I'm Pissed and it is time we all did something  

gentelmanjim53 65M
487 posts
8/24/2006 6:59 pm

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I'm Pissed and it is time we all did something

Let start this out with a little story and I will rant on from there. A Lady, now note that I said that word first, that I have been IM-ing with for a month IMed me this morning with distressing news, she had been accosted by a man she had agreed to meet for a drink. I have no other details of what happen but it has taken me a long time to gain her trust. Through my blog and the e-mails and the IM-ing she was willing to meet Labor Day weekend, that is gone now and will have to start all over to gain her trust due to this insenitive boob of a man.
Ok enough about my non-exsistant love life. I read an article from a State publication that said the Feds are thinking of getting involved in "Dating Sites" and requiring them to do Background checks or warn the clientle they are on their own. This site is one of the largest and most used, world wide, and I would think it would be easy enough for those of us who use this site as a way to meet people and make friends to be able to warn others in our areas of the world of nut cases and wackos out there.
Example: I moderate a small group in the midwest and we had some guy show up for a meet and greet who had my hackles up from the time I met him but I reserved judgement cause that is just me. He seemed just to slick, you know like oil, to be real and sure enough he proved me right. We as a group ran his married and lying about it, dump a girl you got drunk 20 miles from home in the parking lot bar at bar time, stalked one other member for months, ass right ouut the door of the group. If I could have posted to some state-wide alert board as the moderator of the group his ass would not have been worth spit any where he went or under any handle. every woman in the state would have his discription and real name. I wouild love it if AdultFriendFinder would help us to create something of this nature so we could all warn others of the nut cases the drama queens and the users. I would have one woman to put on the list, used me like a rubber and tossed me aside when I was no longer of use.
So I know I have been long winded here but but I am pissed that I have to start from square one with this lady after a month, though I have to admit she will be worth the work, due to some butt-headed male who could not or would not take no for an answer, her words not mine.
Think this guy deserves a stump party, learned about this working in the southern states. A man who would violate a lady would be gathered up by some of the "kin folk" of the lady in question, liquired up a mite before they took him for a ride out to the swamp or remote forrested area, the "kin" would know of a rotten stump in a remote location, to far for anyone to hear him, then they would unceremoniously strip him from the waist down,"set him on the stump" and drive a hunting knive through his scrotum. He is given two choices, just before they leave him, "cut off your nuts boy or let the critters get ya".
I think I am done with my rant. Ladies It seems there are very few of us good men left ones who have honor, believes a woman is a lady until she asks me to stop being a gentleman and make love to her and will protect her honor at any cost. Sensative, understanding and willing to earn your trust. We are a dying breed.

VCF1962 106F

8/24/2006 7:26 pm

Tell me about it Jim.

In the past two weeks, I've met two guys that claimed to be gentlemen. One was in the medical profession and he took me for dinner but afterwards just wouldn't take no for an answer so I ended up leaving - a crap end to what was actually an okay evening (if you enjoy name dropping and people that enjoy telling you all about the money they used to have - yawwwwn !).

The second one was hysterically funny - we got on like a house on fire and when I dropped him at the station, he said that if he got his work done in time last Friday, he would come back and take me for dinner - that never happened but did he bother to tell me he couldn't make it - NO. Said we'd speak over the weekend - well if his idea of speaking was via text message (that clearly looked as though it was meant for someone else) at 12.40 on a Sunday morning, then that was it. I told him I wasn't interested - if you're going to do something, then say it and do it. He got in touch Tuesday and we ended up making arrangements to go out last night - I decided that after last time, I needed to eat before we went out (we were going to get something in the pub, but oddly enough, it never happened - kinda like dinner last Friday). I invited him here for dinner before we were due to go out and he accepted but said he would let me know what train he would catch.

By 17.00, he hadn't let me know so I text him - did he reply - NO. I was browsing on line and lo and behold, who should log in to but him. I asked if we were still going out and he said yes, but would have to be 8.30 !! I would have to meet him at the station and we would go straight to the pub. He offered a weak "sorry" when I asked him what he expected me to do with the food I had just cooked. The more I thought about it, the angrier I got so I just told him I wasn't bothered about meeting him - all he said was "suit yourself".

Is it really any wonder that women no longer view men as anything other than an annoyance any more ? There are others that I have met that are much worse than these two - and very few that I have met that are any better.

I outed the one from last night on my blog and was tempted to out the other one as well - I mean, what ass would put his reputation on the line by not understanding a simple word like NO ????

