MORE REALITY, A REAL MOTHER  

funintheday2006 57M
8366 posts
8/5/2006 8:51 pm

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8/8/2006 11:07 pm

MORE REALITY, A REAL MOTHER

A few mails and comments asking where I got the tenacity to get through FUN GOD and I will share a little story here as a testament to my mum, from where all I am has its roots.

A woman of strength, integrity and honesty.

She is also as hard as nails and one of lifes natural leaders.

Fast forward to me… 14years old.

I had been taking Karate lessons for 3 years and was fairly good so my sensei entered me for a national competition in 3 categories: Kata, non contact and full contact.

The competition was held in Birmingham and I was shocked that my mum decided to come, it was not usual for her to take so much interest.

Competition starts and I manage to go forward in all categories and at the end of the competition I had a 3rd for Kata, 2nd for non contact and I had won the full contact section.

We arrived at home and my mum asked me for the certificates and medals for the Kata and non contact sections and I gave them to her. She then put them in the rubbish bin.

She then said (not verbatim but the gist):

"This is the most important lesson I will ever teach you. Today you have discovered what you are good at and you have to concentrate on that exclusively. People who try to make a better life for themselves have a disadvantage when their roots are in places like this."
There was much more but, I am not too comfortable sharing the rest right now.

The next bit is verbatim and I carry these words with me every day of my life, when things get tough, I see my mum sat on the chair looking at me with concern and wondering whether the message will get through.

" There are two positions in life, Won and Lost, you are my only son and I did not raise a loser, remember that if you remember nothing else."

Well mum, I remember. If I won, I won because of you.

This is the hardest post I've written.


phoenix639 50F

8/5/2006 10:37 pm

There is nothing more worthy than a mothers pride in her offsrping.


funintheday2006 replies on 8/5/2006 11:11 pm:
And nothing deeper than a childs love for its mother.

partygirl3869 49F

8/5/2006 11:09 pm

I hope that one day my 4 year old daughter will know how proud she makes me. I hope that she will realize it enough to want to share it with the world.


funintheday2006 replies on 8/5/2006 11:12 pm:
If that is your aspiration then it is laudible and you will achieve it.
Mothers are what keeps this world worth being here.

ella1966 51F
1528 posts
8/5/2006 11:16 pm

Hi fun, just wondering if you are O.K....? I sense a broodiness coming over you, and not one that can be cured by me sending you your fave Aussie turkey and avocado foccaccias, either!

Just a wee bit worried....

ella xoxo


funintheday2006 replies on 8/5/2006 11:22 pm:
No ell, I am not brooding, just sharing. Talking about my mum makes me really happy. I would love the avacodo and Turkey though. Sydney calls me

maverick1255 52M
3953 posts
8/5/2006 11:19 pm

damn ....... so heart felt. Completely in awe.

thanks. so deep.


funintheday2006 replies on 8/5/2006 11:24 pm:
Mums are though ain't they? Awesome bloody creatures. You ever stopped to work out what they do in one day?? Jeez, it would kill most men. Single fathers not included of course.

rm_sexxikritter 53F
2715 posts
8/5/2006 11:57 pm

I wish my mom would have been like that. Lots of things about her I wish were different. I try to keep remembering that she is a product of her own parent's parenting, or lack of, skills and didn't have the resources we have today to break the cycle.
Thank you for sharing.


funintheday2006 replies on 8/6/2006 12:27 am:
It is a pleasure to share her wisdom Just wish I had more of it.

TheCliticals 36F/F

8/6/2006 12:36 am

My mother was my closest friend all my life until she died
Dee


funintheday2006 replies on 8/6/2006 1:08 am:
Mine too babe, my biggest critic and my biggest fan.
You only get one, I'm so sorry youo did not get more time with yours.
Wisdom wrapped in love is so very precious.

ShyWhisper2006 54F
15175 posts
8/6/2006 12:37 am

beautiful post...and tribute...thank you for sharing this...*smiles*


funintheday2006 replies on 8/6/2006 1:08 am:
Thank you shy, thank you

rm_Animal_73 44M
64 posts
8/6/2006 1:32 am

Damn man, you must have yer balls in a wheel barrow cuz it must have taken some to write that! Miss my mum as she passed a few years back but at least my brat of of a daughter whom i love very much but dont get so see, calls me with all her probs that she can't go to her mum with. am sooooo proud of my little girl!

Must buy you a beer next time i'm over on the main land. LOL


funintheday2006 replies on 8/6/2006 9:11 am:
Thanks Ani, I appreciate that. A glass of merlot would be great

rm_Benkai7 56M
2358 posts
8/6/2006 1:33 am

Dear "funintheday2006".

... thank you for sharing ...

Benkai7


funintheday2006 replies on 8/6/2006 9:11 am:
Thank you sensei

Cozy_Red 51F

8/6/2006 4:01 am

Thank God for mothers and their wisdom. Mine just had a mastectomy and beat cancer, I appreciate her now more than ever....she handled it so well, I hope to be alot like her someday.
Thanks for sharing, reminds me I need to call my mom today.






funintheday2006 replies on 8/6/2006 9:15 am:
Call, always. Thay are wonderful human beings, if only they ran the world.

rm_EE407 42F
3903 posts
8/6/2006 4:15 am

Great post Great mum


funintheday2006 replies on 8/6/2006 9:15 am:
Thank you, she is the best.

