Self I mages  

firestarter665 44M/40F
3158 posts
5/2/2006 6:02 am

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5/3/2006 5:12 pm

Self I mages

As we look through magazines and watch television we see these gorgeous women. They are thin, they have perfect make up, and they have the most beautiful hair in the world. I am sure that they don't wake up like this in the morning and they probably look like your average person, but the beautiful woman is the one we see. We tend to look at them and say"I want to be that thin" or "I wish I had a but like hers".

I absolutely do NOT want to be a size 1 like some of these women. I do NOT need the long flowing hair. And I do NOT need all of that make up to look pretty. All I want is to be the average person who feels good about herself.

On that note, you all know that I have been trying to lose some weight. The way that I look at myself is not good right now. I have been working my ass off to shed 25 pounds.

This is all I want. My current weight is 170 lbs. I have been walking on my treadmill on a daily basis and doing 75 crunches per day. I watch what I eat. I drink water. You would think that the weight would be coming off by now.


Now, I don't want to look like a model. I just want to have a slimmer me.

Do you have any issues with your self image?
Or do you just have issues with what society thinks that you should look like?

mycin62 56F

5/2/2006 6:09 am

I used to be VERY thin, when I look back at those pics, I see that I didn't look healthy. I would never want to be that thin again, on the other hand, I'm a little overweight. But, I don't care, I've finally learned to accept myself the way I am. Yeah, I work out, but not to loose weight, but to feel better and stay healthy.

firestarter665 replies on 5/2/2006 6:57 am:
Working out does make me feel healthy. As a matter of fact, I just got done working out and I feel great right now. The thing is after having kids, the weight shifted into other areas. That is what I really need to get rid of.

SpaceRangerNJ 56M
4687 posts
5/2/2006 6:46 am

Well it doesn't help right now that all they young guys in the commercials have ripped abs. And a lot of the women have super flat stomachs.
If only I knew what I had back in the 80s. Didn't have the self image that matched the body. Wish I had that stomach now.
Got a little weight around the middle. In reasonable shape. Weight is around 185.

firestarter665 replies on 5/2/2006 6:59 am:
Sounds like you are in good shape.

Commercials should have real people in them, not the images that are shown now.

SpaceRangerNJ 56M
4687 posts
5/2/2006 8:37 am

Some of them are starting to move away from the super models. Magazines in particular I think. Some stars are promoting the "healthy" woman.
Good luck in your exercise routine. Keep walking. I've seen success with that.


5/2/2006 10:14 am

I am a big girl, I have been since birth. Once I got down to 130 pounds (I am 5'9") And I still wore a freakin size 9. So I tell everyone my bones are a size 9, so I can't get much smaller.
I have grown to accept I will never be thin. And hell after 4 kids I think I look pretty good! Sure I want to shed a few pounds, and tone up, maybe try to get a tan (that will never happen to my pale ass), but hey, I am just gonna be me.

firestarter665 replies on 5/2/2006 3:14 pm:
I did not know you have 4 kids!!! If only they had an OMG smiley. LOL
A size 9 is where I want to be, but I am 5'5". You must look great!!!!!

PassionKisses4Me 45F

5/2/2006 10:41 am

Shhh talk of self image please hehe I just went shopping for a new dress for graduation...let's just say I am disguised now ... and have no new dress



firestarter665 replies on 5/2/2006 3:15 pm:
Oh sweetie. From your pics I think you look hot!

the_bear21 46M

5/2/2006 10:59 am

With so many male producers I don’t understand why the main stream media’s depiction of women is different from what the average guy finds attractive. Is the average guy attracted to women with nothing but skin and bones? No. Biology tells men to fuck the healthiest women, and stick figures are not healthy. Do you see any stick figures in porn? No. Most guys don’t wants to see naked stick figures and if the porn industry portrayed women like main stream media there would be a lot of bankruptcies. So, why cannot main stream media show me women that give me a hardon?

There seems to be a myth among women that makeup makes them attractive to men. When was the last time you heard someone say, “Wow, I would love to do her, just checkout how well applied that eyeliner is?” Makeup does not allow women to move up the fuck ladder ‒ have sex with the men at the top of the attractive list. No doubt makeup has its place, if I have a business meeting with women I expect her to have well applied makeup. It also helps women move up the social ladder amongst their female friends. But if a women wants to be attractive to men, don’t wear makeup, instead put on that birthday suit.

firestarter665 replies on 5/2/2006 3:15 pm:
You said it all!!!!!! Thank you!


5/2/2006 12:49 pm

Hey you...its how you feel inside that matters..and I know what your thinking.. and honestly my hubby takes great photos..
I'm f'ing skinny.. no tits.. no ass.. nada.. zilch.. im a stick with nipples.. and this is how all the woman in my family are..not much I can do.
My natural weight is 115.. I got up to 170 because of the drinking.and the pancreas retained fluid..but I HAD BOOBS I LOVED IT Once i got out of the hosp. I lost 50 lbs with in a month.. so now i have the flab... and you know what.. I dont care cause I feel good and I'm alive..
I would do anything to be a full figured woman. I find them very attractive and a good attitude is just so sexy.. as long as your healthy and feel good .. thats all that matters..

you sexy creature you..

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firestarter665 replies on 5/2/2006 3:18 pm:
I have to say, you are one amazing woman!! My highest weight was 207 lbs, I should be happy that I am down nearly 40 lbs!! I do have to tell you that I do feel HOT when I get all dressed up being at the weight I am now. Just a little more to go and I will be all set!

(What the fuck is this shit..?? *rolls eyes*)

5/2/2006 6:43 pm

Its NOT how much you weigh its the % of body fat you should concern your self with, You could be losing body fat and gaining muscles and muscle weighs more so your scale could be misleading...I haven't own a scale in over twenty years or more I've alway been built like a shit brick-house but a size 8 and a few years age I went through some real heavy shit and gained over 30 lbs (or more not sure) and I'm only 5'4 and 3/4 hey can't forget the 3/4 inches lol, about six month back I stopped self indulging my self and started training again. I figure in about a year I'll be back where I was. It takes TIME if you want to loss it and NOT gain it back. Its not how OTHERS see me its all about how I see and feel about myself...Not sure where I heard this but this is what I always remember when I find myself feeling bad about myself.."I may not be all I wish but every thing I do today takes me to a better ME tomorrow"....Ready


sassybelle21 34F  
13313 posts
5/3/2006 1:09 am

You've been reading my blog and you know I have issues with my self image. It's just terrible.

the_bear21 46M

5/3/2006 10:59 am

If you believe a healthy and an attractive body are one and the same, I don’t see how dress size can be the best yardstick for measurement. There are too many factors to measure. Look at the life insurance industry, with billions of $ at stake, they still cannot find a scientific measure of healthy bodies. If I ran a life insurance company I would throw out the tables and replace them with the opposite sex. If a guy looked at a women and said she had a hot body, the women would get a discount on her insurance policy instead of the current method of height-weight tables.

While I am for sparing people’s feelings, the current trend in politically correctness with respect to weight is starting to scare me. We now see cases where doctors are proscribing pharmaceutical cocktails to the obese instead of simply saying, “hit the gym.” This doctor did not want to hurt the patient’s feelings and it’s not PC to tell someone they’re fat. If someone makes a choice of death by chocolate (literally), at least let the make that choice with eyes open. It is socially acceptable to tell a smoker they are killing themselves, but tell a fat person they doing the same and you are un-PC. Let’s not lead people to believe things about their body image that are false in the name of felling good about yourself.

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