thoughts upon thoughts  

hearthappy25 38F
26 posts
6/22/2006 10:34 pm

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thoughts upon thoughts

you know that magical moment when you really let yourself go with that person you're crazy about and your hips meet and you're just like, stunned by how amazing it feels?

well, i was there with him. and then it hurt.

i don't know why when we have sex it hurts. i'm wondering if i'm dry and just don't get lubed enough? because the chemistry between us is nothing short of amazing. but i have a hard time letting him in because a., he's a little big, which i'm not complaining about, but still, and b. how do you tell someone that they need to take their time a little bit instead of just inserting part a into part b??

because we've never had an orgasm together and it's driving us crazy. it's been 8 years. we tried once when we were like 23, and that's why we gave up on a relationship the first time. then we were friends that drifted together and apart for the longest time. then he met her, and dated her until she dumped him. the like, day after she dumped him we ended up in bed together because it had been so long and we were like, READY and tired of holding back. neither of us are ready for a relationship now, but this sexual thing between us needs to be fullfilled. it's driving me CRAZY....and it just hurts when we get going and i'm scared of it physically hurting....i'm scared of losing myself to him too, but it physically hurts...

do i just need to be more lubed?? we're trying again tomorrow night (yippee) so we'll see....i want us to have an orgasm together so badly and i can't figure out why it hurts to let him in (physically) .... i'm not scared of pregnancy and i know he's clean, but i get so tense because it hurts so much when we get going.

rm_amor2206 39M

6/22/2006 10:58 pm

Hearthappy, I kind of feel like Dear Abby but some women 'suffer' from vaginal dryness. Talk to your OB/GYN. They are really great people and the most qualified to give advice. But of course I should say something. Enjoy foreplay or do whatever it is that really makes you dripping wet. It may also be a hindrance with your thoughts that it is going to physically hurt and the two of you have to orgasm together. Really great sex comes with no pressure. It's almost as if you are trying to win the race without actually running it, if you know what I mean. Enjoy him, connect with him, and don't feel so much pressure. All the best to you and call the gyno.

rm_smosmof2 68M
3240 posts
6/22/2006 11:00 pm

And try KY jelly....

hearthappy25 38F
5 posts
6/23/2006 8:35 pm

eh, he canceled out on me to go fishing with his buddies.

but i'm sure there will be another time.

in a way i can understand, because after having been dumped i would rather be with my friends than someone i'm physically intimate with. but still. i'm kinda pissed.


but we'll try again probably monday....

so we'll see....

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