Sometimes Change Is NOT Always a Good Thing  

heavensent11236 53F
2577 posts
7/16/2006 6:19 pm

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Sometimes Change Is NOT Always a Good Thing

I sort of belong to this group, it use to be fun, but lately I guess thats the last thing I'd call it.
Everyone use to get along, but seems thats changed ALOT over the past few months.
A lot of backstabbing, lieing, coming on to other females guy friends or dates for the night or whatever you call them.
Once upon a time you didn't have to watch your back and every word you said, because lately it appears whatever you do say will be totally taken out of context, if not blatently lied about, all to cause more trouble.
There's been alot of people leaving the group recently, fed up. I've just been sitting back and watching the dynamics, I'm beginning to understand why they left.
I made some real friends in that group, people that I enjoy seeing but maybe not enough to have to deal with all the female drama. Why is it the men don't do this? You don't see the men with all the catty behavior. I just came back to the group after an extended absence but I'm beginning to think it might have been better if I'd stayed gone completely.

rm___poet__ 46M
3583 posts
7/16/2006 7:25 pm

I'm glad that I saw ya and I am glad you are still here. The fact is you just have to do what is right for you.

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1Sir_Lancelot 61M

7/16/2006 9:47 pm

I agree, sometimes I think people don't think about the repercussions their actions will have in the future. What may seem like a fun idea at the time will sometimes end up hurting friendships in the long run. If you'd like to talk sometime just let me know, I can be a good listener.

rm_Kingcat4U2 66M
2799 posts
7/17/2006 4:36 am

That's about as low, as low can be. You said you made some real friends, so spend your time with them and it doesn't have to be at the M&G's and all that stuff. The lowlifes will eventually move on
when they discover they're being ignored. Any group is diminished when it starts losing quality members. Hope you stick around.

heavensent11236 53F

7/17/2006 4:51 am

Poet- I was UNBELIEVABLY glad to see you again, you have no idea how much I missed you, and others in the group have missed you as well, you were always one of the good ones

1Sir- isn't really about talking, just watching things crumble because of a couple of trouble makers, I was asked very recently by another one of the female members if there was any way we could kick one of the biggest trouble makers out, sorry to say unless we ask her to leave that isn't going to happen.

softnlush 54F

7/17/2006 5:44 am

Yikes about the free Felatio in the parking lot...though I have been known to do that(back in the day LOL ) is WITH MY guy,not someone elses..jeez..did that really happen?? Yikes again LOL

Guess I am truly NOT missing much..*shakes her head*

Ok a little feedback in re to backstabbing,cat scratching low self esteem women,some just will not ever change heaven..ever..and I believe that is is because they have SUCH low self worth,that they think hitting on your man,or offering up sexual favors to total strangers online,somehow make them..worth something..when in the end,if the gentleman(and I use that term loosely)does take her up on it,it is just because she puts out..not because of any other reason..too bad that some men and women do not hold themselves to some sort of standards,feel it is OK to step on another toes and then still not get why they have no true female friends..My female friends would never do that to me..nor I to them..I cannot understand why females betray eachother so much..boggles my mind. My advice,feel pity for her,but never trust her..fucked up as it sounds..if you are going to hang in a just have to keep your fences up,and your radar sound at all times..not for most of the women,but you know the ones I mean..the ones that feel that is all they have to offer..thank goodness there are not many..thank goodness.


heavensent11236 53F

7/17/2006 7:01 am

ok, I edited my blog, took out the part about the BJ, appears it may not have happened now afterall, jury is still out, but the point being, don't mess with my friends because I will retaliate, my friend says it supposedly didn't happen so I'm taking her word on it, for now.

rm___poet__ 46M
3583 posts
7/17/2006 7:04 pm

Thanks for the kind words Heaven...


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_Bound4Pleasure 52F
204 posts
7/18/2006 3:41 pm

Darla, you are a great friend!
I have always enjoyed our chats...
you better not go anywhere!
Ill never forget how you saved me
over in Tampa...
that could have been a dreadful night

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