frogger1995 40F
4342 posts
2/7/2006 4:07 pm

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I know this has been done to death but a post by a new fan and the profile of travelingintexas, which is hilarious but may completely turn off any woman who doesn't know him , I feel it is time for a reminder.

Men often complain about not getting responses from women here and beg...plead...grovel to know how they can. The following tips and reminders may not completely do the trick but will certainly help.

1. Reminder: Yes in fact many of the women here are fake/"professional"/window-shoppers/etc. so you may not get a real response.

2. Even less women care about your penis and don't need to know what it looks like up close, or the fact that it is bigger than a soda can/ruler/pencil/pickle/banana/etc.

2. Always include a face pic in your profile or message to a woman.

3. We know form letters when we see them...even the long ones that look well thought out.

4. One liners about "loving the movie Steel Magnolias too" do not make up for using a form letter in the rest of your message

5. Do not include any contact information in your's tacky! This includes outside e-mail, IM, phone, etc.

6. If she isn't into married men/younger men/older men/men who live outside such-and-such area/etc. you will NOT be the one exception to change her mind.

7. Winks or adding her to your hotlist doesn't mean shit. Most of us don't even check those.

8. Women have various reasons for inviting or accepting you into their networks...don't take it as a sign that she wants to jump into bed with you.

9. READ THE DAMN PROFILE! It will often have valuable information, keeping you from making a fatal mistake.

10. If you mention that you are "generous" "wealthy" "financially independent" etc. you are just begging to be used...heck I would use you myself!

11. Don't be will be outed as such quicker than you can say "Ooops!" I myself have done it to other meanies and word gets around. You will be lucky if you get so much as a "fuck you" from a woman on this site....just let it go.

12. Fill out ALL the information on your profile. Nothing raises a red flag quicker than a "prefer not to say" (esp in the marital status entry) or a blank. This includes all the extras such as movies, music groups, and what you are into sexually, AND STDs! Otherwise you look like you aren't really serious about this site or just plain lazy.

13. No pictures at all usually gets no response.

These are all I can think of right now. Hope it helps you get some action!

Things to be Happy About:

Getting a Joke REALY Late And That Being Funny
Loaded Potato Skins
Office Space (movie)
The Boxcar Children (book)
Pancakes at Night

craptoast 40M

2/7/2006 5:01 pm

I don't mean to be cocky, but I am a generous, wealthy, financially independent man who is begging to be used. so 10 doesn't apply to me. thanks for the rest though.

norprin5 56M

2/7/2006 5:12 pm

great advice, frogger.

one thing, though, re #9: standard members can't view profiles

King Nor XVIII

Will6364 33M
28 posts
2/7/2006 5:18 pm

OOOO WOW dawm girl i like that pix. WE have got to write. o and meet mostly, anywho i'm a young dude (21) lookin for some fun. look for a girl funny, horny and coo, r u interested?

reverend21 50M
1913 posts
2/7/2006 6:00 pm

I already do all those things, still nadda, still i guess since I'm looking for the whole ball of wax, I guess it doesn't do me any good to get my hopes up. Plus I guess it doesn't help that the area I'm in an area that has an increasingly gay population. No wonder most of the people who contact me are too far away, with the exception of those three or four propositions I have gotten from men. Have a happy.

rm_goddess1946 107F
13518 posts
2/7/2006 6:23 pm

You are right on with this post !! Now if all of
the boys would only read!

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...

unforgiven702 52M

2/7/2006 7:01 pm

Sounds like it's time to move reverend

DoubleDees38 49F
22 posts
2/7/2006 8:03 pm

Well said your style girlie...

i think another thing is..."how good they eat pussy"....apparently we have alot of experts on AdultFriendFinder....LOL

hooks1952 65M

2/7/2006 8:22 pm

Hey sugg. not all men are after the same thing , although most are , myself I just simply want to be a part of something and read all the great stuff that most post. My post are really not worth a shit for I am not very Witty but I still get a few responses and that suites me fine , later.


007sexy40plus 52F  
7603 posts
2/7/2006 8:30 pm

Will they ever get it? I have been here for yrs and they still dont read the profile even the paying members.

I get winks and added to hot lists by guys as young as 19yrs old and heaven knows I have had to rock the cradle but I sure as hell dont want to rob one. Shit my oldest son is almost the age of these little test tube babies and they are trying to get in my pants. And they know I have an age limit, but they still hope I make them the exception. HA!

