Semi Nude Pictures Annoy The Men  

happysinglegirl 42F
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2/27/2006 3:10 am

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Semi Nude Pictures Annoy The Men

I would like to know more about why men assume I am sexually available to them on this site just because I post a semi nude picture of myself. Picture in question at left. I happen to be proud of the picture as I made it myself, however, men get so angry on this system just because, well, maybe, they got hard looking at my picture. Does every hard-on mean something to a man? That would come as a shock to me because men seem programed for casual sex, so what difference does it make if it is self-sex? Why do men assume that every nude woman is offering them sex, when my profile clearly says I just want an email exchange. I don't think it takes a genuis to realize I'm fishing the wrong pond for my personal needs. Ok, I got over it, too, since it just won't work. I mean, why guys can't play along on this system without establishing their own rules, mostly restricting me to having sex with them on their terms (when, where, how, and how committed or emotional) without any possiblities for my gratification or self-determination. Everything is decided by them before we even go out on a date, so why should I bother showing up? He can just read the script, beat his meat, and go to bed early. My opinion does not matter because according to the men, get this, these men have seen my breasts. WOW! To me, this is a sexist assumption, the same assumption that justifies a woman because of how she is dressed or because she has a reputation for past sexual activity. What do the bloggers think?

goldinboy2 61M

2/27/2006 6:04 am

First you have to try to understand some things from most mens point of view, repeat most mens, Younger men teens to 30's do and will think if a woman is naked in front of them she wants them that is just human nature. They come to sites like this thinking it will just be oh so easy lets face it woman put up some pretty provotive photos and profiles, but it does make sense to read them, Maybe some can't read or just read what they want. What you are saying about men is also true of some women, Don't bash all of us I like you am here for the Blogs Ive been married twice widowed once I'm not gay and love talking to woman but that doesn't meen I want to fuck every girl I talk to, see a naked photo of or emails me. Your photo shows you from neck to knee (it might not even be you for all I know) and is of a very healthy looking young woman,naked, If you get offkey responce do what I do send back a not interested responce or delete its that simple. I don't know you and you don't know me maybe I'm taking it a little personal but when you sterotype it kind for hits everyone.

AltumHunksUnite 54M

2/27/2006 8:32 am

I left my response to this on the next post on your blog list. Ooops.

Let me drive. I like the view

happysinglegirl 42F

2/27/2006 1:38 pm

To goldinboy: First, it is personal because men consistently take that avenue on this site, admittedly, it is degrading to be asked if I simply want to fuck a stranger based on a single email, but it is still personal and aimed at me as an individual, not the world in general or women in general (I am assuming this). As for stereotyping younger men, to the contrary, the majority of men offended by my semi nude form (I remind you that guys post full frontal erections here regularly, I don't jump to conclusions about why they are hard) are over the age of 40. I think this is interesting too, and maybe I will develop a future blog on this idea. A few guys admittedly in their early 20s do make fools out of themselves being simplistic, but mostly I get approached by 30s and 40s, maybe early 50s, not the really younger crowd in a significant way. Maybe older chicks are not appealing any more, eh? Everything changes. Maybe 31 is over the hill for the men on this system, I don't know. I loved men in their 40s in my late teens and early 20s, I admit that, but what the hell has happened to that age group since then? You'd think we'd have somethin' to talk about, eh? But no, it is brisk and rude approaches across the board. I would say 4 out of 5 responses to my ad -- an ad I point out is clearly asking for a little personality in the exchange -- are from guys who ultimately get offended by the picture and my unavailability, (i.e. my unwillingness to agree to sex via email or telephone, wow, am I the only American who thinks this is a little cold, I like to kiss first, you know? Unfortunately I'm also advanced beyond traditional relationships so match.hell is not for me either). It is weird, it is like this site eliminates the options rather than increasing them. I don't regret giving up dating off this system, but it has increased my interest in why I don't work here at all, a sex and swinger site. My current theory is that this site is fundamentally for men, and I am an intruder on their fantasy world here. But I find the whole argument that younger guys are more stupid or lack polish like the older guys to be rubbish, and it is based wholly on my personal experience with both. Between the ages of 17 and 71, the only virtue is wisdom, not experience.

happysinglegirl 42F

2/27/2006 1:40 pm

Also, I would like to know why I should see things from a man's point of view when they clearly do not extend the same courtsey to me, despite their gentlemenly ways?

49AK 56M
1823 posts
2/27/2006 6:51 pm

I thought you said something that was very interesting. You asked if every hard-on was significant. I think for a lot of guys, it might be. It might be about the opportunity lost -- at least in his eyes.

I don't feel that way, necessarily, but you made me think about what I am thinking when I come across a woman that clearly gets my attention sexually. If it goes nowhere, then perhaps I am mourning what never happened. Perhaps the flip side is, every hard-on is potential... and I don't mean it as if it were a conquest. I mean it in terms of the experience. The potential for something fun or beautiful or exhausting or exciting, or all of those.

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