funintheday2006 57M
8366 posts
6/1/2006 9:58 pm

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So, I was pensive earlier and now I’m together enough to tell you why.
My apologies for being serious.

Last night got home, and those who read this blog will know that I get maybe an hour or so to get sorted before sleep hits me.
As is my usual practice, hit remote whist eating to catch up with world events, cricket score (sorry) and the usual inane things.
Last night on one of the news channels was a child in Indonesia who had lost family / home etc. These images assault our senses daily, it seems, and it is a fact that there is an immunity we seem to have built up to others suffering.
Last night, for some reason, this childs face, the inner suffering that was portrayed and the tears running down his face touched me in a way that was heartbreaking. I admit it, I was in tears and I felt like, well, I cant really put that into words, it was just earth-shattering.
My only need at that time was to hold that child and make things better for him. Do you know what I mean?
Now I can, and will, make a donation to that appeal but is that just a conscience salving operation?
I don’t know but, it’s all I can think to do that may help.
The impotence is overwhelming and frustrating, I know that child needs a person to care more than he needs the attentions of a charity so what can we do? I don’t know.
It just seems so ‘Western’ to send a few pounds/dollars or whatever and then sit back smugly because we’ve done our ‘bit’ for those less fortunate.
In Yorkshire a few years ago I saw a young girl begging on the streets and my girlfriend at the time was horrified when I stopped and spoke to her and asked if she wanted to join us in the café we were going into for a drink and something to eat.
As it happened the girl was too embarrassed to come so I left her something and was given a barrage of ‘in future just throw the money’ type comments for an hour or more and I was incensed. Is it wrong to want to reach out a little? Am I just a snooper because I’m actually interested in the person and how they got where they are?
Were my tears last night self gratification or guilt? I hope they were just sorrow at witnessing a childs pain but I’m not sure how much conditioning I have succumbed to.
It’s just made me feel so low today.
If you know what else can be done or have ideas, please post me a comment.

blondietickler 44F
295 posts
6/1/2006 10:57 pm

ever tried a big brother type organization. that way you may be able to help at least one child know that someone cares for them. there are all kinds of programs to help underprivelge kids in the world that do take a little time and a lot of love. i don't think you are a snooper, you just care more than most admit.

funintheday2006 replies on 6/1/2006 11:11 pm:
See answer above. It is a perfect solution in an accepting world.
Thank you both for your comments, I appreciate them.

thingsarelukinup 33F

6/2/2006 3:24 am

Don no wot to say, no how 2 make u feel beter tho..

funintheday2006 replies on 6/2/2006 4:18 am:
Not really the subject for that is it babe?

wishinNhoping 65F
527 posts
6/2/2006 8:25 am

I saw the same thing myself and had tears rolling down my cheeks.
A donation is better than nothing, It may not put arms around him, but it may put a roof over his head.

You tears were neither, they came from the heart THAT'S the difference.

Take care
P xx

funintheday2006 replies on 6/2/2006 11:21 pm:
Its the roof I have problems with. Put them all in a place where we can no longer witness their suffering and go back to our cosy existence. I just want to dry his tears for him.

catkit13 67F

6/2/2006 9:03 am

if i could afford to retire, i'd move somewhere to help those like the child you saw. but would it be indonesia? africa? the gulf coast? too many people in need in too many places - where does one start?

funintheday2006 replies on 6/2/2006 11:25 pm:
Cat, its heartwrecking isn't it?
We start where we can and thats good, we never stop caring and doing, thats good too. I just think there must be enough hearts out there to love just one person in pain an suffering and eradicate this misery. If we ALL spent our taxes on food and water and forgot to buy the bullets there would be no suffering. Every time a bullet is fired it deprives one person of a meal and potentially deprives another of their life. That is sick.
Thanks for the comment hon, you made me ramble as usual!

catkit13 67F

6/3/2006 2:25 am

it's like the old saying, give money to the schools and let the air force hold a bake sale . . . yes, it can be depressing, but i still send checks whenever i can, to the latest area of calamity. but, to help me not go too crazy, i really try to make a difference in the life of one person - think globally, act locally, and all that. i'm really not a person who quotes cliches regularly, but sometimes, they fit! hope you're having sweet dreams, cat

funintheday2006 replies on 6/3/2006 3:58 am:
sometimes they do hon, just sometimes. Horribly hopeless isn't it?

florallei 100F

6/10/2006 7:23 pm

each individual who offers by contributing monetarily, their time, their resources all make a difference to the poor and unfortunate...we don't need to look too far to see hunger, diseases and homelessness. Seeing and hearing people especially children suffer is the most difficult for me to bare...children holds a special place in my heart and it pains me that I can't help every single one of them but when our conscience are pricked we do what we can to give...don't forget the poor amonng us.
Oprah upon her return from Africa was asked by a friend..."don't you feel guilty coming back to luxury"?...her response was..."No, I am truly thankful for what I have and I love it"...it does not help the poor by renouncing what she has and one should not feel guilty because we are fortunate, rather we do what we can to hopefully relieve some of their suffering.
...ever watched the movie "Pay it forward"?...wonderful story of how one person's action can have a domino effect...loved that movie...
Here's a belated hug for you FUN...It is wonderful to be mindful of those who are unfortunate...YOU have a KIND and LOVING heart...I applaud you!!!

funintheday2006 replies on 6/10/2006 10:30 pm:
Thanks babe, just gets to me sometimes and I want to hold a child and make bad things dissapear. Think we all feel the same really.

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