Once A Bully..........  

heavensent1123 53F
447 posts
4/30/2006 6:57 am

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5/4/2006 12:55 pm

Once A Bully..........


After reading a friends blog it made me start thinking about bullies. Now, there's your typical bully, the one that says nasty things to you and then there's your stealth bully, thats the one that doesn't say anything directly to you but they do publicly ignore you when you talk to them, the ones that think for some reason they are better than you, or if they were honest would admit they don't like you because you are who you are.
The stealth bullies, in my opinion, are the worst, because once you finally get fed up with their petty little BS and call them out on it they have the nerve to say What did I do to you and act all innocent, by that time I don't pull many punches I'll tell you exactly what your problem is and exactly what behavior you've been pulling that isn't acceptable to me anymore.
I'm sure everyone here has dealt with one of them, I try to think of the reasons they do this and the only constant is that they don't like themselves, so, in order to make themselves think they are better than you they either verbally abuse you or they don't acknowledge your existence at all.
So, anybody else have any stories????

toothysmile 52M
16517 posts
5/1/2006 4:27 am


I can't say I have been bullied.
There have been attempts to manipulate me, some successful I might add.
But it is sad to see this here of all places. This is supposed to be a place of fun, a place of no bullshit. Still...

My hugs to you.[/color


piamatter 45F

5/1/2006 5:55 am

Sounds like my inlaws...the stories are endless. Imagine the mother in law from Everybody Loves Raymond...I am Debra.


rm_JohnMacLaine 51M
585 posts
5/1/2006 6:29 am

I was bullied in high school, never "fit in" with the popular crowd. I found that it made me stronger at times, while at the same time it made me a little timid at the same time. I never retained ay friendships from high school asa result, and refuse to attend any reunions to this day.

*hugs*

Scott

"I can retain neither respect or affection for a government which has been moving from wrong to wrong in order to defend its own immorality" Mahatma Ghandi


rm_bucfannn 62M/61F
2110 posts
5/1/2006 6:41 am

Uh, yeah. There is someone like that skulking around.

I have NO idea what I did, (well, ok, it wasn't what I did, but, it was what someone else said that set this person off).

I have NO room in my life for petty bullshit. Nor do I care to be a part of said bullshit. You don't like me? Fine. I don't give a rat's butt. But, since I have to run into this person from time to time, I'd rather just ignore the whole situation, just like she pointedly ignores me. LMAO.

You have "your" Mrs. Horseface, and I have mine

Cat


Xeryien 53M
1448 posts
5/1/2006 7:49 am

I don't think that I was ever really 'bullied' (And certainly hope I wasn't put in that crowd), through High School or since. I would like to think that these days I would be classified as assertive or decisive. Maybe I am Mr Horseface.... Dunno!

Heaven - could you shoot me an email? I have a question for you...


lawman_chris 47M
12 posts
5/1/2006 9:42 am

I was never a bully, nor have I ever really been bullied. I was however part of a crowd that had a few bullies in them, and it made me feel bad just assoc. with them. But this was H.S., and we were all teammates, so it would not have been "cool" to rat them out.

I agree with you that those who do "bully" don't have a great sense of respect for themselves, and thus need the "power/ego boost" that hurting or controlling someone else can somtimes give. The sad thing is that most people who were "bullies" in their teenage years continue to bully as an adult, they bully their spouses, their children, their co-workers, etc. Now I work hard to make sure that those who bully are called on it, and are not allowed to continue such destructive behavior. Ok,I could go all day with this, but I will stop here.


elysianpleasure 49M

5/1/2006 6:37 pm

I call this passive aggressive... and I deal with it every day at work. It is a true and tried way
of being hostile. Hard to point fingers or blame someone who essentially does nothing.

Don't let them get to you... what goes around comes around. Not every time... but most of the time it does.


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