To Live or Waste a Life  

eternal1969 48M
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5/16/2006 9:04 pm

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6/19/2006 4:53 am

To Live or Waste a Life

Was reading poison_syrup post on people who know how to love, will loathe to waste a life.

I thought it really summed up a person's purpose in life.

Had dinner last night with 2 old friends from my Uni days and we were musing on the good old days. One has been married for a couple of years and the other still a swinging bachelor. They are both successful players in their respective industries and fairly well known amongst their peers.

Somehow the topic came around to missed opportunities and near relationships. As usual, we tickled our single friend on his unwillingness to commit to a relationship even though his queue of lady suitors stretched to JB.

Whilst his professional life has been an organised and efficient affair, i cannot agree on his personal social life. Professionally, he makes clean snap decisions on elaborate business deals and messy restructuring issues, yet he stays in perpectual limbo over his love life.

He has a love of his life and had been deeply infactuated with her for the past 8 years. Only problem is that for the past 13 years, she has been seeing someone else. To all of us, it was beyond obvious that she was leaning on him as an emotional support.

While we were reflecting on all the women who had wanted to be part of his life over the years, the sense of waste kept building up. We joked that most of the ladies probably thought that he was gay since he was capable of rejecting the seduction of love and sex from some of the most desirable women we've ever known.

But at the end of the day, until he clears his heart, I guess he will continue to waste his life and I loathe to know that its beyond me to help him.

rm_saintlianna 46F
15466 posts
5/16/2006 10:10 pm

You cant help everybody...... I missed seeing you

poison_syrup 44F
8533 posts
5/16/2006 10:55 pm

I do have friends like yours. Successful in their own field of business but when matters of the heart is concern, they are totally lost! Maybe your friend need to take a longer route/time for him to realise what he really want in his personal life.

For those who had loved and lost in the past, most will come to the understanding that there is no way we can turn back the clock and the only remedy is to treasure what you have at present and live everyday to the fullest.

Angel Of Sins

happyladychat 49F
3740 posts
5/17/2006 2:37 am

Remember the post you have written just before this... commenting on focusing on the journey... not just looking at destination. I think it's the same for your friend. The love in his life must be someone special... that's why he couldn't get over her.

I don't think he is wasting his life... this is the thought of a very logical person, but with love.... logic doesn't work. Your friend is great to still believe in LOVE so much that he wouldn't let it go.

Sometimes... if a person disillusioned himself and moved aimlessly on (e.g. courting someone else)... he may just end up making a grave mistake.

MOOD: sentimental

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eternal1969 48M
1634 posts
5/17/2006 8:28 pm

Saint... I was lost for a while but I missed you too If you do come to the Far East, do look me up

Poison... I hope so too, anyway he's now working in KL, maybe he'll find some light there...

Happy.... A true journey is when 2 people travel together, be it a bumpy ride or not. But when the passenger only gets onboard at her whim and fancy, I'll say she's more of a hitchhiker than a companion

happyladychat 49F
3740 posts
5/18/2006 7:13 am

But hey... everyone has their choices. If your friend is happy with a hitchhiker... I think you shouldn't get too upset over it.

Know you're just being a true friend, but sometimes, we can't force our believes on others. No hard feelings, ok?


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rm_Kissmystuff 62F
1435 posts
5/24/2006 9:38 am

The concern you have for your friend is understandable. We all want to see our friends thrive in life. And do have to let go of the old order to make room for the new. But this is something your friend has to come to realize for himself..not just mentally..but emotionally as well. In the meantime..the best you can do is let him know you're there for him.



georgina666 37F

5/28/2006 7:44 am

is this the guy you tried to match make me with?

eternal1969 48M
1634 posts
5/28/2006 7:54 pm

George... Hehe yup yup

saddletrampsk 55F

5/28/2006 8:51 pm

So sad for your friend..

Honeydewy 41F  
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6/13/2006 11:48 pm

Hey,.. i wouldn't mind being all dopey and in-crush (maybe love) again,.. at least that friend can feel something.

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eternal1969 48M
1634 posts
6/19/2006 4:52 am

    Quoting Honeydewy:
    Hey,.. i wouldn't mind being all dopey and in-crush (maybe love) again,.. at least that friend can feel something.
I do wonder if he really is still all dopey but I do agree thats its good to feel something so that we feel alive.

eternal1969 48M
1634 posts
6/19/2006 4:53 am

He'll be based in the mid-west of the US by the later part of this year, maybe you want to help me take care of him ?

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