Sorry - I've rambled but it's a womans point of view that agrees with yours !!!

Good luck with your lady - sounds like you have a kind heart and with a bit of patience, I am sure that she will come round.

Mistress Innuendo
Taking what you say and turning it into something naughty !!

gentelmanjim53 replies on 8/25/2006 3:52 am:
Milady, You can rant to my blog any time you wish. Be safe

FunFlirty4u 47F

8/24/2006 7:34 pm

I think some people would use a warning system to get revenge on people for whatever reason. I think the best way to be safe is to meet in a public place and have a safe call.

FunGuy1943 74M
2 posts
8/24/2006 7:45 pm

Great Blog Jim, I wish you the best in getting yourself re-established with this nice lady.

norprin5 56M

8/24/2006 9:21 pm

a most excellent rant, my friend

sadly, it's the asshats who leave the loudest impression, and the good guys have to work twice as hard...

...no worries, though...the good guys always win

King Nor XVIII

tracy_de_lacy 106F
9268 posts
8/24/2006 11:11 pm

I agree with mzhuny here. I have tried to get someone removed for something so bad it would shock ya. It didn't happen. If I were to split from my current boyfriend, I know I wouldn't meet my next one here.

Bye everyone, it was a blast

gentelmanjim53 replies on 8/25/2006 3:49 am:
Tracy, You are the second from the UK to responde to this what is up with your blokes over there. Any way help us get the attention of AdultFriendFinder and make this a safer place for us all.

VCF1962 106F

8/25/2006 6:23 am

By and large, British men are assholes Jim.

There is little or no respect for women here any more. Mind you, I think there's little or no respect for others full stop.

Funny though, that I had someone that was a pest but nothing too mad - I complained to the CS team and all I asked was that he be blocked from viewing my profile or responding in any way and they deleted him. Yet when there is something serious, they do nothing.
I didn't report the guy from Monday although I feel I should have done something but I came to no harm and would certainly not meet up with him again ANYWHERE.

Mistress Innuendo
Taking what you say and turning it into something naughty !!

howaboutahuck 67M
489 posts
8/25/2006 1:38 pm

I always thought a good way to handle a guy like that, would be to fasten a piece of piano wire to the ceiling then make the guy stand on his tip-toes and wrap the wire around his balls so that if he drops his heels, slice. Instant Squeaky Voice.
I hope your LADY Friend doesn't let one jag off come between your friendship.


gentelmanjim53 replies on 8/25/2006 4:05 pm:
I like your thinking on this huck the piano wire is good but you have to make sure he can't undo himself, so tie his arms above his head up to ceiling down tight to his sack, if he drops his arms no more family jewels.
I hope the lady will come to trust me enough in time to meet me, right now wants nothing to do with men. Thanks for the thought.

tracy_de_lacy 106F
9268 posts
8/26/2006 12:02 pm

There are idiots everywhere and I don't think AdultFriendFinder can really do much about it. If they banned people too easily, people could have anyone banned. That's why they ask for sufficient proof.

I have to say that there are safe ways to meet people. I certainly would meet someone in a public place for at least the first time. I think you get a good sense of the person from the first date. It is unwise for women to put themselves in a position where this could happen, whether their date is from AdultFriendFinder or any other place. It is sad what happened to your friend but it is a lesson to us all to be careful.

Now look at all these comments, are you glad I called ya back, lmao

Bye everyone, it was a blast

gentelmanjim53 replies on 8/26/2006 2:36 pm:
Tracy, When you are right you are right. It just burns my tush that some men think they can get away with that kind of behavior and to make it worse, think a woman less of a lady because she is on a site like this or any other dating site. I live by a code of honor and conduct, but it dose me no good when most the other men act like school boys and horny asses.
Watch for more of the story luv, it may take a while but it will be worth it.

IviesBidesJuste 56M
3658 posts
9/14/2006 1:43 pm

I like the idea about "stumping".

Once, a ex-boyfriend of my sister went to her house and beat her face in and her. Three of her biker friends, whom I know, went to his house with baseball bats and drug him out and worked him over.

When he was prosecuted, he only got 6 months in jail, just because he used to date her. No one, including herself, told me about what happened for several years, until she told me herself finally. She just knew what I would have done.

gentelmanjim53 replies on 9/14/2006 3:23 pm:
LB, Our legal system allows some who richly deserve to be put away for life to walk in a few month and I like you would have acted in accordences to the crime against my sister. I doubt he would have been found or missed.

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