I am the real deal! "Come Get Me!!!"

elysianpleasure 48M

2/7/2006 9:34 pm

always get such good advice here

thickcock365 46M

2/7/2006 11:13 pm

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the1forthenight 34M
55 posts
2/7/2006 11:28 pm

Personally, I just use the pick of the pecker to keep the mystery of what my face looks like. But it is kinda hard to get noticed. I know every guy has done this and if you haven't do it, Search for men and marvel at the fact that you can't even recognize your own dick in a line up. BUt, I know some women want form letters, but if you say you want to fuck and fuck only, why get detested when your mail box gets flooded with perverted emails. I should change my pic, but I'm not ready to be the needle in the haystack just yet.

8337 posts
2/8/2006 12:10 am

I've adhered to all of those so-called "rules".

They are common sense. As a guy if you didn't already know those you were behind the 8-ball from the jump.

I just find it funny how many double standards there are here.

How many women have "Prefer not to say" responses in their half-filled out profile which is suspiciously devoid of pictures?

Then they have the gall to ask me for pictures?

I also love these women who drag their baggage with them and parade it throughout their profile for everyone to read as if this is somehow going to attract prospective men.

There are more examples of females acting badly, but I digress......I'll leave it right here.


"My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur

goodallnght 45M

2/8/2006 2:28 am

As currently a standard member I cant read profiles so it may be helpful for those with "rules" to add them to their blogs if they have one. There's a lot of women on this site with no pics or just body pics so the men here probably just follow suit. A wink is just a "hi" a communication. It could be reciprocated. But most don't expect it. You can't really blame a guy for trying to communicate with the sexier women on this site.(yourself included) The confidence that we can be the exception, that we can overcome and conquer is what makes us men!

sexyblokeinlincs 55M
470 posts
2/8/2006 4:25 am

Knew I was going wrong somewhere...


scorpio31167 50M
5 posts
2/8/2006 5:22 am

yes you are spot on and its a shame about the photo part as I am actually very handsome classic features and have been advised that I do indeed eat pussy better than women re(doubledees 3comment and yes if I was a woman and some idiot stated that he he was wealthy etc I'd use and throw him away too.As for being invited into a womans network fuck i cant barely work out how to do this, so please take mercy on this pathetic male and help show me the ropes, thanks for the advice anyhow. I'm a typical scorpio straight up no bullshit required, honesty is the best policy.

mollen6 35M

2/8/2006 10:38 am

ooooh, now I understand!

saddletrampsk 55F

2/8/2006 1:05 pm

Good one..I especially hate the ones that want you to send lots of naked pics and they dont have a single on their profile

SpaceRangerNJ 56M
4687 posts
2/8/2006 2:40 pm

OMG! I love the Boxcar Children. Grandma used to read it to us when we were just wee ones. So cool that you know that book. Can ya tell I'm excited! whooo hooo!

Ok, breath.

Thanks for the tips, again. Been playing by those rules from the beginning. Still haven't been successful. It's the married thing I'm guessing in more cases than not. And I do respect it when they say it in their profile and I don't e-mail them. Lots don't say it. What I do resent though is when they say it and pass judgement at the same time. Not nice. Just say no thank you and leave it at that.
Even with profiles that say fuck me now, etc, etc, I send polite lets get to know each other e-mails. Maybe a little suggestive since they set the tone but nothing over the top and never nasty.
I even thank any woman who is kind enough to send a No-Thank You e-mail even if it is a quick repsonse. It's only polite.

I give an outside e-mail if it is asked for.

That's me story and I'm sticking to it. lol. We'll at least for now.

F1reman6969 50M

2/8/2006 3:48 pm

you are the third woman to point out that i should have a picture of my face either in my e-mail or on my profile...

...the other 15 want a butt shot!

i'm confused again.

StaynHardnHot 43M
305 posts
2/8/2006 4:36 pm

Well i'm only a day late to this be honest women are so worn out by guys on this site i hardly even try to actually meet someone from AdultFriendFinder very much, but if someone makes an effort to say hello first...its usually a good sign because the average girl...let alone a hot one are usually to swamped on here to iniate

rm_bovinespirit 41M

2/8/2006 5:17 pm

After lots of personal emails and no replies I gave up on the subscription. Spending time writing interesting emails was fun to a point, but with no feedback it soon lost its charm. I'm not sure what the solution is. There will always be bulk emailers, one line guys and women who write that they 'like going out and having fun, WLTM funny, clever, handsome guy' with no other info then complain about recieving dull emails. Spending time writing something fun then recieving spam back leaves a bad taste.
In the end I was spending money to have people spam me. Well, I can get that for free...