JuicyBBW1001 55F

8/6/2006 4:41 am

I hope that my daughter will remember the lessons that I try to instill in her with such fondness as you do with your mum. (((Huggs)))

Juicy


funintheday2006 replies on 8/6/2006 9:16 am:
Trust me the way you talk about K, she will.

papyrina 52F
21133 posts
8/6/2006 4:51 am

awwww hugs honey
you and your mom are both winners


I'm a

and
i'm here to stay


funintheday2006 replies on 8/6/2006 9:16 am:
Thank you so much papy.

catkit13 67F

8/6/2006 4:55 am

it's so much easier to joke around, isn't it, than to tackle a subject seriously without sounding maudlin?
thanks for sharing and, of course fun, you're a winner to your fans!
cat


funintheday2006 replies on 8/6/2006 9:17 am:
Sometimes we have to remind people we are not just a joke machine babe, just sometimes

rm_PurryKitty2 49M/51F
9753 posts
8/6/2006 7:09 am

This is very touching and I am sure your mother would be honored! My mother taught me to laugh and I am grateful for that.

Purry {=}

Purry


funintheday2006 replies on 8/6/2006 9:18 am:
My mother is a comedian too!! She loves an audience as much, if not more, than me!!

rm_WackyEPP 54F
8470 posts
8/6/2006 10:00 am

Sounds like a wonderful woman, and her Son someone to be proud of.

Thank You for sharing this.



Wacky Jacky


funintheday2006 replies on 8/6/2006 8:49 pm:
Children reflect their parentage. Any pride she has should, IMO, should be in herself for the way she dealt with the hand life dealt her. She is, indeed, wonderful

MOfunNOWWOW 56F

8/6/2006 10:24 am

Wonderful there are mothers like that and thankful for the children that have them! Very nice tribute to a wise woman! {=}


MOMO
just a squirrel trying to get a nut


funintheday2006 replies on 8/6/2006 8:50 pm:
She gave hard lessons, tempered with love. Wise indeed.

BaronessK 53F

8/6/2006 2:16 pm

In my case...mother is only half a word {and not a nice one by a long shot}. Daddy, now...my father was and is as special to me as your mother -- you deserve the 'luck' of having her.


funintheday2006 replies on 8/6/2006 8:51 pm:
Like me Baz, 1 parent only that was worth a light. We were both fortunate, I know many that have cursed parentage as I'm sure you do.

Notfunanymore 106F
10289 posts
8/6/2006 3:06 pm

Wonderful post. Brings tears to my eyes.
Thanks for sharing.


funintheday2006 replies on 8/6/2006 8:52 pm:
Thanks babe, mine too, mine too.

IAmRubytuesday 56F
3193 posts
8/6/2006 4:35 pm

When your mother's a pearl, the world's your oyster...xxx

Q.2 flies in an airing cupboard. Which one's the soldier?
A.The one on the tank.


funintheday2006 replies on 8/6/2006 8:52 pm:
And an easy one to open

IAmRubytuesday 56F
3193 posts
8/6/2006 6:48 pm

Can't wait to hear about your sisters'.......xxx

Q.2 flies in an airing cupboard. Which one's the soldier?
A.The one on the tank.


funintheday2006 replies on 8/6/2006 8:52 pm:
Jeez, now thats a thought!!

economickrisis 56M

8/6/2006 7:13 pm

Mate. I bet every mum wishes she had a boy like you


funintheday2006 replies on 8/7/2006 8:52 am:
I think ewvery mum with a son is as proud, including yours. Mums are like that.

amoldenough 71F
16436 posts
8/6/2006 7:54 pm

Thank you for sharing your awesome mum with us.

"Don't cry because it's over; smile because it happened."


funintheday2006 replies on 8/6/2006 8:53 pm:
You are welcome, she is worth sharing

ValetPairsPaged 37M/36F

8/6/2006 8:01 pm

And it was beautiful...thank you for the thoughts fun!


funintheday2006 replies on 8/6/2006 8:53 pm:
Thank you guys, and thanks for stopping by

Balibabe19 43F

8/6/2006 8:31 pm

I have always wondered, and will continue to do so, if my children will look back fondly and understand that although it may have seemed harsh at the time...I did it out of out selfless love. By allowing me to read your thoughts..gives a glimmer of hope!!


funintheday2006 replies on 8/6/2006 8:56 pm:
Oh Bali, more than hope. I think as adults we forget the flexibility and openess of children sometimes. They have not been exposed to the harshness of the World yet and they will always remember the lessons of their mum. Time gives them perspective, trust me. Many lessons from my mum were so hard to take but, I now know exactly why I had them and love her the more for it.

4biddenlove4us 50F

8/7/2006 4:09 am

Your Mother was right, they seldom wrong. My daughter first day at school, the teacher asked each child " what would you like to be when you grow up? " My daughter answered " I want to be like my mom " I was confused by that response because most answered that they wanted to be teachers and nurses and doctors etc... She is now 11yrs old and I asked her again, " Beth, what do you want to be when you grown up? " She replied " want to be like you Mom " I said " what do you mean? " She said " Nobody is as strong and intelligent as you are and I want to be just like that with my kids when I have them one day " That Shocked the HELL out of me. I'll leave you to ponder over that one ~smiles ~
Appreciate your Mom, I don't have one I can go to for help and advice {=}{=}{=}


funintheday2006 replies on 8/7/2006 8:54 am:
I'm really sorry you don't have one to share with babe, but, it makes your relationship with Beth all the more precious and important to her.

LustyTaurus 49M
21253 posts
8/8/2006 11:06 pm

Your Mom sounds like a`grat woman...its good when things really stick...once again thanks for telling the story...


funintheday2006 replies on 8/8/2006 11:07 pm:
Thanks Lusty, she has a knack of making things stick!!

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