the A F F world, but as far as I'm concerned a push start is definitely sensible. Oh, I guess the really shy ones might panic ... but if you don't make the advances, you stand to lose out anyway.

Perhaps your dad's words of wisdom were valid when he was younger ... nowadays things are much more relaxed in that respect. I'd see it as a compliment.

Besides, it saves the guy having to work up the courage to make the first move

rm_eberly930 50M/52F

7/25/2005 3:10 pm

Advice from a shy guy....don't wait. My wife made the first move on me. I don't think most guys would react badly to a woman letting them know she's interested. In fact, I suspect most would be flattered.

C & A

freetime648 53F

7/25/2005 10:11 pm

Miss Helga, the best thing is to react the way you would want. His reaction to you reacting would be part of the fun. Besides, once he is ok with you he will no longer be shy! *hugs*

xx FREETIME648 xx

beech1234 49M

7/25/2005 11:03 pm

I'm sure your dad was right about everything else...but about this he was wrong. Do what you feel is right, Helga.

badgered69 50M
40 posts
7/26/2005 5:24 am

Both get drunk and then make a move. If it goes Pete Tong then you can use the old 'I didn't know what I was doing' routine. That's what I say anyway, sure most of you will disagree.

helga_hansen 50F  
1987 posts
7/26/2005 10:44 am

Wow... looks like an overwhelming majority in favour of me giving my shy guy that gentle push

Thanks so far for the comments... it's nice to see that men would be happy for a woman to take the initiative.


Love, hugs and kisses from ♥♥HH♥♥

3 posts
7/26/2005 2:38 pm

go for it girl,i'm a shy guy and would consider it a way round my fears.any how he wouldn't turn you down!

leyndokona2 51F

7/26/2005 4:34 pm

I always go after what I want no matter what others say (and you know where that got me sis

Chase him!

UnpinAfireFaust 59M

7/27/2005 10:16 pm

If the shy guy has gained and holds your interest Miss Helga, give him a nudge. If you wait for him, it may never happen. Flattered wouldn't even begin to tell you how I'd feel if I was "nudged" by someone like you! Listen to your sis' advice.

AmberSolaire 43M

7/29/2005 9:12 am

Depends why hes shy.

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