Faking It...  

fieldsofdaisy 42F
1343 posts
5/11/2006 2:43 pm

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11/2/2006 3:44 pm

Faking It...

Another confession.

In my years of sexual activity (umm… let me do the math here… carry the one….) In the 14 years that I’ve been sexually active, I can count on three fingers how many times I’ve had a real orgasm at the hands of someone other than myself.

Yes. I fake it. *ducks to avoid the angry stares of everyone reading*

I’m sure you are all wondering why. Honestly? I’m a nice person. And, the guy is always working SO hard, and I feel bad when I know that I am not going to get there, letting him work that hard for hours. So. After an appropriate amount of time has passed, I fake it.

This is not to say that I don’t fully enjoy the experience! Just because I don’t cum, does not mean that I’m not having fun. You know?

Yes, I have spent thousands of hours self-analyzing, trying to figure out why I don’t seem to be able to have a non-self-induced orgasm. And, I still don’t know.

So, I can take care of the orgasms on my own time. Actually, it makes sex a little better for me, not having the pressure to ‘perform’, you know?

You all are feeling SO sorry for me now, aren't you?

Xcentric2006 38F

5/11/2006 3:09 pm

I don't think feeling sorry for you is quite right. You seem very content with the way things are- and being content sexually is something that we all strive to achieve. I so, somewhat, feel bad for the men that have been victims of a fake O. There have been times where I am not able to cum for whatever reason (granted, for me it is extremely rare) but I just make sure that the guy knows that I am thoroughly enjoying myself, and want to make him cum. Dont know if that rant made sense- but, so long as you are content, more power to you.

NorthshoreGuy27 39M

5/11/2006 3:20 pm

You prob. have had so few because of the fact that you faked it.....instead of telling them what you like.....or what does it for you. That is just my take on it because there are some men out there who dont have a clue .....then there are the ones who just want to get there "O".....so the few inbetween those.....who were actually trying had no clue there were doing it wrong because you made them feel like they were hitting the spot.

honeycomb1974 45M/44F
282 posts
5/11/2006 3:44 pm

If you are faking it, it is your fault that you are not getting off. You have to tell the guy what feels good to you. No relationship you get into is going to work because he will never know when he has done a good job or not. Please for your sake and other womens please do not lead men wrong. Honey

Looking0100 55M

5/12/2006 2:33 am


I am sorry that you have never achieved complete sexual satisfaction with another person. You enjoy the experience but cannot get to the end result. You fake it to please your partner, which is not wrong. Not at all.

I wish you could have your orgasms during sex with your partner. But, maybe you have some inhibitions that you may not even know. I do not really know myself of course. Just guessing. Have you tried to relax and just go with it? Maybe your man does not know how best to stimulate you sexually. Have you told him what you like and do not like? Good communication always works. Find out what works for you and use it to your advantage.

I am a guy myself, but do not think you are a bad person for faking it. You say that you want to please your man, so that is good to me. That means that you are a good person who only wants what is good for her man.

Thank you for sharing.

Jon C.

Looking0100 55M

5/12/2006 2:40 am


Please do not take offense.

Would you care to share with us how you masturbate and what you use? What do you do to achieve an orgasm? I am interested in knowing and would be greatful for anything you can give us.

Jon C.

rm_jd29992z 55M
3888 posts
5/14/2006 9:30 pm

Well I don't know if you are with the same guy all the time but lets say you are with a guy you really like and he really likes you if I was that guy I would think it was cool if we sat dow and you told me about your dilemma. Now maybe you should masturbate with him there with you and show him your technique show him how you touch yourself ad do what it takes to please yourself. It might take a few times, have him try it and talk him through it maye using his hands or toys or what ever (like I said earlier I don't know all your situation). Have fun with it who knows it may be the start of something big. If it was me I would love the experience and if I really liked you I would feel good about this. But I know some guys are like, "Oh I am the king of orgasm." well one again what ever! Well good luck don;t feel bad just feel good it is all that really counts see you JD

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