Masterbation and Imagination  

goddessofbitches 42M/34F
5317 posts
7/22/2005 10:47 am

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Masterbation and Imagination

TO continue with what it was I had posted yesterday, I think that it has become quite a habit of mine to visualize a woman when I materbate. I didn't know how to until 2 years ago when my husband showed me how to. It is kinda funny how since then I went from never thinking about it, and actually being grossed doing it at least once a week. I hope that isn't to much.
But of course other times I pretned I am being forced, pretend it is a total stranger, pretend it is someone I am teaching. But it is hardly ever thinking about my husband. Is that so wrong? I look at it in one way as me saving the real thing for him. He is too good to be imaginary. But then I also look at it as someone what of "cheating on him" type of thing because I am imagining every possible scenerio and person other than him. It is a true debate for me and makes me wonder. I know in real life I would never cheat on him. NEVER. But is it considered cheating in the imagination? Do you imagine someone else when you are masterbating?
It is confusing and I guess that is why I feel guilty about it. I never materbate when my husband is home....unless we materbate together in a mutal kind of way (during the monthly), becasue he takes care of my needs. It is only when the hubby's away that me and my kitty play.

Do you think about others when masterbating, that is, if you think about anything at all???


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rm_FreeLove999 48F
16127 posts
7/22/2005 11:27 am

to be honest i don't even really understand the question -- as a writer i imagine all kinds of lives, all kinds of scenarios, multiple fantasies layered in each other -- is that cheating? don't think you should dog yourself down so much in morality -- ! anyway, haven't you discussed this with your husband?

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redmustang91 58M  
8935 posts
7/22/2005 11:30 am

Well it all depends! ex Pres. Carter takes the Biblical point of view that lust in the heart is still lust and that is cheating. The law takes the view that you can have all the criminal thoughts you like as long as you do not act on them. I think fantasy is good, and actual cheating is better! Take your pick. I think feeling guilty for natural impulses is a waste of time, but that is me. You are you.

Loosetooth 42M
1148 posts
7/22/2005 11:44 am

Does it matter if it is or is not cheating? You will not change your masturbating habits, I assume and you will not leave (nor cheat on) your husband, I asssume. No-one is experienceing any pain. Except yourself and that is self inflicted. I would say that the material situation has reached equilibrium. Mentally you have too much time on your hands. It was probably around this time that your mother took up knitting.

goddessofbitches 42M/34F

7/22/2005 2:27 pm

Freelove--- What I am asking you think that having sex with someone other that your spouse in your imagination is cheating?

Redmustang--- I agree. I was just wondering how many people actually felt that it was cheating or not. If they think of others when they masterbate or what they are thinking if anything at all.

Loosetooth--- Actually, it doesn't matter....and it isn't that I have to much time on my is just something that came up as I was writing yesterday's post. My mom doesn't knit...but I could see if she is interested...


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crankyourwagon 47M

7/23/2005 4:22 pm

Hey I'm reading your blog while ma Never mind we won't go there. At least not for another 5 minutes.

CuriousKitty675 43F
365 posts
7/24/2005 12:30 pm

I don't think it's cheating and obviously neither does your hubby since he's the one that taught you (which would imply encouragement on his part for you to do it). Fantasies are natural and normal and nothing to feel guilty about. Perhaps the reason you never fantasize about your hubby is because the reality of him and how he makes you feel is something a fantasy could never live up to. Like the old song goes "aint nothin like the real thing baby".

No worries. Fantasy is a safe place to explore things that might otherwise scare us or hurt us. You said you have fantasized about being forced. That boils down to letting yourself be as uninhibited as you want because in your fantasy you have no control. In real life that could be dangerous. But in the realm of fantasy it's okay because ultimately you have total control of the situation. Get it?

goddessofbitches 42M/34F

7/28/2005 8:21 pm

I will now imagine you in my fantasies...if that's ok...

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