Thinking Positive  

fancy_for_you 41F
3003 posts
5/25/2006 4:47 pm

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5/26/2006 7:19 pm

Thinking Positive

After talking to several friends since yesterday's post I have come to the conclusion that for once it's time to think of me and distance myself from my family stuff. With that said I had a longgggggggg talk with my friend OC this morning and then an even longer talk with my therapist today.

My therapist says also I need to remove myself from this situation and to surround myself with positive things. Infact my therapist says even though I am scared to death of falling on my face I need to take a risk and possibly move away from here. He says I could handle moving better than I could the family stuff anyways. Gee does he know me or what.

Now all the people who have taken the time to get to know me through the group FTLS knows after my visit to Illinois I would love to move up there. Well I have been thinking on that alot. And while I may not move up there immediately I am going to work on things here at my home and try to find a way to come to Illinois more often.

I have reached the decision that my 34 yr old brother has to take care of himself. All I can do is finally be there when he WANTS to get his life cleaned up. Until then it's not right to put my life on hold to worry about him all the time. And from now on sure I will get upset once in a while about it who wouldn't after all it's my brother....but he's on his own.

It's time for ME to be happy and positive. OC I owe you alot for our talk this morning. You may not have realized just how much of an impack you made on my way of thinking. Thank you very much.



Da_Lone_Elf 51M

5/25/2006 5:31 pm

Fuzzy I'm very glad that you have realized what you need to do for yourself. I'm glad you are taking steps to distance yourself from problems of your family. I'm very glad OC could be there for you this morning & give you the advice you so needed & deserve.

Definitely looking forward to you spending more time in IL.

** BIG HUGS **

Da Elf

ohcurious14 60M  
1684 posts
5/25/2006 7:13 pm

Fuzzy, It was a pleasure reasoning with you this morning sweetie. And yes it is time to take care of Fuzzy. Flip the auto-pilot switch on and let everything else take care of itself. Remember this, People don't realise just how much impact you make or how much you care until you are gone.

fancy_for_you 41F
3014 posts
5/25/2006 11:26 pm

Thank you both for listening to me lately. It couldn't have been easy.

HUGS to ya both.



wickedeasy 68F  
31321 posts
5/26/2006 2:43 pm

hi - i saw oh's blog and thought i might add a little hope

my brother is a coke and alchohol addict - he has been clean and sober for 15 years - there were times when he would call at 3AM and i woudl rush over - trying to save the day

but it wasn't until HE wanted to save HIMSELF that anything changed
and then - well, i don't flinch when i see his name on caller ID anymore, and he's a damn fine dad and a great son to my Mom and the brother i always knew was hiding in there somewhere

be strong - don't cave - this is his to do and you can only bear witness and love him

sending you healing purple light


You cannot conceive the many without the one.

luv2lik_snatch 55M
100 posts
5/26/2006 6:13 pm

I'm glad to hear, you decided to take your life back. You need to live for you, not everybody else.

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