Kissing...an intimate act.  

heavenly_body39 61F
740 posts
8/4/2006 9:32 am

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8/10/2006 2:15 am

Kissing...an intimate act.

I have just recently discovered the joys of kissing

After a 16 year marriage and a year-long affair with a married man, I found myself curiously deadened to the intimacy of it.

Other men had noticed, remarked: "you have not kissed much since him, have you?"

In truth, as much as I obsessively loved him, we rarely kissed unless in high passion. One meemorable evening we had quiet, intimate kisses that made me even wetter, in a hottub. But in general, he did not kiss me as foreplay.

In my marriage, I would rarely experience ANY amount of intimacy or passion...hence my current status as 'single female.'

Lately I have rediscovered how deeply intimate and arousing good kissing can be. Amazing that it has taken so long to find it/him.

I was sitting at our local swing club one night when one of the women at the table commented that in the 'swing lifestyle' people rarely kissed. She found it ironic, that a man could eat her pussy but not take time to kiss her. I immediately agreed, somewhat surprised at the truth of it: it had been a year of swinging at clubs with very little kissing.

It used to arouse me watching my former lover kiss a woman; in fact, it lead to some fantasies of mine around this. There was something about the intimacy of it that I envied/admired/wanted.

Now I have as much as I can handle. It has changed the way I am viewing lovemaking and sex and I love it!


nightis 54M

8/4/2006 9:33 pm

Whatever happend to the days when kissing led to making out and making out led to sex? After a certain point, the simple days are gone.

My friend and I love to kiss, and I would have it any other way! Then again, I like the lead to sex almost as the sex itself. It is all aprt of the total thrill!


heavenly_body39 61F
157 posts
8/5/2006 8:24 am

I think that people focus on the 'product' of orgasm so much that they lose sight of the process of lovemaking. Thank you nightis for your comments.


dragonheart2014 65M
4 posts
8/6/2006 7:33 am

There is certainly not enough kissing in my life... that I know..It is sweet and tender... and trusting. It shows that you care for the other person as they are... We all have flaws.. We all are trying to become better.. And a soft kiss is the acknowledgement of our basic goodness.. You are a good person. Your efforts will certainly pay off with a happy life... That is what a kiss says to me.. But lips alone do not complete a kiss.. It is also the whispers in the ear... and the soft touch of fingertips on skin that let a person know that they are worthy of being loved. And THAT, is what all this is about.. It is what I purposefully acknowledge in another..


azlyn4562 64M
807 posts
8/6/2006 11:49 am

The art of touching is also a sometimes forgotten art. It's not just knowing where to touch, but knowing how to touch. The back of the neck, shoulders, sides, forearms, behind the knees, caves, small of the back can all add to the pleasure if done right, and in conjunction with kissing and be very erotic. The nice thing is that this can be done with or with out your clothing on, and as a precursor to sex or as a follow up after sex to further extend the pleasure.


heavenly_body39 61F
157 posts
8/7/2006 9:47 am

Azlyn, I so agree! Touch, gentle but firm and bold, is a wonderful way to engage more senses. I love kissing and touching but also adore quiet comments. "Dirty talk" done right is also a turn on for me.


kokopelli_123 52M

8/7/2006 12:10 pm

Heavenly baby, nice to hear you're having fun kissing. Let's get together and give our lips a work out.

XO


liqrbox4u 54M

8/7/2006 11:58 pm

Kisses are the key that opens hard hearts,cheers up sad countenances and kindles passionate flames.
Without kisses anything else would just be something to do.
Kiss is the word for the day.Pass it on.
Later
Liqrbox4u


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