Am I your type?  

frogger1995 40F
4342 posts
8/17/2005 1:18 pm

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Am I your type?

I realize that this is a numbers game for many straight men on this site. If you send a message out to enough women, eventually one (who is not playing games) will respond. Most men do have a definite “type” they are interested in (besides the obvious Playboy centerfold). Most men will list this type as their preference in their cupid settings or simply state it in their profile. They are entitled; heck, we all are! I certainly have my preferences, and I list them. I usually don’t meet with people who don’t fit those preferences.

That said, I still get messages from individuals for whom I am obviously not their type; and I find it hard to believe that my headless images were so alluring that they overcame any biases they may have originally had against my type. Let's just get it out in the open; if I feel that I am not your type, I probably won't respond.

When a 50 year old man sends me a message telling me how interested he is in me yet his profile states “looking for a mature woman around my age to spend time with” I am not your type.

When a man sends me a message telling me that he would really like to meet up with me, and his profile specifically states “preferably White, Asian, or Hispanic women” I am not your type.

When a man sends me a message stating that he is gay but would “like to try being with a woman for once” I am definitely not your type.

If I do not match your chosen cupid settings with regard to age, race, body type or gender, I am not your type.

And don’t think that you can CYA by replying that you “missed that” or “forgot that was there” and you will definitely change it. I’m just not your type. It’s OK! Just stick to your guns and move on to the next woman that is.

P.S. I have posted a couple of new pics in my prviate album including a larger version of the current icon.

rm_biggpaulo18 33M
2 posts
8/17/2005 3:20 pm

you know what you are righ t about the what you are syaing but i thinlk most guys think with there dick instead of there head on this website... they all just want some ass... i am aslo tired to death of alll the women on hear we are just about talk... the is a place to meet men or women not just talk and if there any women out there that is down for some fun send me a message and i will respon asap...

Greenguy96 44M

8/17/2005 3:52 pm

I understand what your saying, but it is very hard to judge someone by there picture or even by there profile. Conversation is what really can tell someone who type is who's. However I definetly undersatnd about getting e-mails from MEN asking for sex. I get a few e-mails a week from men. I'm not guy and will not convert for some guys sending me an e-mail.

the1forthenight 34M
55 posts
8/17/2005 3:59 pm

I know on my page I don't have a certain preference except for age. I don't think that I could go over forty. I know me personally, that I am more attracted to a woman who is comfortable with themselves than anything else. Most poeple would look at someone that is a little big or overweight (I mean thats what most people on this site is biased against) and wont consider them sexy enough to consider an encounter or even try to chat with them or meet them. I mean I enjoy having sex, but I know that there is more to life than that and its hard for the men on this site looking for women who are 'bout it than just those who lead men on through cyber space just like bigpaulo18 wrote. But I do have a question for frogger1995 so I know so I can get the thought out of my head. I have read your profile up and down and you do not mention race, but I notice an X in your cupid settings box for race. I am a black man and just wanted to know for sure if you wern't looking for black men on this site. Regardless of your answer I will continue to read and post to your blogs because they are well thought out and damn interesting.

the1forthenight 34M
55 posts
8/17/2005 4:08 pm

Goddamn!! My bad frogger1995. I just noticed that I made a dumbass mistake and I should have proof read your profile twice before I posted to the blog about the race thing. Sorry. Even though I don't fit the profile settings to be graced by your presence, I really would like the chance to get to chat with you.

frogger1995 40F

8/17/2005 4:23 pm

The1forthenight, I just double checked and my profile definitely states That I am black. I go through phases with the type of man I am interested in (I have literally dated every race). Right now I am in to white and latino men.

I agree with you guys about looking for something beyond just the picture. But if you know right off the bat that you aren't someone's type (or they yours) it makes for an awkward beginning, at least for me.

rm_biggpaulo18 33M
2 posts
8/17/2005 6:05 pm

is there any body out there that just no strings attached sex please hit me up... cause o dont need 21 questions i just wanna talk for a minute and get down to it... and i bet most men agree...

rm_VoodooGuru1 50M
2053 posts
8/17/2005 6:54 pm

Does that include guys who, in general, are not into Texans?

mactoo25 43M  
63 posts
8/17/2005 8:08 pm

From what I have seen and read you are definitely my type. With that said, I agree it is much less awkward when the type matches.

Priapeo 47M

8/18/2005 4:03 am

Quote: Most men do have a definite “type” they are interested in (besides the obvious Playboy centerfold).

I wouldn't bet on this, actually I think that only a minority aims at that "type" (or at least i do hope so for safeguard of species sake). Apart from this you are 100% right: it's a numbers game and 1) men shoot random, 2) men underevaluate the meaning of words.

Never argue with an idiot. He brings you down to his level then beats you with experience

husb4fun 59M

8/18/2005 10:07 am

I love your "type".

DodosWelshFerry 49M

8/18/2005 4:43 pm

"Be careful what you look for. You just may find it." In regards to type, sometimes I think I know what I am looking for, and like most of us, I discover aspects that pique my curiosity (among other things). I treasure experiences more than "types", yet I do have certain desires. Still, it does help quite a bit when the profile is completed and shows the preferences of an individual. Of course cupid does say we match quite well

BTW; How could anyone "not" be into Texans? Is it an inferiority complex? I really am jus' teasin'. I simply couldn't resist.

ArgosPlumyKooky 46F
3902 posts
8/18/2005 5:02 pm

i agree with you. i hate getting winks or emails from men who are looking for a caucasian female. since i am obviously not, why do they bother. people can't "kind of" like what they see. either you are looking for it or you are not!

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