Why do This?  

gonzin8r1 45M
5 posts
5/13/2005 7:00 am

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Why do This?

Why do I look for ways to cheat? I love my girlfriend very much and yet I look for ways to have sex elswhere. I have amazing sex with her, and the extra sex is usually a letdown. So I ask is it the thrill or am I a jerk? Let the masses be my judge.

didi0105 61M
68 posts
5/13/2005 7:56 am

If you realy love her, you are a fool.

curious_forfun 38F
3 posts
5/13/2005 7:58 am

I have often asked myself the same thing. I feel cheating is somewhat like a drug and I get high from doing it. Then comes the guilt and I ask myself why did I do that......not sure if anyone else would understand what I mean.

Double_duece69 39M

5/13/2005 8:15 am

I don't think there is an easy answer to your problem. Actually its not really a problem, its just basically called being human. Its only natural for someone to wonder what it like to be with someone else even if you extremely happy. However very rarely do you find great sex with someone other than whom you are connected to strongly. So I do feel that that having the extra sex is not quite right is some ways, however it does not make you a jerk only human. Sometime people just need the thrill of the extra excitement to make them realize how lucky they are and to keep the spice alive. It just all depends on the person. Hope I helped.

rm_alexschao 43M
3 posts
5/13/2005 12:17 pm

I think its pefectly normal, i men you are a man like me a we love women in my case all the women are specila or have somthing that makes me look around i mean you have everything with youre girl but you can blame to youreself for fell some atraction for another people but what i sugest its make love with youre girl and have a lot of friends, because if you fell great with the woman that you have you dont need to search the sex part with another but that dosent mean you can have fun with another person.

missy97330 48F

5/13/2005 12:32 pm

You aren't ready to settle. There is genuine chemistry with a new person. It is exciting.

It's too bad that you have to be discreet, and then you feel the guilt later I imagine. I am guessing there is no way to tell your girlfriend of your desires, that she would not be cool with it.

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