Jobe00 43M
211 posts
2/8/2006 7:01 pm

Depending on where you are, it sometimes doesn't matter what you do.

The area I live in seems to have a 100:1 ratio of men to women on this site (and if it doesn't it damn sure feels like it).
Hard to compete with odds like that when some stud can sound as good as me and have a hard body pic on his profile.
Soft, cuddly guys like me just can't seem to compete with that.

Women would rather have a guy that sounds good and has a good body than a guy like me that sounds OK, but doesn't have a six-pack.

*shrug* Even following the guidelines and common sense doesn't mean you'll get a woman's attention.

rm_Sylent72 45M

2/8/2006 7:09 pm

You are very wise not worthy!...Im not worthy!

Toodela 60M
1747 posts
2/8/2006 8:11 pm

Yes, I agree with what you say, but also agree with some points made here: not being able to view posts as standard members, but that is each one's problem who has not signed up for higher status. We just try to draw attention by sending a wink for the same reason and if I get a wink from a standard member, I will try to make some response, especially if I'm silver or gold. As far as displaying a penis - I agree, in a profile it can be a put-off for you and other women, but the same applies to women as well. Some more detailed pics are also a turn down for me, but then we are not all put-off by the same things


Honor has not to be won; it must only not be lost.

~One Minute in Life~

paradise573 51M
3 posts
2/9/2006 12:21 am

welcome to all by hello to all....
I am coming to participate with you....
see you soon...

tillerbabe 57F

2/9/2006 12:35 am

Oh thank you for this!!!!! My profile says men 30-40, or just look that way, I get emails from 50 year ols men that look 80!!!! They don't read the profiles.. they just look at the pics!

8337 posts
2/9/2006 1:06 am


I agree with you wholeheartedly, bro.

You shouldn't see AdultFriendFinder as your only route to "dating" as it were.

I never came here with that intention, it's just an interesting site and if I meet women on here, regardless of the type of relationship then that's a plus. I suppose I just don't see it the same way as most guys. My expectations weren't definitive, so I'm not dissapointed and I have met some interesting women from here, without really doing anything other than being genuine and real. That should probably be your main concern, honesty and sincerity.

It will take you a long way with the female species.


"My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur

outdoorman94 49M

2/9/2006 5:02 am

Thank you for the advice!

frogger1995 40F

2/9/2006 5:35 pm

OK as for men who don't have access to profiles...I sympathize (from experience). The best way to woman's heart is through her blog. Heaven knows I have given in waaaaay too easily to fans of mine.

I hope this post didn't sound harsh...just the truth!

Jobe00 43M
211 posts
2/9/2006 6:57 pm

Usually the truth is harsh, Froggie.

lifetooshort999 52M
5 posts
2/10/2006 3:01 pm

I guess us "guys" need the obvious re-stated every once and a while. You do it with wit and savvy. Good combination. Wish more on AdultFriendFinder had those qualities. No wonder so many guys read your blog...wouldn't have ANYTHING to do with your pics which -- just noticing because, yes, I too was a bit distracted -- doesn't show YOUR face. I'll bet your eyes are even more attractive than the rest of what you've shared...

007sexy40plus 52F  
7603 posts
2/10/2006 9:00 pm

I dont put my face on the site for obvious reasons but I do have face pics in my albums. Not too embarrassed to show it just being careful.

I am the real deal! "Come Get Me!!!"

rm_CiuteCat 41F
48 posts
2/11/2006 12:03 pm

Yeah, found that some would not care to read. But then again, a penis at large can't read. Push the button.

Why do you give those advices?

Those that are different will act different, I should say,
those that don't - don't. They will likely not read your text either.

You would exploit a rich guy?
... and a rich woman?
It could probably solve some financial problems - but not without rising some of a different kind.
Not my game. Never mind.

But your notes are worth reading, if only to keep up-date.


tonytiger20065 62M
3 posts
2/11/2006 8:42 pm


For your advice, thanks a bunch!

rm_manwhazleyes 47M

2/19/2006 6:04 pm

Thanks for the advice. Would be nice to occasionally get a reply back from a woman with some tips for the next email I send such as "Thanks but I'm not interested because of _______" Then you would know better where to focus your attention. I agree that the email can be the "make it or break it" no matter HOW good your profile looks. I will take to note about the face pic- although, due to my work, I can't post a face pic on here without it spreading to the large number of people I work with and affecting my professional life. I do, however, think I'm gonna try a pic similar to some I've seen showing the eyes.

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