Ask Goddess....  

goddessofbitches 42M/34F
5317 posts
10/1/2005 10:16 am

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Ask Goddess....

I was reading a "Dear Abby" type section of the newspaper when I came across a letter from someone talking about needing help. She says that her boyfriend of 9 yrs hasn't asked her to marry him and that he drops the subject every time she mentions it. He works long hours and sometimes comes home after a few drinks.

The Chick giving advice told her to go to counseling. She said that the guy had commitment issues.

WTF?? My "asshole meter" is blinking like crazy!! This man doesn't have commitment issues. This man is living off this woman and sleeping around on her. "DUH!!" Does anyone else see this?
I mean seriously...he can't have his cake and eat it too!!! She should either follow him at night, get a detective, or come straight out and ask him if he is cheating. I bet he says yes!!
She then needs to give him an ultimatum. Get serious about our relationship or Get the fuck out of my house!!!

Just my thoughts. Since I am on the subject. I think I want to start my own DEAR MANDY...or DEAR GODDESS section. was just a thought. Even though I REALLY want to do it, I may hold off on that until there isn't so much going on.


Always The Bitch

rm_Network_Minx 48F
542 posts
10/1/2005 12:22 pm

Dear Mandy,

I have a problem and I need your advice...
I have a boyfriend that I love very much and enjoy him in and out of bed, soon he will be here to visit me. Is is ok if I scream when I am cuming even though I have a teenaged daughter? We do live in an old house that is built very solid (we could hardly hear the tornado sirens going off last night)

Wondering In Oklahoma aka Minx

rm_FreeLove999 47F
16127 posts
10/1/2005 1:12 pm

Dear Mischief
Now should I wear the red dress or the blue?

[blog freelove999]

IdealSmile 41M

10/1/2005 1:24 pm

Dear Mandy,

My penis is causing me problems.It keeps falling out of my pants and dragging along the ground.It really hurts.

Please help
bruised of Guildford

digdug41 50M

10/1/2005 1:45 pm

hey mandy I'd read your advice blog ,shit I mught even have a question or two for ya lol

roaming the cyber streets of blogland

expatbrit49 64M

10/1/2005 3:09 pm

Dear Mandy

I not getting enough what can I do about it. I was thinking of going to Chicago to cure my problem will this help.


Thank You for Your Time and Attention

toothysmile 51M
16517 posts
10/1/2005 3:11 pm

Frankly, I find silly the idea of asking advice from someone like "Dear Abbey", someone who 's never met you and is telling you how to deal with very important issues, after reading 2-3 paragraphs.

dano6332 57M

10/1/2005 4:30 pm

Mandy, "she" is back and I could not be happier. So why I am I writing to you? To say DO IT. You give great advice in a sometimes sarcastic and angry tone. It is awesome and I love it so just do it.

rm_saintlianna 46F
15466 posts
10/1/2005 6:47 pm

Dear Mandy,
You have an asshole meter? Can I use it sometime?

Philosophy_N_Sex 50M/48F

10/1/2005 8:19 pm

OOOHH your supposed to go to your own wife... now I get it!!



weineroftheworld 67M

10/1/2005 8:22 pm

Dear Goddess
I have been reading Dear Abby for years. Since Abbies daughter started answering the questions the damn column SUCKS with a capital slurp!!! Where can I go to get serious and sometimes funny but accurate answers to problems of the masses? I tried watching Dr. Phil and spent the next week looking for the turnip truck that idiot fell out of.

nightstalker172 38M
1258 posts
10/1/2005 9:47 pm

Well...In a way sleeping around is a commitment issue cuz he cant stick to one woman LOL....but I agree lol

As for your "dear goddess" business I say go for it...people need to hear real answers with no BS mixed in...people might understand things better if that was the case. And be happier in the long run

rm_twinkie1411 48M
3 posts
10/1/2005 10:24 pm

Speaking as a former manslut, your instinct was probably correct. The big clincher would be if person works so many hours of O.T., where's the cash. As a freshly divorced the money is always a question, was before and is, and will be in the future.

rm_twinkie1411 48M
3 posts
10/1/2005 10:26 pm


AtomicArtist0 46M
6015 posts
10/1/2005 10:28 pm

I'd say go ahead with your Dear Mandy thing. I offer a crass horoscope sevice on my blog. I just wrote a new one. Its a lot of fun and interactive.

MissAnnThrope 57F
11488 posts
10/2/2005 1:47 am

Jesus, on the service where I read cards, I read for women like this all the time. They don't see they're being used. These guys aren't necessarily having affairs, even though that's what the women want to hear, as that's the only justification they're willing to use to kick the bastards out.

Yeah, he is an asshole. He's not necessarily sleeping around, but he is spending all his money on booze, hanging out with his pals, they probably hate her and she's playing mommy to him. No, he won't marry her, but he's not going to let her go easily, as then he'd have to take care of himself.

This sounds like a woman who has a thing for bad boys then plays the victim when she gets just what she asked for.

goddessofbitches 42M/34F

10/2/2005 12:20 pm

Minx--- Well Minx. Personally...If you have talked to your daughter about sex so that she knows what happends. And you have talked to her about the boyfriend you have.. and you think that no one else in the neighborhood will hear...go ahead. Scream your head off girl. And put in a good scream for me.

