rm_harshawj 52M
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2/3/2006 7:47 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm


I guess I have learned a new lesson, and that is that one must be true to ones own standards. What does that mean exactly, well I guess that you will have to figure that one out for yourself. But for me it means that the people I get involved with in more than a superficial relationship have to be people I consider people of quality.

I know that this may sound arrogant, but I only want good people around me. People who are as selective as I am; people who know what they want too and are willing to say what they want. I like people that are open minded and honest, willing to accept me for me as I accept them who they are.

This may sound like a no brainer, but I think that a lot of us do not discriminate as we make new “friends”. We take what comes along and after we have formed an opinion we then either keep them or toss them. The problem with this is if we let part of ourselves become attached or vulnerable to this new friend we are setting ourselves up for heartbreak when we find out that this person is not what we think.

Now I know what you are thinking, how can we know if this person is or is not someone we wish to associate with if we do not let ourselves get to know them? Well, there is no easy answer to that one other than to say let your gut speak to you. You have intuitions, feelings, listen to them. This is not easy, it takes practice because sometimes our inner voice is not loud but more of a whisper. But we need to learn to listen to it.

It has taken me some time to trust this inner voice, but what it tells me about the new person in my life is something I have to listen to because it is usually correct. The harder cases are when my inner voice is wrong. This is when I tend to get my heart ripped from me and end up in a whimpering puddle of self-pity. But that is what I have a brain for and that tells me that I have to pick myself up, dust myself off and get started again.

So, I listen to my inner voice, the bearer of my standards.

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