I finally did it.  

fancy_for_you 41F
3003 posts
7/18/2006 4:47 am

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8/10/2006 9:01 pm

I finally did it.

I finally did it. I canceled my eharmony subscription. After a year on there I had to give it up. I have to say their 29 deminsions of compatibilty hit the nail on the head with me. And they matched me with several people. Just none of them ever seemed to pan out.

Funny thing though they always matched me with devote Christians, Ministers, or Farmers. I guess it isn't to funny considering the fact that I attend church and am more of a homemaker type personality. Just I got tired of being matched with all the people who seemed perfect little Christians. I am more the Christian who isn't afraid to admit I sin and I am far from perfect....not the you're gonna go to hell for even thinking about sex outta wedlock type.

Anyways, I finally put my subscription on hold. I just am not able to afford it right now. With the new house repairs and now with these Heat waves. Between repair supplies and electric bills I am pretty much tapped out right now.

I hope to one day return to my eharmony search. Though I am not so sure I want to find Mr. Right anymore. I am begining to thing marriage is highly over rated. LOL I know typical single woman comment huh.



jimandmore 57M

7/18/2006 3:44 pm

You aren't the only one who is suspicious of marriage being overrated. I was married for 15 yrs, worked hard at it, and have figured out that I can enjoy life just as much or more being single. I have many friends, and find more all the time, have the freedom to go and do when I have the time, and I can pursue my interests to the degree that I can afford them. I think there are some great marriages, and some people need to be married because of their own personalities, but not everyone needs marriage.

Da_Lone_Elf 51M

7/18/2006 9:21 pm

Fuzzy, as 1 of those few people that marriage seems to work for I will say that No marriage is not for everyone. If you can be happy without marriage then more power to you. I will also say that if you are meant to marry & find Mr. Right you will find him when & where you least expect it and probably when you have stopped searching all together but haven't completely closed your mind to the possibility.

When I met My Maiden I remember thinking, "I hope I meet somebody at this party." Then I got to the party & thought all the people there were already in a relationship or marriage even and put the whole thing out of my mind. I was sure I wasn't going to meet anybody, so I just relaxed to enjoy the party. The rest is a different story.

*Hugs & Kisses*
Da Elf

TrueSoulSharer2 52M

7/30/2006 7:12 am

Wow, I'd love to hear about that date with a minister! Your perfect mate will probably be a man who is grown up enough to know that:
He is the Boss- and you make all the decisions! Lol, I'd pick a good spiritual person over a devote christian any day. Good luck sweetie

rm_TalkAndTouch 56M
4 posts
8/9/2006 12:38 am

eHarmony is a nice concept, sort of like a matchmaker. It sort of looks like you would get to fall in love with the inner-person, without ever having seen the packaging.

Like, I remember knowing a girl when she was 17, then talked with her, again when she was 26. After having her daughter, then putting on about 50% more bodyweight, I found her just as appealing as I did when she was 17. I saw her with my heart, much more than with my eyes.

I tried eHarmony when they had a database of 500,000, then again when they had 1.5-million. Both times, I only got 2 contacts. Of course, they will send you several e-mails, now, saying there are new contacts waiting to meet you [marketing], unless you turn off your matching option.

The only women I've ever gotten close to are those I've met, in person. My last GF, I met at the Northpark Mall. I knew her business partner's husband & happened to see him there, so I went over to see his wife's nail-kiosk.

Stepping out of my comfort zone, I asked the other lady, if there was anything a manly-man could get. I got a hand massage & manicure. She said if I was going to sit there, I had to talk. So, I just told her what I saw in front of me, curly hair, tender smile, eyes that brighten the day of all those that see her.

There is a ton more comfort, being online. But real life contacts really rattle a ton of butterflies in your stomach, making such encounters a lot more intense.

When the new wears off, as you're well aware, what you have left is your friendship, kept healthy by those willful actions that show you care. Like the song, "Love is not a feeling, it's a act of your will."

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