Child Disciplinary actions.........  

freetime648 53F
7629 posts
5/12/2006 5:35 am

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5/13/2006 5:40 am

Child Disciplinary actions.........

onyx513 wrote a post asking this:
its your choice you decide how to handle the child tomarrow ill post my official comments on the results heres the situation little johnny your son says to you " fuck you go to hell i will do as i fucking please "do you
A. spank his ass
B.send him to time out
C. ground him
D. take away his favorite video game

I in turn wrote this:

None of the above........I would talk to him first to find out what his problem with me was and then if he continues on with the disrespect....he gets everything taken away not just a video game......

p.s. I never have raised a hand to my child

ANd what did I get:

onyx513 replies on 5/12/2006 2:56 am:
see you have no idea on who is the boss between you and your child looks like the child is the boss and your the one out of the loop ever wonder why todays youth is so out of control well lets see people like you dont discipline their kids duh!!!!

In which I responded again.........

My dear Onyx......just cause I do not raise a hand to my child does not mean I am the reason for our youth...get a daughter is a well adjusted respectable girl......and if more parents learned to communicate with their children on their level maybe our youth would not be so "undisciplined"....a hand does nothing but create an animosity that cannot be reversed........A-DUH!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And by the way...opinions are like assholes...............

My curiosity is why did he feel the need to chastise me for not "beating" my child or raising a hand to her???? Wonder if he realizes my child is 20 and a mother as well now...I wonder if he even cares to know how my form of discipline has turned out? I wonder who the hell he thinks he is judging me on my opinions????

SOME PEOPLE'S KIDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

xx FREETIME648 xx

rm_EE407 42F
3903 posts
5/13/2006 1:45 am

I don't thin he really cares one way or the other. I on the other hand am proud of you.
Beating a child is NOT the answer...

Kaliedascope61 43M
4084 posts
5/13/2006 12:57 am

As far as I'm concerned as long as right, wrong, respect, discipline, and structure are taught then any child would grow up well adjusted. Some kids need a firm hand on the ass, others are more reasonable, they are all different, and it's up to the parent to know the best way to handle there kids.

Far as I'm concerned I'm not opposed to the parent that spanks his kid, or the parent that does not, its up to the both parents how there kid is raised and adjusts to society.

rm_1sexyroo 57M/57F
333 posts
5/12/2006 1:59 pm

Gotta admit that my basic instinct would be to paddle the kids butt and commence with stand by your bed inspections daily @ revelly , but then I always suck back and reload. I have learned after 8 kids and now a grand child that going off on the little munkin is exactly what they want. You ( and I say that because if its you the kid is yelling at ) have rattle his/her cage and she/he is just lashing out. Times like that everyone needs a time out. When everyone is calm then its time to explain that behaviour is unacceptable and that things need to change. Let them decide how to make the situation better , it teaches them to think for themselves and to find solutions that don't involve getting their ass kicked. Although now my two youngest ones are into martial arts and can easily defend themselves against the "average" threat. But Daddy is not the average threat and they all know that. I am glad that it has been decades since I had to spank one of my kids and am I so so grateful that I learned the hard way that spanking doesn't help it hurts , not just the one that recieves the spankin but the spanker as well , it is time NOT well spent and only ends in regrets and hurt feelings.
I commend you for never having to raise a hand or feeling like you had to raise a hand to your child. Wish I had grown up with the tools that I have learned with years of experience, but thats life ain't it , Live an Learn

Wackytits 54F

5/12/2006 10:19 am

I've ALWAYS found it better to talk to my kids. Give them an opportunity to explain why they are unhappy, or indeed an opportunity for me to explain if I am unhappy.

I'm very proud of BOTH my kids, they are certainly NOT out of control.

Good on ye Free. xx

absolutelynormal 57F
6563 posts
5/12/2006 7:46 am

I agree with you! I didn't raise my kids with hitting. It teaches them that hitting others is acceptable and it's not.

I could always get them to see the error of their ways by talking to them. In retrospect I believe that I shamed them into acting the way that I wanted them to behave. Shame is a terrible thing to acarry around with you.

They turned out well, so maybe I didn't mess them up to bad. You're right and he's wrong! Mac

Babel__Fish 46F

5/12/2006 6:23 am


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