I don't always cum out on top....  

goddessofbitches 42M/34F
5317 posts
9/15/2005 11:25 am

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I don't always cum out on top....

So...as I wrote on a previous post, I don't always get off when I am on top. In fact...I think I have only managed it a few times.

Thinking about it has me a bit pissy because you would think with me in control I would be able to work my body in a way that gets me off...and yet...no such luck...

When it cums to sex and positions...I feel that I am a novice...even though I have been in many different positions, I think I am only able to get off by being in missionary or by laying on my side with him behind me.

On another note...there is a someone I know very well that can't get off unless someone plays with her ass....and even her boyfriend has a fetish of needing a nipple rubbed when wanting to cum.

So....on that note...I guess it isn't so strange to need a certain position or touch in order to get off...

Is it?


Always The Bitch

rm_FreeLove999 47F
16127 posts
9/15/2005 12:06 pm

yeah, being on top doesn't usually get me off either, but doggy is very good...

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rm_Network_Minx 48F
542 posts
9/15/2005 12:17 pm

I don't like to drive. I love to let the man drive and it helps me decide when I am getting off.

69baby75 45F

9/15/2005 12:28 pm

i get off either wayif im on top i like to just grind my clit on him as hard as i can , if he is behind me i can always puch into him more and then stimulate mmyself with my hand. but i guess we all have our ways and it in no matter makes us different. AS LONG AS WE ARE GETTING OFF AT THE END.

letigre1974 43M

9/15/2005 12:42 pm

I love it when I'm on top or on bottom...I found sometimes it helps to have the woman, when on top, lean back (obviously this is hard her knees, but my partners have seemed to think it is worth it). The man can also 'drive' (I hate that term, it brings up the idea of road rage and what man is going to tell me he feels the same way about taking directions from a woman in a bed versus a car) from below, although sometimes it is harder to consistently hit the g-spot. However, you like it, or get it, I always like to talk to my partner during sex. Sometimes they know a position I don't, and sometimes what I can't accomplish from their favorite position, I can from one I know that they may not. I guess that's one of the great things about sex with a new partner, the mystery, suprises (only good ones of course). At anyrate, here is hoping you find that top spot someday. Nothing better than having a woman collapse on top of you after orgasm and feeling it wash through her. well that's enough from me. maybe I'll catch you some night for snack.

rm_ericingeneva 40M

9/15/2005 12:45 pm

I've only known a few girls that cam regularly from being on top. Those that did tended to lean forward and focused more on getting pressure to their clits. Have you ever come from dry humping? As far as I can tell it was similar to that for them.

SweetDarlinAngel 40F
2996 posts
9/15/2005 12:56 pm

Goddess~ I used to have this same problem, but there is a book that I got similar to a karma sutra book about how to position your body, legs excetra in certain ways that help to stimulate the "G-spot" during sex. I thought that it was frusterating that I could only reach orgasm during missionary when all the girls around me were talknig about getting off in all these other positions. Now I can reach orgasm in any position I try. ANY POSITION. Sometimes it takes me a couple of times in a new position, but I'll always reach orgasm at some point. It was the coolest thing ever, I am going to find the book for you, I have read it so many times the cover is coming apart. I'll send it to you babe. My personal gift to you. You'll love me for it. XXOOXX


expatbrit49 64M

9/15/2005 1:32 pm

I dont think I have found a position that I couldnt get off

Thank You for Your Time and Attention

nightstalker172 38M
1258 posts
9/15/2005 2:25 pm

girl on top is my favorite position...Im surprised there are so many women who cant get off in that position...because if you think about its reverse missionary..and if missionary is your thing...but eric is right almost all of them leaned forward to put pressure on the clit...however...it could also be that you dont like being dominate...it could be that you like giving up that control..thus why missionary is best for you...thats just a theory though....but then again...doggy would work for you there...for a woman doggy is the ultimate in submissive positions...so...I think you just need to practice and read an few books and such and then...learn...knowledge is power....sexaul knowledge is bliss

tamethytension 55M
2320 posts
9/15/2005 5:05 pm

Goddess of Bitches

so you are on top ... now what?

are you talking about riding ... knees splayed, pumping ass back and forth?

are you squatting and thrusting up n down while your hands are grasped in his for balance?

are you facing me or away?

are your knees tucked under your chin?

cuming on top can be more work if you are stuck in one mode but try exploring ...

for this position...
my best success for bringing a woman to orgasm is to keep things gentle with protracted sensual exploration, building her slowly giving time for her g-spot to descend and ample juices flowing. About the time you start to purr from the delicate ministrations, I force you erect over me, then lifting my pelvis to bring you completely off the sheets, hands clenched, ease you back arching so as to push down on the last inch and and half of cock that resides underneath the skin, taking every advantage of its curvature to fill your canal its entire length, my head hitting your g-spot like a guided missile. You take it from there in a slow, circuitous grind for several minutes of pulsating, waves of pleasure.

simply put, there is on top and then there is ON TOP!

experiment; experiment so hard you feel like it is punishment

and when you get there...remember practice, practice, practice.



lifeisablast333 55M

9/15/2005 8:09 pm

all people are different, the sexgoddess can't cum on top either, so
we use a messager on her pretty little clit, while she is in a reverse cowgirl position. and she cums like a pro. and the vibes shaking her tight puss helps me shoot off fire works pretty fast.
It's a great quickie before work.

dano6332 57M

9/15/2005 8:11 pm

Mandy, Whatever you need to get there I am sure I am not the only one willing to help you. Have your partner rub you with his finger while you ride.

okyme 53F

9/15/2005 9:23 pm

I was going to comment but tame has me all messed up!

okyme 53F

9/15/2005 9:24 pm

OH YA try leaning back lol

okyme 53F

9/15/2005 9:24 pm

Did I thank you for the post?.................YOUR LITTLE COMMENT WHORE

Luvwetcunt1000 50M
1258 posts
9/15/2005 11:01 pm

Mandy, my partner comes almost every time she's on top. But when she's on top I recall I came only once or twice. You could be like me - missionary being the favoured position cause doing it deep is what gets us off.

frogger1995 40F

9/16/2005 5:44 am

I don't get off that way either, though I think it has more to do with lack of experience than anything else. For me the best is missionary with my legs on his shoulders or doggy style.

goddessofbitches 42M/34F

9/16/2005 10:45 am

Because of TTT---- I am off today...I will respond to comments at a later date....lol

No seriously...You guys wouldn't believe it...but after I wrote about the monthly...and having sex, I end up starting my monthly...and with my birth control...I haven't had one in like 2 months...so I'm hating life right now...


Always The Bitch

toothysmile 51M
16517 posts
9/17/2005 3:38 pm

Don't worry about it one bit; we ALL have our little idiosyncracies.

I could fill a page about mine, and a book about the ones I 've come across. If you like missionary, no problem (by the way, my favorite too). However, here 's some food for thought:
Your sex habits, likes and dislikes may change overtime!
So, for the time being, sit back and enjoy the ride...

wantsomebado1 46F
13 posts
9/17/2005 6:32 pm

Top is my most FAV position!! Instead of riding - up & down, or back & forth - try getting him in deep & GRINDING your clit on his pelvis while he lays still. Works EVERY time (but depending on how much grinding your pelvic bone may feel it tomorrow!). Happy Humping!!

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