BGRSweet---Yes...yes...Intuition is very powerful. can be dangerous. The reason I say that is because..when me and my husband moved to his home town, I thought he was cheating on me 3 weeks after we got there. Was he? No. He wasn't. It was just that...I felt so insecure due to the fact that I was in his old STOMPING ground and I just figured he would do what he wanted and knew he could get away with it since no one there knew me and whatever. intuition alarm would go off every night he was 5 minutes late. Gotta be careful that we tell the difference between instinct and Worry...

Freelove--- Personally...I love you best when you wear nothing at all.

Idealsmile--- Dear bruised.... You need a HARNESS....actually better yet...I think you just need to have it cut off. You aren't going to have sex period with it that long. I don't know any woman who wants a man with a penis long enough to be recieving a blow job while he is fucking her in the pussy!!

Sassy---Why waste the money on counciling? She obviously knows SOMETHING is going on...and most men don't change. They adjust for a short period of time and then they go back to doin' what they were doin'. So I the money and confront him. Then...depending on what he says...make him leave or let him stay.

Digdug---Ask away sweetheart....ask away...

expat--- Not getting enough? How do you know enough is enough? When you are dead and in the ground? None of us can get there really isn't a solution to your problem. You could get more by paying for it...or going to chicago. I;m sure you will have a fun time.

toothysmile--- I disagree. Sometimes a problem can be solved by looking at it with fresh eyes. Meaning that if you spend a lot of time dwelling on it, you aren't going to be open to new ideas...but if you stop and come back in a while, you may see things frm a different aspect. Well...that's what an advice persin does. They read what you write...and put some things into their point of view and then tell you what they think. You don't HAVE top agree with the advice...but it is nice to have someone else's perspective.

Dano---Thank you so much for the support. Yes. I can be very sarcastic sometimes. I just feel that there are some answers that are so obvious, it's like your being dick smacked in the face...and just can't feel it. It's incredible the things people will ignore.

MZhunny--- Yeah...I think so too. I think I could help a lot of people.

Saintlianna---Of course. Here...just give it back...

P_N_S--- Isn't it? They tolerate a lot...and sometimes get used even more for it...depending how much the other wants to push them.

Weineroftheworld--- This has got to be the truest statement. SINCE DEAR ABBEY's DAUGHTER TOOK OVER....yes..the colum has been shit. But..nothing we can do about it. As for Dr. Phil....well...there is no explanation. Science has not yet proved how he can be so ignorant.

nightstalker---Good point. I'll keep that in mind.

twinkie--- That's true. Where is the money if he is "working overtime?" Oh..honey...I'm sorry...I blew all the money from overtime I booze...yeah right. I still say that if there is a suspicion and he won't marry ya...fuck him and kick him out.

AtomicArtist--- I think I will. We can put our blogs together and have advice with horoscope....lovely. The AtomicGoddess....Or BITCHARTIST

MissANN--- Like I said is amazing how things dick slap poeple in the face and they just ignore it so they don't have to worry about pain.
As for the women looking for bad boys...well...they typically get hurt...and yes they play the victim. But there are many that are just looking for attention.


Always The Bitch

languidtung 58M

10/2/2005 2:09 pm

I don't think she's necessarily being cheated on. When I first got together with my ex-fiancee, we met for a few beers at my favorite local watering hole, Spike's Place (always a great selection of beer, from lagers to ales, to Belgian, to stout.) As the relationship progressed, she stopped coming in, preferring wine to ale, but I'd still go in from time to time. Once she came in to find me at a table with Joyce, a longtime regular, and a few of her friends. I wasn't flirting, just talking, but my ex immediately got extremely jealous, dragged me out of there and filled my ear with her rage. Consequently my visits to Spike's became less and less frequent till I was making it for St. Paddy's Day and maybe the Anniversary, that is until we split up and she moved to L.A. The point I'm trying to make is that there is something about the conviviality of a good pub which is different than being at a singles' bar. To me, the key point is that there relationship has gone on for nine years and he is evasive about the subject of marriage. He is obviously a commintment-phobe, and that's the first thing she should consider in continuing the relationship. Obviously, some couples stay together for years without
walking down the aisle (Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn come to mind),
but that is hwen both partners agree that don't want to make it official.

duststormdiva 52F
6854 posts
10/2/2005 3:23 pm

My question is, why is he sleeping around? Why do people search for others when in a commitment? I know there are couples who swing, but it is known by both partners. Why the sneaking around?

I ask this because I am the other woman. I have been with a few married men. I ask them and they tell me that they just don't get enough sex from their wives. Is he the asshole or should the lady open her eyes and be more attentive to his needs?

On the flip side, why does she not sleep with him anymore? Could it be that he does not do anything extra to try and satisfy her?


CuriousKitty675 42F
365 posts
10/2/2005 3:42 pm

Yeah sounds like a "wake up and smell the coffee" time for that lady. It may not necassarily be that he is cheating but he is using her, no doubt. Then again looking at the flip side of the coin, she could be an attention whore that just wants people to say of poor thing yadda yadda yadda and what's more satisfying than a nation syndicated column? Either way she has issues to deal with and Dear Abby aint gonna have a miracle cure. Oh well.

Greenguy96 44M

10/2/2005 4:12 pm

You should start you own advice line, tell people what they need to hear, straite up, no bull. We all need it from time to time.

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