A great deal of trust  

goodandevil74 43M
65 posts
7/18/2006 2:00 pm

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7/27/2006 3:42 am

A great deal of trust

These "adult friend sites" require a lot of trust. Many people are able to create alter egos (or at least play them out). What would happen if people in our normal lives discovered our secret computer ongoings? Some don't care, some would be devastated. I'm looking for women who can respect privacy and discreetness.

crazygurl2xx 58F

7/18/2006 2:44 pm

well, hell i would just get fired from my job (hence no face pic). ha ha. my friends and some of my family know...

goodandevil74 43M

7/19/2006 5:54 am

Unless you worked in the adult entertainment business, I think everyone on this site would get fired from their jobs if people found out.

DirtyLansingGal 34F
301 posts
7/19/2006 7:49 am

I'd say 80% of people I know in real life already know. And most of the rest wouldn't care.
Not only does my store manager know, but he's also a member! -laughs-

One of the virtues of not being Puritanical about sex is not feeling embarrassed about it after.

wewantsex1966 51M/41F

7/19/2006 7:50 am

Truth be told what grounds would they have for firing you? Does it intefere with your job? Does it stop you from doing your job? More than likely not. Its the whole society thinking its taboo that people are worried about. Don't get us wrong we do not advertise what we do either. Its part of the thrill that gets us turned on by the site.

goodandevil74 43M

7/19/2006 8:15 am

Yes, society does look down upon it. The worst thing that has happened to humanity is religion. I try to do as much as I can to make myself and other people happy without hurting anyone in the process.

wewantsex1966 51M/41F

7/21/2006 11:19 pm

Is it really religion? i guess the religion subject can be a touchy one and everyone has there view. Hell look at the mormons out in Utah they have as many wives as they want.

RedheadedMedStd 35F

7/24/2006 9:41 am

If you mean discretion in the regard that people aren't blabbing everywhere how you met, then I can respect that. However if you mean discretion around your city cause you are married? SCREW THAT! I've been cheated on (by a bf, I've never been married) and it sucks. I used to cheat a lot too. Now I just keep my options open and don't do or condone cheating. I can honestly say (although it took some time), I am a reformed cheater.

goodandevil74 43M

7/24/2006 2:14 pm

RED, I'm glad you've arrived in a place in your life where you don't feel you need to cheat. I've never, ever, ever cheated on a girlfriend (did I say never, ever?). I hope that when you decide to get married that you don't shut down sexually on your husband, because I guarantee he'd be on this site someday searching the way I am. You may wonder, "why not get a divorce?" Our marriage is perfect except this one area. I'm hoping to ride out the storm until either I change or she changes. If it does get to a point where I know in my heart that she'll never change and I still have my desires, then divorce will be put on the table as an option.

annierocks 62F

7/25/2006 5:46 am

Ah, can't resist here. If a woman's libido shuts down, there is a reason. Could by physical, relationship problems, stress, self-concept, etc.etc.etc. but there is a reason.

goodandevil74 43M

7/25/2006 8:16 am

Well, we've explored each one of those issues. She's no more stressed than the average person, no physical problems for her, we have a great relationship, maybe a little self-concept problem (slight depression). She admits that she has an orgasm almost every time we have sex, but she just doesn't think about sex, doesn't crave it, and she admits that if I never showed interest in it, she would be totally happy.

annierocks 62F

7/25/2006 2:38 pm

She needs to explore this with a therapist. They are for normal people with problems. Trust me on this one.

goodandevil74 43M

7/25/2006 5:44 pm

We've gone together--didn't help, but thank you for the suggestion.

annierocks 62F

7/26/2006 5:35 am

Damn, I'm sorry to hear that.

goodandevil74 43M

7/26/2006 8:45 am

Thank you for your concern, Annie--it means a lot to me.

annierocks 62F

7/26/2006 9:48 pm

It's that maternal thing I have going....sigh.

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